Asian Mums are more SUPERIOR?

[Chenonceau]

I read the book. I laughed and cried.


Here is what I think...
http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2011/01/my-thoughts-on-amy-chua-tiger-mother.html

[toddles]

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Well said, Lock. You are your children's mother. There is no need to compare parenting methods. What works in one family may not work in others. It is just that dynamic.

For me, devoting as much time to my elderly parents is just as important. There are so many other areas I need to be involved in so I can't possibly be revolving my life only around my children.

Some mums are indeed extraordinary :lol: . I salute them.

I am proud to be an ordinary mum and contented to hear these words uttered each school day. \"Mum, I am home!\"

Yes that is true. The look and smile on my daughter's face every time she sees me, even after a brief separation is enough to tell me that I must be doing something right (okay she's not in pri sch yet so all that might soon change).

We need not be beholden to anyone in the way we bring up our kids (unless it borders on criminal behaviour la) and each parent has their own beliefs, values and convictions to impart and guide their own parenting journey - there is no one right way for all.

[toddles]

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Thanks for your sharing. I agree with your disciplinary method. Whenever we have meals as a family in a restaurant, I make sure my girls know their etiquette. However, I struggled when we are out with friends with kids during mealtimes. I hate to see my kids running around (usually outside the restaurant, within sight) with my friends' kids. These are kids they meet weekly after church services so they sort of grew up together. I used to stop my own kids from doing so but ended up conforming because their parents saw me as a stick in the mud, inability of having fun etc. I didn't want to argue my point and spoil others' appetites. Once, I saw my girl performing an unladylike act, because she followed one of the older girls. I reprimanded my dd there and then in front of the other kids, hoping that I'll get my message across to the other kids too. I can't offend my friends for scolding their children directly. One of my friend's daughters realised her mistake and apologised because she was the one who led her to the disgraceful act. Since then, no more of such nonsense but I also lost my popularity. Parenting is a hardwork but sometimes, we have to learn to apply different styles creatively. In this case, it was not something pleasant but at least it worked.

I guess it also depends on the severity of the situation.

Some parents are complete pushovers and their kids need to be taught a lesson. If I am close enough to the parent, and witness unacceptable behaviour (e.g. hitting a parent without remorse and the parent is embarassed but has no clue how to discipline the child) I will try to summon up enough courage as my friend did, to speak very sternly to the child and say in my home (if it's my home) hitting is a time-out offence and off to the time out corner you go.

[Lock]

Chenonceau:

I read the book. I laughed and cried.


Here is what I think...
http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2011/01/my-thoughts-on-amy-chua-tiger-mother.html

That's a great blogpost.

[csc]

Just sharing a quotation I read and a reminder for us.


\"It is possible to store the mind with a million facts and still be entirely uneducated.\" - Alec Bourne

I still think it is easier to reiterate facts from a Textbook than to engage intelligently and meaningfully in a conversation with someone. And it is not merely for social purpose.

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toddles:

I guess it also depends on the severity of the situation.

Some parents are complete pushovers and their kids need to be taught a lesson. If I am close enough to the parent, and witness unacceptable behaviour (e.g. hitting a parent without remorse and the parent is embarassed but has no clue how to discipline the child) I will try to summon up enough courage as my friend did, to speak very sternly to the child and say in my home (if it's my home) hitting is a time-out offence and off to the time out corner you go.

My friends' kids are all girls so they are not so violent or rude. However, I will mention to their mothers if I saw any inappropriate behaviour. One mother is \"Western\" mother so you know the rest lah...Oops. Counselling, mollycoddling and all...but for years, she faces the same problem with her daughter's social relationship issues and she will find excuses for her.

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Lock:

Chenonceau:

I read the book. I laughed and cried.


Here is what I think...
http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2011/01/my-thoughts-on-amy-chua-tiger-mother.html

That's a great blogpost.

Thanks for your inpiring post, Chenonceau. I've just ordered the book. Hope to read it soon. So exciting.

[Lock]

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Lock:

[quote=\"Chenonceau\"]I read the book. I laughed and cried.


Here is what I think...
http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2011/01/my-thoughts-on-amy-chua-tiger-mother.html

That's a great blogpost.

Thanks for your inpiring post, Chenonceau. I've just ordered the book. Hope to read it soon. So exciting. [/quote]I can't wait to get my hands on the book. Is it sold in local bookstore?

[kohhweelin.010441gmail.010441com]

Lock:

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[quote=\"Lock\"]
That's a great blogpost.

Thanks for your inpiring post, Chenonceau. I've just ordered the book. Hope to read it soon. So exciting.

I can't wait to get my hands on the book. Is it sold in local bookstore?[/quote]Can't find it at Popular. I ordered from Kinokuniya cos I used to order from them - home delivery. You might want to check whether there's stock for you to pick up from the store directly. I believe there could be cheaper options from other online websites too.

Just received email from kino- no stock.

[phankao]

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Lock:

[quote=\"E3\"]
Thanks for your inpiring post, Chenonceau. I've just ordered the book. Hope to read it soon. So exciting.

I can't wait to get my hands on the book. Is it sold in local bookstore?

Can't find it at Popular. I ordered from Kinokuniya cos I used to order from them - home delivery. You might want to check whether there's stock for you to pick up from the store directly. I believe there could be cheaper options from other online websites too.

Just received email from kino- no stock. :([/quote]From Borders.