In-law problems?
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Yong HL:
I think as far as possible you have to build up the bond with your kid....
i am working my way to slowly wean her off from going IL place stay overnite. Hopefully will succeed by the time she reaches P2... wish me luck!janet_lee88:
Fortunately your hubby is on your side and supports your decision.
Can be quite a headache having to finish up homework and dinner at home b4 going over. Sorry for saying this, but it will be tougher as she goes up...more homework then.
many of my friends whose parents only 'took them back' at P1 still have resentment till this day...
So whilst it's nice that she's close the grandma who loves her a lot, it's impt to build up the parent-child rlp before it's too late. cos there are a lot of areas where you'll have to guide her, esp before the teenage years... -
janet_lee88:
Of course the sticky situations can be avoided if either side can handle their own parents. My hubby isn't able to handle his mother...bcos he doesn't see the 2 sides of her. So he will never understand when I tell him. I can tell my mum she is long-winded but he dare not tell his.[/quote]My mil will just break down into tears if my DH is to raise his voice. My sil too just break into tears when talking to me....as if I bully herMrs Ang:
[quote=\"DingDongBell\"]Also, each spouse should handle their own parents. i.e. I handle my parents, my wife handle hers.
This is the best if both parties know how to handle their own parents. My DH didn't handle his mother well which lead to the current condition.
After the incident, we never talk to each other.
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buds, your pil final home destination is not settled yet?
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I think, maybe about a hundred or two pages back, I did write somewhere that in the 1st year of our marriage, MIL still buys underwear, handkerchieves and socks for DH. And she will call him in the morning to remind him to brush his teeth.
After so many years, I tend laugh rather then get irritated by all these little idiosyncrasis of my ILs. Well it makes it all the sweeter when I get to chochok DH with all these. :laugh:
Come to think of it, I never notice his mum actually having any form of endearment for his Dad, it is usually 'Oi'. After seeing that Dear Dear msg, I asked DH if your mum calls you that, how does she address your Dad during, you know, their tender moments? DH looked at me like I have grown 2 heads and told me nope, not going to go there. Don't want to know. :lol: -
Hi,
Just want to share my bit abt my mil. My mil stays together with us. Whenever we have conflicts, she never fails to remind me that her son can change his wife but she will always be his ONE & ONLY MOTHER. -
auntieM:
OMG, my hair is standing. :!:I can hardly remain sane after 10 minutes of my MIL's \"Hello darling.. \"....
How to tahan talking.. ... -
janet_lee88:
He..hee ..me in naughty mood..
OMG, my hair is standing. :!:auntieM:
I can hardly remain sane after 10 minutes of my MIL's \"Hello darling.. \"....
How to tahan talking.. ...
Then again I think I use salah word.. should rephrase 'talking' to 'drama-ing'
Today's posts on ILs really :rotflmao: -
toddles:
I think as far as possible you have to build up the bond with your kid....
i am working my way to slowly wean her off from going IL place stay overnite. Hopefully will succeed by the time she reaches P2... wish me luck!Yong HL:
[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]Fortunately your hubby is on your side and supports your decision.
Can be quite a headache having to finish up homework and dinner at home b4 going over. Sorry for saying this, but it will be tougher as she goes up...more homework then.
many of my friends whose parents only 'took them back' at P1 still have resentment till this day...[/quote]I couldn't agree more with this.
My maternal grandparents looked after my brother when he was a bb till about 3 as my mum couldn't handle 2 kids then. Every weekend, my brother would come back and my father couldn't take the noise with 2 of us around. Even now, there isn't much bonding nor closeness with him. It's very sad. -
Mrs Ang:
My mil will just break down into tears if my DH is to raise his voice. My sil too just break into tears when talking to me....as if I bully her
Of course the sticky situations can be avoided if either side can handle their own parents. My hubby isn't able to handle his mother...bcos he doesn't see the 2 sides of her. So he will never understand when I tell him. I can tell my mum she is long-winded but he dare not tell his.janet_lee88:
[quote=\"Mrs Ang\"]
This is the best if both parties know how to handle their own parents. My DH didn't handle his mother well which lead to the current condition. After the incident, we never talk to each other.[/quote]I'm waiting to give that hubby's sister a piece of my mind for calling me names when I keep arms length from her all these years. Fortunately hubby knows about it but doesn't dare to tell her off. Same goes for his mother bcos there will be lots of 'water shed'. I always tell hubby that he is a 'softie', which is why his mother and sister always bullies him.
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Funz:
in the 1st year of our marriage, MIL still buys underwear, handkerchieves and socks for DH. And she will call him in the morning to remind him to brush his teeth.
OMG :rotflmao:
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