Asian Mums are more SUPERIOR?
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I am a mother of three. Two sons and just delivered a daughter. Each one of them have different abilities and character. Just like everyone.
Every parent have their own expectations,beliefs, goals, etc in the upbringing of their children. We should never be judgmental about any parent because as parents ourselves, we do all we can to give our children the best we can provide.
There can never be a perfect set of parenting style, unless everyone are born with the same intelligence, wisdom, physic…etc so there can be no right or wrong answers.
Other than parenting our children, there are the environment and the social factors that can determine the ‘success’ of any child or anyone. Success is all defined differently by everyone, so it all depends on your objectives.
What we really should focus on and we tend to forget is to enjoy the moments and the activities with our children. Will they remember how hard you train them to play the piano or how much they enjoyed playing the piano with you encouraging them and praising them along the way?
Before we know it they will start working and start having their own family and when we’re old, they will not allow us to go to the toilet, watch TV, sleep in the maid’s room, keep quiet…worse is to put us in a ‘child care centre’ (as in old folks home)…etc
My biggest fear is not whether my children will succeed in life (of course I make sure their grades are on the right track) but whether they will grow up enjoying their childhood and enjoying being with me and sharing their life with me until they get married.
So lets just enjoy, watch and guide as our children grow up, make mistakes and start their own family.
Mamalicious Alicia -
Research study weighing in on Tiger Mother...
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-inner-bonobo/201101/does-the-tigress-mother-work-new-study-kids-and-self-control -
insider:
She looks very young... Wonder how old is she now? I read her book, but lost track of her current age...This is quite a funny interview of Amy Chua：
PS2: Small kpo observation here is that she seems like been through some plastic surgery...
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Happy Mama:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amy_Chua.
She looks very young... Wonder how old is she now? I read her book, but lost track of her current age...insider:
This is quite a funny interview of Amy Chua：
PS2: Small kpo observation here is that she seems like been through some plastic surgery...
She'll be 49 this year.
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E3:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amy_Chua.
She looks very young... Wonder how old is she now? I read her book, but lost track of her current age...Happy Mama:
[quote=\"insider\"]This is quite a funny interview of Amy Chua：
PS2: Small kpo observation here is that she seems like been through some plastic surgery...
She'll be 49 this year. :D[/quote]Wow, she looks really young for her age. Thanks, E3. -
If you want to nuture another Bill Gate, can try reading this book,
Outliers: The Story of Success
written by Malcolm Gladwell
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Outliers_%28book%29 -
hquek:
Having a degree is not the same as having intelligence! With hardwork and determination, it's not difficult to get a degree. Also, those without a degree are not neccessarily people who does not qualify or could not get into a university. To some, it's a matter of CHOICE.
In that I beg to differ, having a degree is just a way of opening doors. Some people who have very good results are not able to perform well in work. So having a degree may not guarantee one a good life - though it'll make things easier.tamarind:
Actually, in Singapore, so long as you have a degree or a diploma, you can live quite comfortably. There is no need to get perfect scores in order to own a car, employ a maid, and go on overseas trips every year
I've seen many pp with diplomas (or even less) who are doing super well. Then again, these pp are already working and in/past their prime, perhaps in THOSE days, it's doable. -
Just came back to this track out of curiosity and chanced upon the HK mum… Wondering if she knows what will happen to the 10 year olds once they hit puberty. With that kind of punishing routine, has she ever considered burnouts and injury, even if the twins are enjoying it?
Having spoken to experts like Bill Sweetenham and others, I’m pretty certain that kind of training pre-teen will most definitely cause burnouts. For the sake of what har? Age group champions like Singaporeans produce and never an Olympic medalist? Glory for mum or children, or glory at the stake of everything?
I watch kids so small in size doing punishing routines and slip in a discussion with the China coach who told me she knows that 内伤 is inevitable giving this kind of routine at this age. But she laments that if she does not do it, the parents will jump ship to another club, where they will. She might as well do it. In China, she told me, they are not allowed to train at this pace until the kid is older…
So some are risk takers, some are risk averse. For me, I’d rather be safe than sorry when it comes to the kids. If my son is lucky enough to land a spot in the national team (which he has been), then it is meant to be. If not, perhaps next year. Why push it? -
Fairy:
Having a degree is not the same as having intelligence! With hardwork and determination, it's not difficult to get a degree. Also, those without a degree are not neccessarily people who does not qualify or could not get into a university. To some, it's a matter of CHOICE.[/quote]That's so true. I remember some of my tutorial mates from University could barely string two sentences together and never understood what the tutor was saying. It made me wonder how they made it to Uni. Must have been through sheer hard work and memory work.
In that I beg to differ, having a degree is just a way of opening doors. Some people who have very good results are not able to perform well in work. So having a degree may not guarantee one a good life - though it'll make things easier.hquek:
[quote=\"tamarind\"]
Actually, in Singapore, so long as you have a degree or a diploma, you can live quite comfortably. There is no need to get perfect scores in order to own a car, employ a maid, and go on overseas trips every year
I've seen many pp with diplomas (or even less) who are doing super well. Then again, these pp are already working and in/past their prime, perhaps in THOSE days, it's doable. -
2ppaamm:
Hi 2ppammm,Just came back to this track out of curiosity and chanced upon the HK mum... Wondering if she knows what will happen to the 10 year olds once they hit puberty. With that kind of punishing routine, has she ever considered burnouts and injury, even if the twins are enjoying it?
Having spoken to experts like Bill Sweetenham and others, I'm pretty certain that kind of training pre-teen will most definitely cause burnouts. For the sake of what har? Age group champions like Singaporeans produce and never an Olympic medalist? Glory for mum or children, or glory at the stake of everything?
I watch kids so small in size doing punishing routines and slip in a discussion with the China coach who told me she knows that 内伤 is inevitable giving this kind of routine at this age. But she laments that if she does not do it, the parents will jump ship to another club, where they will. She might as well do it. In China, she told me, they are not allowed to train at this pace until the kid is older...
So some are risk takers, some are risk averse. For me, I'd rather be safe than sorry when it comes to the kids. If my son is lucky enough to land a spot in the national team (which he has been), then it is meant to be. If not, perhaps next year. Why push it?
I always had the impression that they train the kids in China much harder and at a younger age. I was watching a documentary where kids as young as 5 were sent away to sports schools to train daily for long hours with the aim of becoming Olympic champions. It was heartbreaking to see 'babies' being taken away from their parents and training hard for hours. Those who didn't meet the mark were sent home in disgrace.
What sort of internal injuries do the kids risk getting? That's terrible as I have friends who push their kids very hard at sports too.
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