In-law problems?

[DesertWind]

jtoh:

Omg! What's wrong with her?!? Don't buy, not happy. Buy, not happy.

Hi jtoh,

This is \"aunty politics\". If you are an aunty you will understand (no offense meant). Sometimes when I relate certain incidences to my mother, she will say I am really stupid dunno how to read below the surface and respond correctly. My mother can understand a mile away.

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

Hi Yong HL,

Same here. I only talk if I have to...stick to safe topics like weather and [b]children in school [/b]and she doesn't irritate me. She gets on my nerves when hubby is out of sight and turns angelic when he walks in.

hehe, janet_lee88, children in school is not a safe topic for me. In MIL's eyes, I'm a bad mother coz I didn't research on playschools when on confinement, did not spend tons of money and time bringing my kids to enrichment programme, Shichida etc....don't get me wrong, I'm not against these...in fact, I like knowing more about them. But I also want my kids to have a childhood so I bring them out for experiential stuff.

[janet88]

Andaiz:

janet_lee88:

Hi Yong HL,

Same here. I only talk if I have to...stick to safe topics like weather and [b]children in school [/b]and she doesn't irritate me. She gets on my nerves when hubby is out of sight and turns angelic when he walks in.

hehe, janet_lee88, children in school is not a safe topic for me. In MIL's eyes, I'm a bad mother coz I didn't research on playschools when on confinement, did not spend tons of money and time bringing my kids to enrichment programme, Shichida etc....don't get me wrong, I'm not against these...in fact, I like knowing more about them. But I also want my kids to have a childhood so I bring them out for experiential stuff.

Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

I just smile like a moron and shut my trap!

Cos if I were to say \"wha, then you take care...\" is like opening a pandora's box and all those past issues would surface again!

[janet88]

Andaiz:

janet_lee88:

Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

Looks like you don't need to face relatives for the same old questions...even your immediate relative won't let you go. :stupid: It's not just the men don't get it, but the MILs won't ever get it either.

[BlueBells]

Andaiz:

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

I just smile like a moron and shut my trap!

Cos if I were to say \"wha, then you take care...\" is like opening a pandora's box and all those past issues would surface again!

I receive this alot too, because I also only have girls. My usual response? \"Ask my hubby loh. It's he who doesn't want another one, not me.\" Then my hubby has to handle all the remaining questions. hahaha

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

Andaiz:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

Looks like you don't need to face relatives for the same old questions...even your immediate relative won't let you go. :stupid: It's not just the men don't get it, but the MILs won't ever get it either.[/quote]Nawwww.... THIS MIL doesn't want to get it :love: .
She's a trained nurse to boot so should know that it's the sperms that determine the gender :? aka.....HER son :roll: ! but she \"gian\" until very \"cham\" so my take is that logic flew out of the door :love: . heehee, get it?

[buds]

I geddit! :idea:


Andaiz sista... does that count? :please:

I like the part u wrote...

\"have another one\"... READ : have a SON!

Yeeeaah, some MILs just don't wanna geddit, huh? :roll:

And... thank goodness, i dun geddat animore too. :lol:

[Andaiz]

buds:

I geddit! :idea:


Andaiz sista... does that count? :please:

I like the part u wrote...

\"have another one\"... READ : have a SON!

Yeeeaah, some MILs just don't wanna geddit, huh? :roll:

And... thank goodness, i dun geddat animore too. :lol:

Congratulations, buds jie, at the birth of your child...aiyah, boy or girl, so long as OURS, we are happy. No sour grapes intended leh!

[janet88]

Hi Andaiz,

Yours is a TRAINED nurse and yet seemed to forget the logic that the MEN provide the X chromosome to have a SON. Her logic and training seemed to be thrown out of the window in her desperate attempt to have a grandson.