In-law problems?

[Yong HL]

Mrs Ang:

Yong HL:

[quote=\"Mrs Ang\"]My mil will just break down into tears if my DH is to raise his voice. My sil too just break into tears when talking to me....as if I bully her After the incident, we never talk to each other.

Never talk? then how do you handle visitation on occassions like CNY? sigh.. tmrw CNY eve liao. the thot of seeing mil really make me :roll:

Just seat there and keep quiet

I have decided to try to forget what mil has done and treat her slightly better starting from CNY eve. Then mil makes me boiled on 3rd day of CNY :x This is the result of treating a person nicer!!!![/quote]My CNY eve went better than i thought. Good start for a new year. we just talked about really weather stuff. I am going to stick to my principle - Talk only when necessary.

[janet88]

Hi Yong HL,

Same here. I only talk if I have to...stick to safe topics like weather and children in school and she doesn't irritate me. She gets on my nerves when hubby is out of sight and turns angelic when he walks in.

[DesertWind]

jtoh:

Omg! What's wrong with her?!? Don't buy, not happy. Buy, not happy.

Hi jtoh,

This is \"aunty politics\". If you are an aunty you will understand (no offense meant). Sometimes when I relate certain incidences to my mother, she will say I am really stupid dunno how to read below the surface and respond correctly. My mother can understand a mile away.

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

Hi Yong HL,

Same here. I only talk if I have to...stick to safe topics like weather and [b]children in school [/b]and she doesn't irritate me. She gets on my nerves when hubby is out of sight and turns angelic when he walks in.

hehe, janet_lee88, children in school is not a safe topic for me. In MIL's eyes, I'm a bad mother coz I didn't research on playschools when on confinement, did not spend tons of money and time bringing my kids to enrichment programme, Shichida etc....don't get me wrong, I'm not against these...in fact, I like knowing more about them. But I also want my kids to have a childhood so I bring them out for experiential stuff.

[janet88]

Andaiz:

janet_lee88:

Hi Yong HL,

Same here. I only talk if I have to...stick to safe topics like weather and [b]children in school [/b]and she doesn't irritate me. She gets on my nerves when hubby is out of sight and turns angelic when he walks in.

hehe, janet_lee88, children in school is not a safe topic for me. In MIL's eyes, I'm a bad mother coz I didn't research on playschools when on confinement, did not spend tons of money and time bringing my kids to enrichment programme, Shichida etc....don't get me wrong, I'm not against these...in fact, I like knowing more about them. But I also want my kids to have a childhood so I bring them out for experiential stuff.

Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

I just smile like a moron and shut my trap!

Cos if I were to say \"wha, then you take care...\" is like opening a pandora's box and all those past issues would surface again!

[janet88]

Andaiz:

janet_lee88:

Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

Looks like you don't need to face relatives for the same old questions...even your immediate relative won't let you go. :stupid: It's not just the men don't get it, but the MILs won't ever get it either.

[BlueBells]

Andaiz:

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

I just smile like a moron and shut my trap!

Cos if I were to say \"wha, then you take care...\" is like opening a pandora's box and all those past issues would surface again!

I receive this alot too, because I also only have girls. My usual response? \"Ask my hubby loh. It's he who doesn't want another one, not me.\" Then my hubby has to handle all the remaining questions. hahaha

[Andaiz]

janet_lee88:

Andaiz:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]Your MIL is a modern one and aware of all these stuff on Shichida...mine doesn't. But, if I mention enrichment lessons to her, the only thing in her brain is I'm stupid and don't know how to teach, so I'M SPENDING HER SON'S MONEY :stupid: When I talk to her about children's education, it is about the kids' schools which is BORING to her and SAFE FOR ME.

I agree with you...she's more modern than most on a lot of topic...but very traditional cos we have 3 PRINCESSES and just CNY first day, she asked me to \"have another one\" read....have a SON!

Looks like you don't need to face relatives for the same old questions...even your immediate relative won't let you go. :stupid: It's not just the men don't get it, but the MILs won't ever get it either.[/quote]Nawwww.... THIS MIL doesn't want to get it :love: .
She's a trained nurse to boot so should know that it's the sperms that determine the gender :? aka.....HER son :roll: ! but she \"gian\" until very \"cham\" so my take is that logic flew out of the door :love: . heehee, get it?

[buds]

I geddit! :idea:


Andaiz sista... does that count? :please:

I like the part u wrote...

\"have another one\"... READ : have a SON!

Yeeeaah, some MILs just don't wanna geddit, huh? :roll:

And... thank goodness, i dun geddat animore too. :lol: