All About Full-Time Maids
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hquek:
Thanks so much! Hv already reminded her of her motives for coming to Singapore to work. So far, she has been doing her work diligently and her attitude still good. I think that she was influenced by the other maids at my relative's place where we stayed for a while... the maids there are horrible, they can yell and chat from the back of the house to another house a few houses away, signal to each other that can telephone, etc. Yes, will try to motivate her in subtle ways as you suggested. Will also check out the electronic lock though don't know whether feasible for HDB.
One, I cannot believe that only 4 months she can be so yahyah already. Sorry, I'm being evil, but if you don't intend to keep her, once her loan end - just send her back immediately. Don't let her transfer.KSmom8:
When questioned on why she left the home with the doors open, she coolly said that she was only standing at the stairs for a while :x, refused to admit what else she was doing. This comes after she \"under-declared\" her hongbao money... though I subsequently found a used phonecard and $10 cash on her... at least another $30 to $50 still unaccounted.... she still claims that she had lost it and does not know the amount cos she didn't open the hongbaos
She also insists that the phonecard was given to her by another maid. Now, her actions make me so suspicious that she has done more than just \"under-declared\" her hongbaos. Very defiant and unrependant, she only apologised after I scolded her and made her admit that she was at fault. Am already wary and have advised all in the family to keep watch over their cash and valuables.
Heard that more expensive (salary and agency fees) to employ maids now. What is the situation now?
Am keeping my options open, just in case, can't trust this maid though she has been a good worker for the past 4 months. She still claims that she wants to continue to work, but am quite convinced that she is a habitual liar... In the meantime, am changing my routine and keeping her in the dark about it.
Yes, don't ever let her catch on what your routine is - element of surprise is always good.
Two, I think you got to think of backup plan. What is your maid's motive to come to SG to work? for her family? If so, maybe remind her constantly in subtle ways. Talk about her family and how wonderful when its time to return and how much she can do with the money she's earned. I like to feed my maids stories about those maids who went back to buy land, build house etc - keep their focus on their goal. A bit boh liao, but I can't think of anything else.
At my fren's place, the door is electronic lock - no key. Maid does not hold the key and she has no clue what the combination is. She can go out (escape in times of emergency) but there's no way to come back in. During night times, they can activate some alarm so if the door was opened (even legitimately), the alarm will ring very loud. Not sure if this will help.
Just bought her some pants and asked her to wear these for work and keep the cargo bermudas with lots of pockets (my son's old shorts) for going out ... could not find those without pockets but realised that I can see a bulge if she is carrying things in her pocket.
Actually her actions just reminded me that we can't trust maids, sadly. During the recent springcleaning, found a stack of phonecards that belonged to my most \"obedient\" Fili maid and a \"love\" letter from a 60+ year old American man! Only goes to show that you really can't tell their true character. For my current maid, I'm sort of relieved that I know her character early ... though I am still so disappointed cos she is better at handling the kids than my previous Fili maid and had been doing a lot of housework without showing me a black face. Will be monitoring her... for now, will try to keep her unless cannot tahan anymore. -
fayeV:
I would suggest ex other countries except for HKG, SIN,TW, M'sia because they are too wise.Thanks everyone. Appreciate your kind responses...
I just told my DH my plan to change her, we got insurance on the bond so no worries of losing money there.
As for the loan, yes, we have 1 more month to go. just checked, alot of Indo maids are running away and trying to get rehired for higher pay! peapot, you are right, hard to get good ones, my mum says they are mostly the same, all liers. - its a good thing my mum stays with me so at least we have someone there most of the time. I will start looking for a replacement. If i were to go back to the same agency, I can request for someone new, not ex singapore? -
KSmom8, if my maid is 70% I will try to keep her because now changing maid is so different from the past. We have maid crunch now and demand is huge. Salary going up. So unless its really drastic if not just have to close one eye. That’s my suggestion for you too.
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faye, you can request for new ones but now its seems the agent in Indonesian is taking their own sweet time to release the bio-data to Singapore’s agent.
My friend has been trying to change her maid but there was no bio-data for her to select. Quite discouraging.
Good for you to have someone at home. I m really a "lone ranger" at home. -
peapot:
why not use the agents who have their own recruitment office in Indon ? they can email bio-data and arrange for video-link before you decide....?faye, you can request for new ones but now its seems the agent in Indonesian is taking their own sweet time to release the bio-data to Singapore's agent.
My friend has been trying to change her maid but there was no bio-data for her to select. Quite discouraging.
Good for you to have someone at home. I m really a \"lone ranger\" at home. -
peapot:
KSmom8, if my maid is 70% I will try to keep her because now changing maid is so different from the past. We have maid crunch now and demand is huge. Salary going up. So unless its really drastic if not just have to close one eye. That's my suggestion for you too.
I agree. I will keep her as long as I can close one eye or even both eyes, but if cannot tolerate, then it's time for a change. It's also stressful changing maids and training them all over again.
Since I'm at home most of the time, and don't leave the kids alone with the maid, I think it's still okay to keep her.
Now you know why I'd rather quit work and be a SAHM (which I feel is tougher than working)... I just can't bring myself to leave the kids in the care of a maid. Just can't trust them and wont take the risk. -
KSmom8:
I'm not quite sure where this is what I obtain from my maid agent. Seem like now can't find low or $0 agency fee, free unlimited maid replacement & 0% interest instalment plan for the maid loan!
Thanks for the info.titank:
Hi All,
Just went maid agencies shopping around. Heard that now for new Tagalog & Indon Maids their starting salary would be $400 without off days, $380 with off days. These would be fresh new maid. Agency fees would depend which can range from $299 onwards.
Another information is that it may come very soon that maid loan would be reduce to 2 months where the agency fee would shot up rocket high. Those who intend to get new maid better act fast. :celebrate:
Is the reason for reducing the maid's loan to 2 months and transferring the remainder to the employer due to requirement from the Indonesian or Phillipines government? -
my 2mth old mynamar maid is getting better, & have much much more initiative, AFTER hubby had a LONG & serious talk with her, telling her what we didn’t like about her work & asked her+reminded her why she want to come here to work…& told her, if she doesn’t improve, we will send her back to agent/if she’s not happy, after what we told her, she can let us know & we can release her back…
After that night, she seemed to a totally different person!! take a lot of initiative to do work, quite attentive to my son, esp when he climbs up & down, she’s quite fast to run to him/attend to him…so I take it that she was initially simple being ignorant, as in she’s inexperienced & not aware of her job duties/what’s expected of her…
Just that, she’s still a bit blur, coz last week, she gave my 5 yr old girl RAW egg to eat!! just becoz my silly girl requested!! I heard the sound of a spoon hitting the bowl, & wondering who’s making the noise & went to check & got a shock! my girl eating the RAW egg!! if I not home, tink she will get diarrhoae end of the day!! I asked my maid, she just stare at me & smile & said my girl says she wants…sigh…didn’t really scold her, just told her NO RAW food, as in MEAT & EGGS!! coz will fall sick…hope she understand me!!(my funny girl likes raw carrots,lettuce,tomatoes etc…but RAW eggs??? my girl still insist it’s nice, BUT I told my maid can’t give in to all her requests!!)
Have another minor problem…can tell that she starting to bond with my kids,esp my 2yr old boy…but noticed she likes to kiss him on his cheeks…few weeks ago noticed & subtlely told her not to,told her reason is, in case she’s sick & passed virus to him…she kind of stopp doing it for past 2 weeks, but tis few days, noticed she kissed him again…what should I do? like a bit bad to tell her not to, coz I myself ALWAYS, EVERYDAY, will kiss my son…BIG KISS somemore…so like a bit hard for me to tell her politely leh…scared she not happy…how ah?? -
cool_hi:
Good to hear your maid is working out for you. i find that where I can open and close one eye, it makes for a better life. My Myan maid also quite good - in that when I help out in the chores, she will come by and say, NO, ma'am, I DO.Just that, she's still a bit blur, coz last week, she gave my 5 yr old girl RAW egg to eat!! just becoz my silly girl requested!! I heard the sound of a spoon hitting the bowl, & wondering who's making the noise & went to check & got a shock! my girl eating the RAW egg!! if I not home, tink she will get diarrhoae end of the day!! I asked my maid, she just stare at me & smile & said my girl says she wants...sigh..didn't really scold her, just told her NO RAW food, as in MEAT & EGGS!! ........
Have another minor problem..can tell that she starting to bond with my kids,esp my 2yr old boy..but noticed she likes to kiss him on his cheeks..few weeks ago noticed & subtlely told her not to,told her reason is, in case she's sick & passed virus to him..she kind of stopp doing it for past 2 weeks, but tis few days, noticed she kissed him again..what should I do? like a bit bad to tell her not to, coz I myself ALWAYS, EVERYDAY, will kiss my son..BIG KISS somemore..so like a bit hard for me to tell her politely leh..scared she not happy..how ah??
And yes, there are things I can faint - I gave her some clothes peg to keep and pointed to some more that were left on the table...our friend only kept the ones I gave her. I washed toilet and asked her to dry up for me, she ok. But the shampoo bottles etc that I put outside the toilet remained there. I take it in stride - didn't reprimand her becos she didn't do wrong. It's funny in retrospect (she doing exactly what I told her); but it's a bit amazing how she cannot exercise that little bit of extra.
Anyways, come back to kids, I think you should be happy that she's bonding well with your kids. Would you prefer she heck care your kid or if she like your kid? As long as she only kiss the cheek, I think that's ok. Any further, you should get a myan person (eg from agent?) to explain that some places are forbidden - only mummy territory.
But at the end of the day, you are the mummy, if you don't like, I think just tell her neutrally and nicely - perhaps even jokingly a bit that you will get jealous. -
hquek:
my previous maid used to be like that.. i thought is my instruction not clear, cant she be more automatic, i scolded her that time.. now, i think i should \"accept\" that this is most maid's style of working.
Good to hear your maid is working out for you. i find that where I can open and close one eye, it makes for a better life. My Myan maid also quite good - in that when I help out in the chores, she will come by and say, NO, ma'am, I DO.cool_hi:
Just that, she's still a bit blur, coz last week, she gave my 5 yr old girl RAW egg to eat!! just becoz my silly girl requested!! I heard the sound of a spoon hitting the bowl, & wondering who's making the noise & went to check & got a shock! my girl eating the RAW egg!! if I not home, tink she will get diarrhoae end of the day!! I asked my maid, she just stare at me & smile & said my girl says she wants...sigh..didn't really scold her, just told her NO RAW food, as in MEAT & EGGS!! ........
Have another minor problem..can tell that she starting to bond with my kids,esp my 2yr old boy..but noticed she likes to kiss him on his cheeks..few weeks ago noticed & subtlely told her not to,told her reason is, in case she's sick & passed virus to him..she kind of stopp doing it for past 2 weeks, but tis few days, noticed she kissed him again..what should I do? like a bit bad to tell her not to, coz I myself ALWAYS, EVERYDAY, will kiss my son..BIG KISS somemore..so like a bit hard for me to tell her politely leh..scared she not happy..how ah??
And yes, there are things I can faint - I gave her some clothes peg to keep and pointed to some more that were left on the table...our friend only kept the ones I gave her. I washed toilet and asked her to dry up for me, she ok. But the shampoo bottles etc that I put outside the toilet remained there. I take it in stride - didn't reprimand her becos she didn't do wrong. It's funny in retrospect (she doing exactly what I told her); but it's a bit amazing how she cannot exercise that little bit of extra.
Anyways, come back to kids, I think you should be happy that she's bonding well with your kids. Would you prefer she heck care your kid or if she like your kid? As long as she only kiss the cheek, I think that's ok. Any further, you should get a myan person (eg from agent?) to explain that some places are forbidden - only mummy territory.
But at the end of the day, you are the mummy, if you don't like, I think just tell her neutrally and nicely - perhaps even jokingly a bit that you will get jealous.
my current maid is when remember then do.. she can don't do things that i don't remind her.. and let the place get dusty..
i feel having maids sometimes make me a bad person as i have to scold or raise my voice at her cos cannot tahan ! i used to be more calm than now.. sigh. life will be shorter like that
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