Is it necessary to get a new daddy for my son?

[e3nity]

LOLMum:

dear e3nity,


God bless you and your son. it is very good of you to put your son first instead of the new man in your life. the child is the most vulnerable person in any relationship. he is too young, helpless to fend for himself.

am very happy to hear life is turning good for you both and hope you will continue to be strong for any situations.

God bless you both.

Hi LOLMum

I hope my life story will help Liz alittle.. and thanks.. i'm glad that everything is fine with my child..

[Liz_Ryan]

e3nity:

Hi LOLMum

I hope my life story will help Liz alittle.. and thanks.. i'm glad that everything is fine with my child..

Yea indeed, e3nity, thanx for e comfort

Cheers!

[e3nity]

Liz_Ryan:

Yea indeed, e3nity, thanx for e comfort


Cheers!

No worries Liz.. Single parents juz got to set their priority right.. I'm not a wonderful mom.. At a stage i din set it right.. But i'm grateful that i've done the right thing. So Cheers.. Lets pray for the better in our own kids..

[swebber]

You’re right its really a personal decision that you should make. First of course i suggest that you should start by being honest with your kid, after all, it not a uncommon thing having a single parent nowadays and it better that he knows since he is already in the stage where he would start asking a lot of things, lying would only make him hate you in the end. Secondly, if you feel that you are doing just fine without a partner then maybe you’d just be messing it up when you force yourself to get one just cause of peer pressure. As long as you know you are doing the right thing for you child, giving him enough love and support, then you should be ok.

[Liz_Ryan]

swebber:

You're right its really a personal decision that you should make. First of course i suggest that you should start by being honest with your kid, after all, it not a uncommon thing having a single parent nowadays and it better that he knows since he is already in the stage where he would start asking a lot of things, lying would only make him hate you in the end. Secondly, if you feel that you are doing just fine without a partner then maybe you'd just be messing it up when you force yourself to get one just cause of peer pressure. As long as you know you are doing the right thing for you child, giving him enough love and support, then you should be ok.

hi swebber,

i just read your post today as life was pretty hectic the past many weeks.

thank u & everyone here so much for all the views/opinions/advice that u guys have shared.

being here, i feel lyk i do hv frenz to turn to, for advice & help, whenever i need, even though we do not know each other personally....

love,
liz

[samuelarnold]

Ask your child about the new relation. i mean ask him are you need a new dad. and also find he will be adjust with a new member.

[daddybear]

I am a single parent too. I think the primary problem is finding someone that will accept you as a packaged deal. That is difficult. It is one thing to risk your own emotions and well being but to ask your child to do the same… not so easy. I have been separated for 3 years and met some people. Ultimately issues in regards to my child led me to call it quits. I don’t ever want my son to feel that he is a burden to me.


Ultimately, i asked myself whether its more impt to be a good parent or have a companion. The choice for me was easy. Besides, there are no guarantees in life… couples can break up at any point in time. So why not just concentrate on the child and when they are older, I am sure there will be opportunities for one if you still inclined.

[e3nity]

daddybear:

I am a single parent too. I think the primary problem is finding someone that will accept you as a packaged deal. That is difficult. It is one thing to risk your own emotions and well being but to ask your child to do the same... not so easy. I have been separated for 3 years and met some people. Ultimately issues in regards to my child led me to call it quits. I don't ever want my son to feel that he is a burden to me.


Ultimately, i asked myself whether its more impt to be a good parent or have a companion. The choice for me was easy. Besides, there are no guarantees in life... couples can break up at any point in time. So why not just concentrate on the child and when they are older, I am sure there will be opportunities for one if you still inclined.

daddybear,
i agree with u.. being a single parent we face this same problem.. the 1+1 issue.. u believe you've made a right choice to set ur child priority..

[Liz_Ryan]

e3nity:

daddybear:

I am a single parent too. I think the primary problem is finding someone that will accept you as a packaged deal. That is difficult. It is one thing to risk your own emotions and well being but to ask your child to do the same... not so easy. I have been separated for 3 years and met some people. Ultimately issues in regards to my child led me to call it quits. I don't ever want my son to feel that he is a burden to me.


Ultimately, i asked myself whether its more impt to be a good parent or have a companion. The choice for me was easy. Besides, there are no guarantees in life... couples can break up at any point in time. So why not just concentrate on the child and when they are older, I am sure there will be opportunities for one if you still inclined.

daddybear,
i agree with u.. being a single parent we face this same problem.. the 1+1 issue.. u believe you've made a right choice to set ur child priority..

I second that, e3nity!