Advice - Divorce or Not to Divorce

[fussyMummy]

peh-boo:

peh-boo think that except for unfaithfulness on either side, divorce should always be out of the question - dun even think abt it.

thats our opinion lah may not apply to all.

Personally think is not due to unfaithfulness. There are a lot of unfaithfulness cases, yet they are still in married life status.

Perhaps everybody has their own \"bottomline\" which disallow partner to overstep it.

\"DIVORCED\" is the always last term to consider... Personal experince is although divorced do solved some problem but it do created unexpected wound which takes years to heal...

[peh-boo]

fussyMummy:

peh-boo:

peh-boo think that except for unfaithfulness on either side, divorce should always be out of the question - dun even think abt it.

thats our opinion lah may not apply to all.

Personally think is not due to unfaithfulness. There are a lot of unfaithfulness cases, yet they are still in married life status.

Perhaps everybody has their own \"bottomline\" which disallow partner to overstep it.

\"DIVORCED\" is the always last term to consider... Personal experince is although divorced do solved some problem but it do created unexpected wound which takes years to heal...

chinese say: 三思而后行！think 3 times before making a move.
guess we all should think very carefully before lashing out the D word lor.
then if we have kids even worse coz they will bear the brunt of the whole issue - receiving-end lor. sigh~

[Goli246]

Dear All


I have finally decided to divorce, my husband did not object… only tell me he is sorry… SAD !!! but i guess i make the right move… else we will jst drag on forever… being husband & wife in name only…

I am planning to stay under one roof for the time being as we have no where else to stay… my only concern is my ger…

Any advise on how to explain to kids below 5 on what is happening and how to make sure they take it well ?

[Dark Hope]

Hi,


I would like to get some advice regarding divorce or not divorce in this marriage.

If a marriage often has false claims police reports, lies, stealing, irresponsible duities but in the marriage have two little young children … does divorce the only way to end it?

[fussyMummy]

Dark Hope:

Hi,


I would like to get some advice regarding divorce or not divorce in this marriage.

If a marriage often has false claims police reports, lies, stealing, irresponsible duities but in the marriage have two little young children .... does divorce the only way to end it?

Hi Dark Hope,

\"D\" is not the magic word which can solve all the problem which you are facing.......... but it does \"create\" more unexpected problem..

I went throught this path... and yet still struggling for maintance issue, after 6 years...

I still remember there were a lot of advises before I decided to \"D\", I can't say it is good or bad...and yet there were a lot of comment after \"D\"... till today on and off , there is someone asks : \"why divorced? your kids are very poor thing you know\"... :stupid:

Personally think is the LOVE , which will make you forgive, willing to give more chances, awaiting someone to change...

Think more than twice...

Take good care~

[buds]

fussyMummy:

Personally think is the LOVE , which will make you forgive, willing to give more chances, awaiting someone to change...


Think more than twice...

I agree with you on this one, fussyMummy. :snuggles:

One cannot always choose to stay with the spouse citing child-related
reasons... the love in your heart for your spouse must also still be there
to make it work... to rebuild what may have been lost along the way of a
marriage. Divorce will NOT make problems go away.. :hugs:

[Dark Hope]

buds:

fussyMummy:

Personally think is the LOVE , which will make you forgive, willing to give more chances, awaiting someone to change...


Think more than twice...

I agree with you on this one, fussyMummy. :snuggles:

One cannot always choose to stay with the spouse citing child-related
reasons... the love in your heart for your spouse must also still be there
to make it work... to rebuild what may have been lost along the way of a
marriage. Divorce will NOT make problems go away.. :hugs:

thanks for all your advice but ... i'm living in fear with her everyday as one day i might go to jail for nothing if she always made false reports to the police. i do have love for her since we have been married for 5 years and have 2 little children. But .....

[philipsteele]

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

[fussyMummy]

philipsteele:

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

Hi philipsteele,

If everybody can live with happy family, who will choose this path?

But then when things doesnt work, some of the couple will think it is the best solution for it....

[ohno]

I said out the D word today & I am so glad to get it out of my chest - though I dont know what to do next … Should I tolerate 'cos of kid but I will go crazy soon.


No infidelity issue - simply the way i see it lack of respect and trust and too many cold wars drive me from nuts to indifference to wish he is not at home. During cold wars, he gets onto and off bed nosily disturbing my sleeps to show his frustration, pushed my bath towel to one end, throw my undies hanging to dry and barred me from touching the family car. Mind you we are equal in terms of bringing back the pay check. How can a man be so freakingly childish? If woman has menopause I dont know what man has. He’s so damn sensitive. Any wrong choice of words will turn him black face - how to survive a marriage threading on thin ice? I’m sick of all the emo blackmail and he knows I don’t have family members to turn to or friends to run away to … I am sick of always the person to ask for "forgiveness " to save the marriage. I am depressed and starting to hate myself so much.