Club 3 or more Kids

[porcupine12trade]

bebe:

Now renovation does not come cheap..hv to plan carefully so that the usability and design can outlast for the next 5-8 yrs. By then the older kids will be be in their teens...doubt they wanna anything too childish.

Ya loh, carpentry is getting more and more exp...everything seems to go up, but salary not going up as fast ?! so we are made \"poorer\". I need to reno my new place too...trying to cut cost where possible.

[SAHM_TAN]

phase 2 of our sleeping arrangement has been executed earlier than planned. All five of us are now sleeping in the same room on the floor similar to Japanese style. It's rather fun

[ANobleNerd]

Hi, I'm a mother of 3:

12 yo boy, 5 yo girl & 3 yo boy.

I'm in the happy situation of being a work-from-home-mum... at least it's a happy situation when things go as plan. But when time runs out and deadlines loom...

[MummyThreeStreams]

What do you do when your kids argue? DS1 is 6yo and DS2 is 3yo. Although they play well, they also fight regularly. E.g. They will fight over toys and games. And as they grow more verbal, they complain more about each other. It can drive me crazy! DS3 is only 7 weeks so thankfully he’s out of the equation…for now. My methods are evolving as the boys grow and the dynamics between them change. Would like to find out from other parents on your methods.

[SAHM_TAN]

MummyThreeStreams:

What do you do when your kids argue? DS1 is 6yo and DS2 is 3yo. Although they play well, they also fight regularly. E.g. They will fight over toys and games. And as they grow more verbal, they complain more about each other. It can drive me crazy! DS3 is only 7 weeks so thankfully he's out of the equation...for now. My methods are evolving as the boys grow and the dynamics between them changes. Would like to find out from other parents on your methods.

My DD and DS also have the same issue. DD is 6yo and DS isd 3 yos, same age as yours. I tell them to settle it or they cannot play. DD will come up with ways to deal with the situation. I only intervene when both are tired and can no longer play fair.When they are tired out in school, by the time they reached home, they can be too tired to handle the situation.

When new toys are involved I will have to remind them of the rules becos both are excited to play. My DD2 is 7 mo

[ANobleNerd]

MummyThreeStreams:

What do you do when your kids argue? DS1 is 6yo and DS2 is 3yo. Although they play well, they also fight regularly. E.g. They will fight over toys and games. And as they grow more verbal, they complain more about each other. It can drive me crazy! DS3 is only 7 weeks so thankfully he's out of the equation...for now. My methods are evolving as the boys grow and the dynamics between them changes. Would like to find out from other parents on your methods.

I don't think there's ever a day goes by when no. 2 & no. 3 don't fight. No. 3 just learnt to scream at no. 2, and she'll turn to complain about it to me in tears.

What to do? I just have to go back to the stock \"Say sorry to Che-che! Now give each other a hug! Che-che, stop complaining when he screams at you! You need to share xxxx with him!\"

The fights show that the kids are growing up and are rightfully possessive of the things they own. It's an age appropriate milestone, but teaching them the correct behaviour is usually the same tedious repetition.

No. 2 likes to boss no. 3 around, and no. 3 is just learning to assert his will. He usually follows no. 2 around and does what is told him. I always encourage no. 2 to take care of no. 3 and praise her for leading him in games etc or sharing, so that it minimise the fights. No. 3 is beginning to be cheeky, so I encourage him to play nice and we sing lots of Barney 'value' songs like 'clean up' or 'we take turns' to help him play at sharing. It seems to work.

Fortunately, no. 1 and the others don't fight so much, because the age gap they have assures that they are not likely to like the same thing. Still, there are sibling squabbles because no. 1 likes to tease the younger ones.

But oh, those GLORIOUS WONDERFUL days when they all laugh and play well together! They more than make up the nonsensical antics they get into.

[Luvkid]

hihi,


I am more or less eligible for this club.

DS3 will be arriving anytime from now.... :love:

Currently still considered as a FTWM though starting my hospitalisation/maternity leave....DS1-P3 (in BASC),DS2-K1 (in CCC),DS3 (still snuggling in my tummy :lol: )

No maid,no parents,no in laws to help-reason is dun want to deal with another human being

I hv yet to solve my caregiving for my new arrival after my maternity leave :?:

Both DH and i dun earn much, we have to sublet 1 of the bedroom to increase income.

Currently, with 2 DS, budget has been quite tight though DH still drive a 5 seater car. With DS3 coming along, we dun really plan how to go along with our budget..... 船到桥头自然直..... :xedfingers:

As for myself going to be FTWM or SAHM, i also hv no fixed plan. :roll:
Will see to it after my marternity leave.

No enrichment for both DS currently. Chinese tuition for DS1. At this moment,tution cost is not a big issue yet as i am helping DS1 with his other subjects,except for science which he is so far quite ok with. BUT, i really wonder can i still manage to help him after DS3 arrives.... :?: Next year, will have to get DS2 involve in daily revision in preparation for his P1 life on the following year....Now not only money no enough, time also no enough :?:

Giving up car will be DH last option,i guess...He ever thot of taking up part time job as a taxi driver if really comes to no choice. But nowsaday, not easy to earn a living as a taxi driver too....

Other luxury like holiday, dun even dare to think of. To Malaysia maybe ok, cos BIL is staying there,can hv free accomodation. But this is gonna be after a few months or even years after DS3 is easier to handle

DS3 is unplanned.....My intention and budget limit is 2, and yet didn't pratice a reliable contraceptive method, and is god's will/fated to have number 3 after 4-5 years. :roll:

Life should be less taxing for us when DS2 reaches 3-4 yo, yet another new memeber joining in....Well, is fated,accept it :love:

[MummyThreeStreams]

Luvkid,


congratulations on your DS3! Even though he is unplanned, and finances are tight, I am sure he will be a joy to your family!

Our DS1 was unplanned…we had just gotten married and didn’t realise that the rhythm method was very risky! We were young, with a huge mortgage (we refused to take money from our parents) and were just building up our careers (the timing was particularly bad for me as I had just been placed on a leadership track…I later gave it up when I realised I would rather play with my kids than spend endless hours with people I didn’t love…). I cried when I found out! I was so miserable. Of course, at that time, I was young and foolish.

Fast forward 6 years, I realise what a blessing he has been. Because we had him while we were young, we had more time to have 3 kids and space them apart in a very comfortable way.

All the best for your delivery. Enjoy your little ones!

[SAHM_TAN]

:congrats: on your DS3. Wow 3 princes


Money is a funny thing. I worked out all my finances when I decided to become a SAHM for my 2 kids. But 6 months down the road, I was preggy with my DD2. It was a shock. As the delivery date loom, I knew that things were going to be tight. So I looked around for a cheaper kinddy, compared to my DD1's, and found one that my kids seem to like.

The baby bonus helps in the short term plus I breastfeed and eat home-cooked food. So it helps to cut down the expenses.

Whenever I travel, I will use public transport, bus and mrt. Although I put on a brave front, I do get apprehensive when I travel on the bus with 3 kids, but so far, pple have been kind. I only use the taxi when it's raining heavily and I know that the place I'm going has no sheltered walkway.

So here save, there save, managed to maintain my SAHM status

[ANobleNerd]

Congrats, Luvkids!


While it's always good to look at the finances of having kids, the reality is that when the kids are here, you'll realise that there are things you can go without and that there will be other cheaper alternatives to consider.

Things always have a way that works itself out in the end.

The key, of course, is to appreciate the blessings that you currently have. These are money-can't-buy blessings, and then you'll realise how rich you truly are.

Dh and I both don't drive, nor do we own any driving licenses. We realised early on that it will cost more maintaining a car than take a taxi everywhere. In the end, our transportation has been minimised to taking the taxi where urgently needed, and the MRT/buses when time is not an issue. We live by a Mother Theresa saying: To live simply so others may simply live.