At what age yr child should start dating?
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insider:
Thanks for sharing this article, insider. :goodpost:Interesting article:
Parenting Your Teen: Dating Dos and Don'ts for Teens By Julie Baumgardner
Source: http://www.more4kids.info/586/teenage-dating-tips/ -
insider:
Not so sure that's the case for kids these days. My daughter had a 4 year old boy who wanted to marry her when she was 2; they were in the same preschool. And she had been coming back with all sorts of little gifts, including a rose once, from the boys in preschool. And a boy she met in a day camp at P3 told her he liked her, and even gave her something as a token of his love. By P5 or 6, she had received love letters from several boys, including one who said he wanted to marry her. Some of these boys are expat kids and most of them come from very good family (with strong family ties). And she was in a girl school. Somehow, kids these days have all sorts of fantasies about relationship.I tend to believe that if a child (teenager) has a good bonding with his/her family in the areas of trust and respect with a sense of security, has a good social circle of good friends and healthy activities / hobbies, and has clear goals in life (appropriate for their age), then the child will not have the thought of the need to 'date', whether casually or seriously.
Those who are looking out for a date at their teenage years (maybe I should spare those in their 18 or 19) may have a sense of 'unexplainable hollowness' in them (do not feel loved/understood at home, and/or lack of good friends, and/or lack of healthy activities/hobbies, and/or under peer pressure, etc) , that they need to fill it up with 'exploring' with 1-to-1 dating... -
insider:
:shock:rosemummy:
Somehow, kids these days have all sorts of fantasies about relationship.
It is the first term of one of my teachers' 12 years old daughter in a top sec girls' school.
She is 'wooed' by another girl with love letters and a gift (a calculator).
When her daughter refused the gift, the 'wooer' got upset and purposely threw a tennis ball on her while they were at the court. Daughter suffered a 'ba-lu-ku' on her head.
Later that 'wooer' wrote apology letter to her etc etc.
Daughter complained to mum and mum spoke to the teacher and teacher talked to the 'wooer''s mum and now the case is still pending for a solution...
Interesting generation... -
insider:
This is quite common in all-girls secondary schools, even during our times when it wasn't all that common for girls to have boyfriends in secondary school. But I guess most of them do grow out of it.rosemummy:
Somehow, kids these days have all sorts of fantasies about relationship.
It is the first term of one of my teachers' 12 years old daughter in a top sec girls' school.
She is 'wooed' by another girl with love letters and a gift (a calculator).
When her daughter refused the gift, the 'wooer' got upset and purposely threw a tennis ball on her while they were at the court. Daughter suffered a 'ba-lu-ku' on her head.
Later that 'wooer' wrote apology letter to her etc etc.
Daughter complained to mum and mum spoke to the teacher and teacher talked to the 'wooer''s mum and now the case is still pending for a solution...
Interesting generation...
My girl even have 2 classmates in college, both girls aged around 20, who live together as a couple. 1 of them had boyfriends previously.
Don't know where they learn such things from. Definitely can't have anything to do with the parents. -
What do you think of casual dating in secondary school? A friend's dd went to a co-ed secondary school and has lots of boys interested in her. Valentine's Day was a day of many roses from many parties.
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jtoh:
What do you think of casual dating in secondary school? A friend's dd went to a co-ed secondary school and has lots of boys interested in her. Valentine's Day was a day of many roses from many parties.
Accept it? If you walk around Orchard Road or any neighbourhood malls on a weekday afternoon, you'll see many couples who are in school uniform (some primary schools even). I think many parents just happily assume that their teenage child is not 1 of them if the child don't tell them. I remember my daughter telling me how her classmate had several relationship when she was in P6 in an all girls school. When I talk to the girl's mum during a parent-teacher meeting, the mum was talking about how her girl just can't perform during exam due to stress, anxiety etc. She has no clue whatsover about what her girl is doing.
Anyway, if this happen early, they're probably more receptive to what parents have to say. So it's a good chance to teach them about relationship. Giving roses is very commom. My daughter even had boys giving her rings. I guess it's a stage they all go through. If the parents don't accept it, they'll still do it but keep it from you. -
jtoh:
What do you think of casual dating in secondary school? A friend's dd went to a co-ed secondary school and has lots of boys interested in her. Valentine's Day was a day of many roses from many parties.
Personal observation - girls who are 'popular' are surprisingly less likely to jump into serious relationship. Spoilt for choices so they tend to take their time to choose. Afterall there're always fresh supply of admirers.
At this age, just enjoy the attention la. No action required. Your friend can buy more vases to keep those roses her dd received :lol: -
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Eh, dating? I think my 2 ds better date after NS the best. Don’t have to suffer the can’t-meet-gf-and-then-get-dumped aftereffect!
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16-18 years old. I don't want my children to miss out on puppy love. I feel that at an older age, relationships are not as innocent. I would like them to experience a simpler love. They can also learn from the relationships to better understand what they want in a partner.
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