Club Breastfeeding Mums

[MummyThreeStreams]

my62202:

as for my gal, she's 2.5yo now and still on BM...
with supplement of Hays Dairies goat milk...
thinking of weaning her off totally but seems like a tough job...
whenever she's 'free' or out of a sudden, she'll request to latch on...
any idea how can i stop this breastfeeding ??

What's your timeline for weaning? If you're taking a gradual approach, which I prefer since it's the least stressful for all, you can consider a few strategies:
1) don't offer, don't refuse: don't ask her if she wants to nurse. And don't refuse her when she asks.
2) delay tactics: if she asks to nurse, say, ok in 5 mins, or after you finish reading or whatever. She might forget about it.
3) keep her busy: as you've observed, toddlers tend to want to nurse when they're bored...so distract them from nursing! I found that my kids usually didn't ask to nurse while we were out.
4) avoid things/places associated with nursing: e.g. If you always nurse on the rocking chair, try to avoid sitting there coz when she sees you there, she will think of breastfeeding.
5) set rules on when she can nurse, e.g. only when the sun is up, or only at certain times in the day etc.

There are many others I'm sure. But she's already 2.5yrs, she will be gradually weaning herself off breastfeeding over the course of the next year or so. It will become more and more infrequent. In between, she may ask to nurse more when she's ill or stressed, but there will be a general trend towards weaning. All the best!

[ANobleNerd]

For me, weaning happens when my kids go to preschool and find out that nobody nurses anymore. The peer pressure is enough to assure a stop to nursing at 3.5 years.


My girl tandem nursed for an entire year with her brother because she was jealous that the baby got to nurse. It was after she went to school that she felt able to release the need to nurse.

My youngest is still nursing (2.5y), and it doesn't look like it'll end yet. He's still doesn't know that his peers aren't b'fing. :lol:

[phankao]

ANobleNerd:

For me, weaning happens when my kids go to preschool and find out that nobody nurses anymore. The peer pressure is enough to assure a stop to nursing at 3.5 years.


My girl tandem nursed for an entire year with her brother because she was jealous that the baby got to nurse. It was after she went to school that she felt able to release the need to nurse.

My youngest is still nursing (2.5y), and it doesn't look like it'll end yet. He's still doesn't know that his peers aren't b'fing. :lol:

But then, why should the child discuss with his peers that he is having \"mummy's milk\"? My 2.5yo goes to school and is still bf'dg.

[ANobleNerd]

True... they don't actually 'discuss' b'fing, but it's more like 'I don't see my friends b'fing, so they are probably not b'fing'. :lol:


But the funny thing is that they do see their friends wearing underwear and going to the toilet, so that's another thing my kids did - they toilet-trained themselves! Both DS1 and DD came back home one day from school and proclaimed that they don't need to wear diapers anymore - and they never did. They have never even wet their bed.

[SAHM_TAN]

ANobleNerd:

True... they don't actually 'discuss' b'fing, but it's more like 'I don't see my friends b'fing, so they are probably not b'fing'. :lol:


But the funny thing is that they do see their friends wearing underwear and going to the toilet, so that's another thing my kids did - they toilet-trained themselves! Both DS1 and DD came back home one day from school and proclaimed that they don't need to wear diapers anymore - and they never did. They have never even wet their bed.

The toilet training is true for my DS too

[phankao]

SAHM_TAN:

ANobleNerd:

True... they don't actually 'discuss' b'fing, but it's more like 'I don't see my friends b'fing, so they are probably not b'fing'. :lol:


But the funny thing is that they do see their friends wearing underwear and going to the toilet, so that's another thing my kids did - they toilet-trained themselves! Both DS1 and DD came back home one day from school and proclaimed that they don't need to wear diapers anymore - and they never did. They have never even wet their bed.

The toilet training is true for my DS too

Mine - it's a requirement to toilet-train before going to school

[phankao]

ANobleNerd:

True... they don't actually 'discuss' b'fing, but it's more like 'I don't see my friends b'fing, so they are probably not b'fing'. :lol:

And why would they see their friends bfd'g unless the mothers are at school!

[SAHM_TAN]

phankao:

SAHM_TAN:

[quote=\"ANobleNerd\"]True... they don't actually 'discuss' b'fing, but it's more like 'I don't see my friends b'fing, so they are probably not b'fing'. :lol:


But the funny thing is that they do see their friends wearing underwear and going to the toilet, so that's another thing my kids did - they toilet-trained themselves! Both DS1 and DD came back home one day from school and proclaimed that they don't need to wear diapers anymore - and they never did. They have never even wet their bed.

The toilet training is true for my DS too

Mine - it's a requirement to toilet-train before going to school[/quote]Mine give chance. :lol: Good if toilet train, if not ready, then give time

[phankao]

SAHM_TAN:

phankao:

[quote=\"SAHM_TAN\"]
The toilet training is true for my DS too

Mine - it's a requirement to toilet-train before going to school

Mine give chance. :lol: Good if toilet train, if not ready, then give time[/quote]Yah, they are not strict. But what the principal said made sense - the child should recognise his own bodily needs. Before that, I'd not even thot about toilet-training my just-turned 2yo boy. It turned out to be quite a breeze. Minus some accidents(boys!), he's mostly reliable.

[SAHM_TAN]

phankao:

Yah, they are not strict. But what the principal said made sense - the child should recognise his own bodily needs. Before that, I'd not even thot about toilet-training my just-turned 2yo boy. It turned out to be quite a breeze. Minus some accidents(boys!), he's mostly reliable.

I tried when he was 2 but he refused to let go of his pamper. He was very stubborn about it. So we just let him be. After he went to kinddy, one day he told me he don't want pamper and toilet train was a breeze, a few accidents but because he was too into playing. Other than that he's ok. Now just waiting for him to tell me he does not want pamper during bedtime.