All About Full-Time Maids

[gumiho]

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Seeing your other replies, yes, I agree you have been too lax with your maid and your maid also dun have brains to realise she has a good employer and it'll be to her good to stay in your good books. Sorry if I'm blunt.

Anyway, if my maid remits all her money to hubby, I would subtly feed her stories of other maids - send all the money home (to father/hubby) and end up with nothing at all. Too many of such I have heard. I would think she will be back - just not sure with which employer.

In this case, I would advise you to stand firm. Airfares very ex during that time AND you have to bear additional costs in arranging for that home leave (I get the idea that phil gov never lets up on any chance to milk money out of this).

Why not tell her also that when she is back, she can remit all the money that was kept in SG and you bear the remittance cost? It should be far less than your potential loss if she doesn't come back.

Remind her subtly of how good you have been to her these months/years...sometimes these pp need to hear other horror stories to know how good their employer is to them. [/quote]

Our current helper are simply too stubborn to listen. I did feed her with story that husband having scandal when wife are working overseas and she replied \"My husband is scare of me.\"

I had offered to bear her remittance charges when she is back from Home Leave however she refuse. She protested that her family need $$ therefore she cannot afford me to retain single cent of her $$.

She did received complains from our neighbourhood maid about been lock at home / not enough food to eat / full of restriction from employers....etc.

Just feel that we are been taken for granted.

[bzmum22]

gumiho:

[quote]

Seeing your other replies, yes, I agree you have been too lax with your maid and your maid also dun have brains to realise she has a good employer and it'll be to her good to stay in your good books. Sorry if I'm blunt.

Anyway, if my maid remits all her money to hubby, I would subtly feed her stories of other maids - send all the money home (to father/hubby) and end up with nothing at all. Too many of such I have heard. I would think she will be back - just not sure with which employer.

In this case, I would advise you to stand firm. Airfares very ex during that time AND you have to bear additional costs in arranging for that home leave (I get the idea that phil gov never lets up on any chance to milk money out of this).

Why not tell her also that when she is back, she can remit all the money that was kept in SG and you bear the remittance cost? It should be far less than your potential loss if she doesn't come back.

Remind her subtly of how good you have been to her these months/years...sometimes these pp need to hear other horror stories to know how good their employer is to them. [/quote]Our current helper are simply too stubborn to listen. I did feed her with story that husband having scandal when wife are working overseas and she replied \"My husband is scare of me.\"

I had offered to bear her remittance charges when she is back from Home Leave however she refuse. She protested that her family need $$ therefore she cannot afford me to retain single cent of her $$.

She did received complains from our neighbourhood maid about been lock at home / not enough food to eat / full of restriction from employers....etc.

Just feel that we are been taken for granted. [/quote]

Maids nearing the end of contract can be v difficult to handle. I have one at home now, so I know. They tend to think that they've \"sacrifice\" a lot already and now that they are so-called experienced maids, it is time for them to exert their \"independence\". Anyway, they are not lacking potential employers outside, who may be able to give them better pay, better environment and can pander to their every whims and fancy. So, they are not afraid to leave your household and move on.

So, as employers, we must not be afraid to change maids. We can try to accomodate whatever we can, but if the demands are beyond us and bordering unreasonableness, then it may be better to let the maid go. Don't hv to keep thinking that they have taken us for granted, that we have been so nice to them....you will only make yourself feel v miserable. Just treat everything as business and for your next maid, don't need to be so nice 'cos they will not remember when they start to make their demands.

[gumiho]

mama_g:

http://www.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Crime/Story/A1Story20110328-270474.html

This maid is insane. Why no canning ?

[hquek]

gumiho:

mama_g:

http://www.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Crime/Story/A1Story20110328-270474.html

This maid is insane. Why no canning ?

Becos she only 17? Was upset thinking about what she did to the baby (nonid to see video). I cannot imagine being so calm headed like the parents if it happened to my kids...I probably would have done something not so good.

[jtoh]

gumiho:

mama_g:

http://www.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Crime/Story/A1Story20110328-270474.html

This maid is insane. Why no canning ?

Don't think caning is allowed for women, the elderly and the sick.

[hquek]

bzmum22:

So, as employers, we must not be afraid to change maids. We can try to accomodate whatever we can, but if the demands are beyond us and bordering unreasonableness, then it may be better to let the maid go. Don't hv to keep thinking that they have taken us for granted, that we have been so nice to them....you will only make yourself feel v miserable. Just treat everything as business and for your next maid, don't need to be so nice 'cos they will not remember when they start to make their demands.

If she can deign to show face over holding money whilst she is on home leave after taking so much kindness from your family, yes, better to just send her packing. For now, agree with everything she say. Once nearer the date, just send her to airport and say thank you and goodbye.

Honestly, I don't think I would be as kind - to advance her pay etc. I hate to be in that position wondering if she is going to stay long enough etc that I rather be the bad person upfront and tell her NO. Anycase, since you give your maid some measure of freedom, fret not, I'm sure there will be better ones coming your way.

On that point about her stubborness, I can only wish that lady luck - afterall she's a working wife (and maybe mum) just like me. I heard too many sob stories to honestly believe that most men with money and little work can be up to any good - there are some, may hers be one of the gems.

[gumiho]

Think I know what to do.

Since she doesn’t appreciate our kindness then no point of us been generous to her.

[gumiho]

I had consulted her Maid Agency and according to them, employer can ask the maid to pay for her airfare and we will return her the $$ after she came back from Home Leave.


Well.... I relayed the same message to our helper and she rebutted saying that her friends (neighbourhood maids) don't have to deposit $$ with the employers before they went for Home Leave.

May I know is it true ?

In fact, I do not wish to renew her contract (since she is so calculative with us) but we can't afford to upfront the huge amount of Maid Loan and Maid Agency Fee therefore have to bear with the unreasonable attitude.

[SCTAN]

Hi gumiho,


I remembered i withhold a sum of S$500. I explained to her that my concern would be if in any event that you do not return for good, the deposit is meant to ensure you will be back.

Hope that will help you in explaining to your maid.

[gumiho]

SCTAN:

Hi gumiho,


I remembered i withhold a sum of S$500. I explained to her that my concern would be if in any event that you do not return for good, the deposit is meant to ensure you will be back.

Hope that will help you in explaining to your maid.

Thanks for your advise.

However, I had explained our concern but she is too stubborn to listen.

Haiz... I find it so hard to deal with filipino maid. They are giving me this impression that we are out to cheat them.