In-law problems?
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janet_lee88:
Thank you thank you.....but actually, I believe there are many many out there who put up with in-laws as well and can still maintain good relationship. I know I can be quite fussy too and definitely not a sweet talker (dun ask me to be nice when I'm cross.....I dun shout at you already good horHi cwc,
I must say you are the woman...to be able to put up with in-laws staying at your place. :udawoman: renting out their place and staying at yours.
No longer enjoying the freedom you used to have. Fortunately, your MIL is working but there will be a day when she is TOO old to continue.
We all have our frustrations and of course THIS is the place to vent it.
Suspect MIL is also venting somewhere :lol: .
To be fair, my MIL also doing her part, while she can't control her urge to open her mouth, I believe she also try to keep within certain boundary.....if she were to behave like those drama show MIL....can't imagine what will happen.
Just praying
very hard, VERY HARD......that she'll work for another 3 years....then I'll be ready to start work cos' DD will complete PSLE then.
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cwc, we seems to be in the same boat lor......
Does your mil have this behaviour .... when things happen, she has alot of \"comments\" example
Conversation :
Me : Hubby lost his car key, he forgot where he placed it.
mil : huh? why so careless, how come he never put in your bag ?? Why you didnot ask him to put inside your bag?
Me : speechless....
Me : Wen (my daughter), where did you put your school card? I had asked you to put in your drawer right?
Wen : Mummy, I dont know, I forgot where I put it.
Mil (out of sudden) : see lah, see lah...how can you ask your daughter to keep her own thing?? you should have kept it for her..see now lost already.
Me : speechless
Afew years back, sis-in-law had a miscarriage.
Me : so sad that sis-in-law had a miscarriage. Hope she recover soon
mil : why ? why happen to Fen (sil), must be her husband who shifted the furniture a few days ago. If not, how come almost come to 3 mths then kena miscarriage.
Me : speechless.
Thanks God, soon after that, my sil preggy again and had a handsome son
Do the above sound familiar to you ?
This thread becomes my \"venting machine\" haha -
This is OUR venting place! :rotflmao:
Err yah.. i still lurk around.
Aniwaes, the incidences you cited above only
goes to show that as the DIL under her thumb
you are damned if you do and damned if you
don't... :roll:
Why bother.. why even bother getting all flustered
up.. you know jolly well the end result.. you still lose,
but at least venting it out here will make you less likely
to go :siao:. :rotflmao: -
Ha ha. This is interesting. My hubby has been complaining about my sudden interest in KSP as I have been going online quite a lot. He even threaten to come in and see what is getting me so hooked on....arggghhh, I shouldn't have used my initials
what a giveaway.
Anyway, this is my story....
My part-time helper only comes on weekdays and daytime. Middle-aged and quite a nice lady. One day, MIL saw FIL walking in wobbly manner, so asked helper to massage FIL's legs....helper agreed. I opposed but MIL insisted. So for next few days, MIL specifically gave instruction every morning to helper to massage FIL a few times each day....even instruct me to oversee and make sure helper does it.
One fine day, hubby came home early,
Hubby : How come helper massaging FIL leg? Who asked her to?
Me : I look at MIL direction
MIL : NO HOR!!! Not me hor!!! I din hor!!! Helper herself go and do it one. Must be FIL ask her to. Dun know why helper go and massage. I did not hor!!! (very vehemently denied) :shock:
Well, hubby scolded her and also insisted no more massage as helper is a lady, not appropriate. So you see, this is just 1 of the MANY MANY things that MIL will say/do and then denied vehemently -
EatNonStop:
Hey, I get this kind of comments too...plus salt and sugar added :xDoes your mil have this behaviour .... when things happen, she has alot of \"comments\" example
Conversation :
Me : Hubby lost his car key, he forgot where he placed it.
mil : huh? why so careless, how come he never put in your bag ?? Why you didnot ask him to put inside your bag?
Me : speechless....
Me : Wen (my daughter), where did you put your school card? I had asked you to put in your drawer right?
Wen : Mummy, I dont know, I forgot where I put it.
Mil (out of sudden) : see lah, see lah...how can you ask your daughter to keep her own thing?? you should have kept it for her..see now lost already.
Me : speechless
Do the above sound familiar to you ? -
Buds wrote: [quote]This is OUR venting place!
Why bother.. why even bother getting all flustered
up.. you know jolly well the end result.. you still lose,
but at least venting it out here will make you less likely
to go .
:celebrate: Agreed...Cheers! [/quote] -
Yes cwc & Janet, there are so many incidents that mil deny what she had said and done before
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We often heard people commented that it is a blessing to have 3 generations (with in-laws) staying under one roof and that the elderly can help to look after the house…
Wondering is it truely a blessing? Cos you will be trading off with a lot of freedom in the way you do things, the way you nurture the kids, the way you want to manage the house etc…plus, wherever you go (weekends family outings or holidays), there is always a in-law! I may agreed in-law can take care of kids & have dinner ready everyday but can it be considered subsitute with childcare or even manage your own dinner?? I ponder is this a selfish thinking?! -
buds:
Yes, why bothered.you are damned if you do and damned if you don't... :roll:
Why bother.. why even bother getting all flustered
up.. you know jolly well the end result.. you still lose, -
EatNonStop:
[/quote]Even if you win by facts, you will lose to the TEARS.Buds wrote: [quote]This is OUR venting place!
Why bother.. why even bother getting all flustered
up.. you know jolly well the end result.. you still lose,
but at least venting it out here will make you less likely
to go .
:celebrate: Agreed...Cheers!
Now I dread to think of them returning from US. It would be great if they can stay there for at least 1 year.
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