Advice - Divorce or Not to Divorce

[pink_daisy]

hi & tx to all who had replied me or had adviced me against divorce.


hub & i already had many issues and though we had talked about it, there are still some heartknots & heartthorns inside us. perhaps there is such thing as personality incompartibility? issues including his mother & sisters too so…is kinda knotty…afterall, u cant really expect him to always have to make a choice between own mum & wife??

as one has said, life is short & we do not know wat’s going to happen so is the same for a relationship. i know hub & i are holding on becoz of the kids. we hardly talk about other things except kids. nothing to talk about, i guess.

but as the kids grow up, they need lesser & lesser of us to be around them. they will have their own friends, own programs etc…do we wait till they are old enough to earn their own keeps while we are old enough to semi-retired to know wat’s love?

my kids & i have talked about divorce & they sorta know wat to expect. is a big step to take but i have already wasted 10yrs of my life on this man, do i have to continue with it?

im sure every woman or even everyone would like to have someone to love & dote on u…someone to share almost everything with…someone whom u know will walk with u till old age…im not encouraging divorce but is just that sometimes a divorce really will benefit all parties becoz everybody deserves to be happy…

just sharing…

[chubby08]

pink_daisy:

hi & tx to all who had replied me or had adviced me against divorce.


hub & i already had many issues and though we had talked about it, there are still some heartknots & heartthorns inside us. perhaps there is such thing as personality incompartibility? issues including his mother & sisters too so...is kinda knotty..afterall, u cant really expect him to always have to make a choice between own mum & wife??

as one has said, life is short & we do not know wat's going to happen so is the same for a relationship. i know hub & i are holding on becoz of the kids. we hardly talk about other things except kids. nothing to talk about, i guess.

but as the kids grow up, they need lesser & lesser of us to be around them. they will have their own friends, own programs etc..do we wait till they are old enough to earn their own keeps while we are old enough to semi-retired to know wat's love?

my kids & i have talked about divorce & they sorta know wat to expect. is a big step to take but i have already wasted 10yrs of my life on this man, do i have to continue with it?

im sure every woman or even everyone would like to have someone to love & dote on u..someone to share almost everything with..someone whom u know will walk with u till old age..im not encouraging divorce but is just that sometimes a divorce really will benefit all parties becoz everybody deserves to be happy..

just sharing...

Live the life you want.....

[Kissgurami]

pink_daisy:

hi & tx to all who had replied me or had adviced me against divorce.


hub & i already had many issues and though we had talked about it, there are still some heartknots & heartthorns inside us. perhaps there is such thing as personality incompartibility? issues including his mother & sisters too so...is kinda knotty..afterall, u cant really expect him to always have to make a choice between own mum & wife??

as one has said, life is short & we do not know wat's going to happen so is the same for a relationship. i know hub & i are holding on becoz of the kids. we hardly talk about other things except kids. nothing to talk about, i guess.

but as the kids grow up, they need lesser & lesser of us to be around them. they will have their own friends, own programs etc..do we wait till they are old enough to earn their own keeps while we are old enough to semi-retired to know wat's love?

my kids & i have talked about divorce & they sorta know wat to expect. is a big step to take but i have already wasted 10yrs of my life on this man, do i have to continue with it?

im sure every woman or even everyone would like to have someone to love & dote on u..someone to share almost everything with..someone whom u know will walk with u till old age..im not encouraging divorce but is just that sometimes a divorce really will benefit all parties becoz everybody deserves to be happy..

just sharing...

All the best to you

If you have already considered it then you can opt for separation for your divorce. (staying 3 years apart in the house also counts)

Things to consider
- Custody (Joint or You)
- Child maintenance if required (you need to produce copies of the receipts if not the guy has cause to dispute)
- Your maintenance (None or $1 or a certain amount)
- Sale of the matrimonial flat/house (did you contribute, if yes the sales proceeds will be based of the percentage of contribution but this can be disputed as well)
- Visiting Rights

Each dispute will drag the divorce, if you can speak to your guy before hand and agree on the terms. It will take 3 - 4 months to finalize the papers. Once signed, the flat/house will need to be sold within 6 months

hope this helps you

[LLK]

philipsteele:

i absolutely against the divorce,life is only one time so enjoy the life with family.

I have a female colleague who was known to have slept with different men for years and I heard she has divorced recently. For her case. divorce is fair to her husband. In fact, I think she should divorce much earlier.

[claramolee]

sorry friend, i am strongly against the divorce..life is one time so maximum enjoy the small life..some problems may arise in life but try to face that problem with good courage..

[Funz]

claramolee:

sorry friend, i am strongly against the divorce..life is one time so maximum enjoy the small life..some problems may arise in life but try to face that problem with good courage..

Agree that divorce should never be taken lightly but in some cases, divorce may be a better solution.

[mistychances]

insider:

PI evidence are useful if in need during divorce proceeding. Cost of a PI is about S$800 / day

hi insider

my friend is considering a divorce coz husband is having affair. But she enquired about cost of PI and was told it'll be about $4800 for 32 hours of work. That's a lot of money for her.

Your advice on $800 seems very much more reasonable. I would really appreciate if you can advise me some contacts.

thank you.

[mistychances]

Fluffy:

mincy:

I hope you record down the conversation/confession with the China girl and your hubby. if you haven't I suggest you find a chance to record concrete evidence e,g, photograph his handphone messages, reciepts etc. Might save you some money in PI cost.

So far, she did not need to engage a PI as she has enough evidence to fight her case due to her alertness.

hi my friend consulted a lawyer and accdg to him, only evidence from PI can be submitted. is it correct? Coz now she's troubled about the money to hire PI, if own evidence can be used then it will definitely be a relief for her.

thank you for your advice.

[pink_daisy]

erm…can somebody pm me a good lawyer’s contact too? many tx

[moonpie]

Marriage is about commitment and is not about \"feelings\" anymore as the years go by. Old couples will be fooling themselves to expect the same old feelings or that the grass is greener outside. Unless there is spousal/kids abuse, marriage must be saved at all attempts...Have read cases where couples are nearly divorced but then got back for last minute effort and now their marriage is so much better than before. It is the willingness of both hearts that makes it work. If you stop searching for happiness outside, you will realise that happiness can be found right under your nose...it was just buried and just need the right tools to unbury it.

pink_daisy:

hi & tx to all who had replied me or had adviced me against divorce.

hub & i already had many issues and though we had talked about it, there are still some heartknots & heartthorns inside us. perhaps there is such thing as personality incompartibility? issues including his mother & sisters too so...is kinda knotty..afterall, u cant really expect him to always have to make a choice between own mum & wife??

as one has said, life is short & we do not know wat's going to happen so is the same for a relationship. i know hub & i are holding on becoz of the kids. we hardly talk about other things except kids. nothing to talk about, i guess.

but as the kids grow up, they need lesser & lesser of us to be around them. they will have their own friends, own programs etc..do we wait till they are old enough to earn their own keeps while we are old enough to semi-retired to know wat's love?

my kids & i have talked about divorce & they sorta know wat to expect. is a big step to take but i have already wasted 10yrs of my life on this man, do i have to continue with it?

im sure every woman or even everyone would like to have someone to love & dote on u..someone to share almost everything with..someone whom u know will walk with u till old age..im not encouraging divorce but is just that sometimes a divorce really will benefit all parties becoz everybody deserves to be happy..

just sharing...