All About Full-Time Maids

[gumiho]

LLK:

cwc:

Actually very true. I see my neighbour's maid, spending half her time downstairs....since baby 6 months till now ~2 yo....


Basically, they go down, chat and chat. Everyday, 5 or 6 or them gather (all with babies in same age group).....from sitting around to now setting up picnic mats and eating together downstairs. So the toddlers are running around most of the time..... Can't help feeling angry, but cannot interfere cos' if the educated and healthy grandfather didn't bother, I better not.

My ex-helper also same same, would often pretend dun understand or forget so that they dun have to do. Actually many of them are quite smart these days cos' they have already learn tips from ex-maids before coming over. So we need to stay alert.

So if possible, don't hire maid. My colleague's maid even worse. The maid was caught for having sex with her neighbour's son recently.

OMG !! :sick:

[Littlefly]

bzmum22:

micollh:

but, now, u all think should i deduct her money for my lost dress? she is going back in august le. finish contract.

Just take the money since she is ok with it. Need to exercise your threat since you've already said it, like with kids, so that she will learn her lesson. U can return her the money when she is leaving in Aug, if u feel that she deserves to hv her money back as she has done good in her last few months with u.
But frankly speaking, based on what you've written, I think your maid is not afraid to lose money through her carelessness with your things, as she can even suggest that u deduct her salary. So this method of teaching her a lesson may not work for her.

Agree with bzmum, maybe tell your maid you would deduct from her salary for this error but if she don't repeat again, then you would consider returning back to her in August so turning the 'stick' into a 'carrot' for doing it right ?

[micollh]

i think the best way to handle this situation is like what you all have suggested, tell her i will deduct, jst to teach her a lesson… then wont take her money away !

[jtoh]

Funx3:

jtoh:

[quote=\"LKVM\"]
Exactly like what we were discussing on the other thread.... and when go down no need to come up faster also can chit chat as much as they want

And if the employer asks why they take so long, just say the dog took forever to poo.

jtoh U SO Funnie ....
:rotflmao: :rotflmao:[/quote] :lol: :lol: :lol:

[jtoh]

LLK:

cwc:

Actually very true. I see my neighbour's maid, spending half her time downstairs....since baby 6 months till now ~2 yo....


Basically, they go down, chat and chat. Everyday, 5 or 6 or them gather (all with babies in same age group).....from sitting around to now setting up picnic mats and eating together downstairs. So the toddlers are running around most of the time..... Can't help feeling angry, but cannot interfere cos' if the educated and healthy grandfather didn't bother, I better not.

My ex-helper also same same, would often pretend dun understand or forget so that they dun have to do. Actually many of them are quite smart these days cos' they have already learn tips from ex-maids before coming over. So we need to stay alert.

So if possible, don't hire maid. My colleague's maid even worse. The maid was caught for having sex with her neighbour's son recently.

:!:

[madinked]

Hi there


I need advice. My FDW has just finished her loan, and on the month (March) she finished paying her loan, she told us sob story of how her mom was going to die (we know it's not true because she's always of good appetite; singing; having fun with guys, telling my mum that her mum has died 2 days before, etc) and she wanted to terminate the contract and go home.

Since I knew it wasn't true, I told her to show me a doctor's letter with hospital letterhead and doctor's stamp.

Today I received the letter. It's photocopied, translated but there were some unclear parts, and no, no indication of seriousness of illness. When she showed me the letter and I rejected it, saying it wasn't how I wanted it, she sobbed and sobbed and went back to her room to mob (but her eyes after weren't even red).

So, eventually when we let her go, I want to let her go only as home leave since she still has not finished her 2-year contract. So I'm not going to allow her to take away all her belongings, and we're going to keep $500 which will be given back to her if she returns. Is that fair & just? We are even allowing her to go off for a full month. But we do know she has no intention to come back.

Right now, since she just finished her loan, she still doesn't have $500 in the bank yet though

[micollh]

madinked:

Hi there


I need advice. My FDW has just finished her loan, and on the month (March) she finished paying her loan, she told us sob story of how her mom was going to die (we know it's not true because she's always of good appetite; singing; having fun with guys, telling my mum that her mum has died 2 days before, etc) and she wanted to terminate the contract and go home.

Since I knew it wasn't true, I told her to show me a doctor's letter with hospital letterhead and doctor's stamp.

Today I received the letter. It's photocopied, translated but there were some unclear parts, and no, no indication of seriousness of illness. When she showed me the letter and I rejected it, saying it wasn't how I wanted it, she sobbed and sobbed and went back to her room to mob (but her eyes after weren't even red).

So, eventually when we let her go, I want to let her go only as home leave since she still has not finished her 2-year contract. So I'm not going to allow her to take away all her belongings, and we're going to keep $500 which will be given back to her if she returns. Is that fair & just? We are even allowing her to go off for a full month. But we do know she has no intention to come back.

Right now, since she just finished her loan, she still doesn't have $500 in the bank yet though

i would feel it's better to let her go as she is unwilling to stay. she will create trouble or even inconvenient ur family members? some i heard can be very drama.

[madinked]

Yes as I mentioned, will let her go. Just on my terms not hers.

[jtoh]

madinked:

Hi there


I need advice. My FDW has just finished her loan, and on the month (March) she finished paying her loan, she told us sob story of how her mom was going to die (we know it's not true because she's always of good appetite; singing; having fun with guys, telling my mum that her mum has died 2 days before, etc) and she wanted to terminate the contract and go home.

Since I knew it wasn't true, I told her to show me a doctor's letter with hospital letterhead and doctor's stamp.

Today I received the letter. It's photocopied, translated but there were some unclear parts, and no, no indication of seriousness of illness. When she showed me the letter and I rejected it, saying it wasn't how I wanted it, she sobbed and sobbed and went back to her room to mob (but her eyes after weren't even red).

So, eventually when we let her go, I want to let her go only as home leave since she still has not finished her 2-year contract. So I'm not going to allow her to take away all her belongings, and we're going to keep $500 which will be given back to her if she returns. Is that fair & just? We are even allowing her to go off for a full month. But we do know she has no intention to come back.

Right now, since she just finished her loan, she still doesn't have $500 in the bank yet though

Is she paying for the air ticket and embassy fees or are you?

[MUMMYOF3]

madinked:

Hi there


I need advice. My FDW has just finished her loan, and on the month (March) she finished paying her loan, she told us sob story of how her mom was going to die (we know it's not true because she's always of good appetite; singing; having fun with guys, telling my mum that her mum has died 2 days before, etc) and she wanted to terminate the contract and go home.

My ex-maid also worked with me for a year+, once she finished her loan, no mood to work, stole my boy's phone and sms to Indonesia. I gave her a chance but she still no mood to work and told me that she felt something bad happened at home. So she called home and cried said her mum kana stroke and insisted to go back home. We eventually bought her a ticket to go home since she has no mood to work with here.. sigh !