All About Full-Time Maids

[jtoh]

madinked:

Hi there


I need advice. My FDW has just finished her loan, and on the month (March) she finished paying her loan, she told us sob story of how her mom was going to die (we know it's not true because she's always of good appetite; singing; having fun with guys, telling my mum that her mum has died 2 days before, etc) and she wanted to terminate the contract and go home.

Since I knew it wasn't true, I told her to show me a doctor's letter with hospital letterhead and doctor's stamp.

Today I received the letter. It's photocopied, translated but there were some unclear parts, and no, no indication of seriousness of illness. When she showed me the letter and I rejected it, saying it wasn't how I wanted it, she sobbed and sobbed and went back to her room to mob (but her eyes after weren't even red).

So, eventually when we let her go, I want to let her go only as home leave since she still has not finished her 2-year contract. So I'm not going to allow her to take away all her belongings, and we're going to keep $500 which will be given back to her if she returns. Is that fair & just? We are even allowing her to go off for a full month. But we do know she has no intention to come back.

Right now, since she just finished her loan, she still doesn't have $500 in the bank yet though

Is she paying for the air ticket and embassy fees or are you?

[MUMMYOF3]

madinked:

Hi there


I need advice. My FDW has just finished her loan, and on the month (March) she finished paying her loan, she told us sob story of how her mom was going to die (we know it's not true because she's always of good appetite; singing; having fun with guys, telling my mum that her mum has died 2 days before, etc) and she wanted to terminate the contract and go home.

My ex-maid also worked with me for a year+, once she finished her loan, no mood to work, stole my boy's phone and sms to Indonesia. I gave her a chance but she still no mood to work and told me that she felt something bad happened at home. So she called home and cried said her mum kana stroke and insisted to go back home. We eventually bought her a ticket to go home since she has no mood to work with here.. sigh !

[jtoh]

These maids are so strange. Finish loan and can finally earn full salary and they decide to quite. Don’t know what’s going through their minds.

[MUMMYOF3]

jtoh:

These maids are so strange. Finish loan and can finally earn full salary and they decide to quite. Don't know what's going through their minds.

Probably she's here for holiday ! Eat free mah and get to go out with us. We brought her to M'sia, Sentosa, round Singapore etc.. and even brought her to Geylang during Hari Raya to let her feel the mood of their Hari Raya. We bought her a cake and celebrated her birthday as well. And yet, once she finished her loan, all sort of excuse and pattern came out. So disappointed with her.

Now i learn to be smart ! Will not treat my new maid so nice anymore !

[madinked]

In the contract, it’s stated that we should pay for her air ticket, no matter who terminate the contract. So yah, I guess it’s us.


Anyway, I have enough of her lies. I’ll probably tell her she will go back, but at the end of July (which just nice brings her to a year of work; she’s a transfer maid btw; only with me for 7 months or so) and I’ll still want to keep the $500.

Yes, she came here to play. I once checked her phone and the guy said something like, "I thought you said you’re going to f*** me before you go back to Myanmar?"

In December, she already said once that her mother was critically ill. We didn’t like that she so casually just assumed she wanted to go, and we had to let her go. I told her she could go back if she paid me the rest of the loan and she never mentioned going back again, until March, when her loan was paid. It was the same case in March. The fact is she has a contract with us. How can we let her go off so easily?! She just assumed she gave us notice and we should let her go.

Since she could wait from December till March, I don’t see how she couldn’t wait till July.

In actual fact, we do want her to go. She’s a nightmare. But I’m staying at my mum’s temporarily so will let her go when we get our new place in July.

I think these maids think they can come here and it’s easy life. And when reality bites, they just want to pack and go back.

[jtoh]

LKVM:

MUMMYOF3:

Now i learn to be smart ! Will not treat my new maid so nice anymore !

Yes I too have learnt this lesson

That's the problem. You want to treat them nicely because they're in a strange country and a strange environment. But not all of them appreciate it. Worse is when you realize you've been played out.

[jtoh]

madinked:

In the contract, it's stated that we should pay for her air ticket, no matter who terminate the contract. So yah, I guess it's us.


Anyway, I have enough of her lies. I'll probably tell her she will go back, but at the end of July (which just nice brings her to a year of work; she's a transfer maid btw; only with me for 7 months or so) and I'll still want to keep the $500.

Yes, she came here to play. I once checked her phone and the guy said something like, \"I thought you said you're going to f*** me before you go back to Myanmar?\"

In December, she already said once that her mother was critically ill. We didn't like that she so casually just assumed she wanted to go, and we had to let her go. I told her she could go back if she paid me the rest of the loan and she never mentioned going back again, until March, when her loan was paid. It was the same case in March. The fact is she has a contract with us. How can we let her go off so easily?! She just assumed she gave us notice and we should let her go.

Since she could wait from December till March, I don't see how she couldn't wait till July.

In actual fact, we do want her to go. She's a nightmare. But I'm staying at my mum's temporarily so will let her go when we get our new place in July.

I think these maids think they can come here and it's easy life. And when reality bites, they just want to pack and go back.

Her boyfriend wrote to her in English? Terrible, these maids.

[BeautifulLife]

My maid is a great helper. Been with me for 4 years. She adores my kids and they play so well together. We are very comfortable with each other.


Of course there are hiccups once a while, such as breaking my stuff, doing wrong things despite my instructions…but she would apologize sincerely and I don’t hold it against her at all.

I am aware that she does lie to me. I need advice on whether I am being gullible to think that she lie not cos she is a bad person. I feel that she lie cos she wants to remain good in my books. There was once I confronted her lie and she cried so remorsefully.

Examples of her petty lies:
- she lie that she had washed her hands before handling my kids’ food when I question her. When I am out of sight, she quickly wash her hands.
I believe she simply forgotten to wash her hands, not like she is being
stubborn.

-I allow her to use my house phone to call her family any time she wants to. She doesn’t do it often so I always remind her to please call home in case her dad worries about her. She will say no need. But then I found out that in mornings when I send my kid to school, she calls her family. I feel that she lie cos she wants to be seen as good but why the need, when I am the one who always urge her to call?

- during her Feb home leave, I told her that it is ok if she gets herself a bf in her hometown and I don’t mind that they call each other when she is back to work for me. Am happy that she told me she got a bf. Cos we are now residing in China, I got her a calling card and taught her how to call
her bf. I don’t see her calling. So I asked. She said she decided that she
don’t want to be attached yet,blah blah. I was puzzled. Then I found out
she does call her bf behind my back. I am not angry cos the ultimate thing
is I do agree that she should have a healthy lifestyle in which she can fall in love…I am just puzzled why she want to lie?

So all mummies with maid, am I being gullible to think that she lie cos she want to remain good in my books?
Each time I caught her lying, I feel angry and would just walk away. But after 2 minutes, I will start finding excuse for her as to why she lie. And all these things that she lied, are so not important to me. Forgotten to wash hands before handling food, just wash asap lor! Why lie???

[Littlefly]

LKVM:

jtoh:

[quote=\"LKVM\"]
Yes I too have learnt this lesson

That's the problem. You want to treat them nicely because they're in a strange country and a strange environment. But not all of them appreciate it. Worse is when you realize you've been played out.

yeah i always used to tell DH must treate them nicely poor guys dont have any entertainment come here to work leave family, freinds so must treate them nicely only to know they are actually playing not with you but with your sentiments :([/quote]Probably they want to try their chances at 'dream jobs' or think they can getting better paid in HK/ TW ? I heard that they get to choose who they want to work for based on the job scope the agency shared.

[snoopy]

YES!! I agreed with what you have all said!!! Just sent my maid back abt 2 weeks ago. Can’t stand her. Always moody face. She actually didn’t answer me when I called her a few times!! So mad that I told her to pack and go back to the agent. Guess what? Her tears flowed straightaway and said she wanted to return home, got home problems! Bought her an air-ticket the next day. She left her diary( booklet given by MOM) behind. I got my colleague to interpret. She got the cheek to say that she doesn’t like my kid!! When I interviewed her, she said she likes kids!!! She even said she wants to change employer but doesn’t wat to pay the transfer fee, so waiting for us to speak up first!!! Maybe that’s why she purposely gave us "face" and didn’t want to answer me!! We played right into her hands!! I was fuming mad!! So no matter how "hard" life is now, I swear not to have another maid!!! Just that my kid suffers everyday, from travelling here and there. My poor boy still says he misses her. I told him she doesn’t like him at all, forget about her!