All About Full-Time Maids

[madinked]

In the contract, it’s stated that we should pay for her air ticket, no matter who terminate the contract. So yah, I guess it’s us.


Anyway, I have enough of her lies. I’ll probably tell her she will go back, but at the end of July (which just nice brings her to a year of work; she’s a transfer maid btw; only with me for 7 months or so) and I’ll still want to keep the $500.

Yes, she came here to play. I once checked her phone and the guy said something like, "I thought you said you’re going to f*** me before you go back to Myanmar?"

In December, she already said once that her mother was critically ill. We didn’t like that she so casually just assumed she wanted to go, and we had to let her go. I told her she could go back if she paid me the rest of the loan and she never mentioned going back again, until March, when her loan was paid. It was the same case in March. The fact is she has a contract with us. How can we let her go off so easily?! She just assumed she gave us notice and we should let her go.

Since she could wait from December till March, I don’t see how she couldn’t wait till July.

In actual fact, we do want her to go. She’s a nightmare. But I’m staying at my mum’s temporarily so will let her go when we get our new place in July.

I think these maids think they can come here and it’s easy life. And when reality bites, they just want to pack and go back.

[jtoh]

LKVM:

MUMMYOF3:

Now i learn to be smart ! Will not treat my new maid so nice anymore !

Yes I too have learnt this lesson

That's the problem. You want to treat them nicely because they're in a strange country and a strange environment. But not all of them appreciate it. Worse is when you realize you've been played out.

[jtoh]

madinked:

In the contract, it's stated that we should pay for her air ticket, no matter who terminate the contract. So yah, I guess it's us.


Anyway, I have enough of her lies. I'll probably tell her she will go back, but at the end of July (which just nice brings her to a year of work; she's a transfer maid btw; only with me for 7 months or so) and I'll still want to keep the $500.

Yes, she came here to play. I once checked her phone and the guy said something like, \"I thought you said you're going to f*** me before you go back to Myanmar?\"

In December, she already said once that her mother was critically ill. We didn't like that she so casually just assumed she wanted to go, and we had to let her go. I told her she could go back if she paid me the rest of the loan and she never mentioned going back again, until March, when her loan was paid. It was the same case in March. The fact is she has a contract with us. How can we let her go off so easily?! She just assumed she gave us notice and we should let her go.

Since she could wait from December till March, I don't see how she couldn't wait till July.

In actual fact, we do want her to go. She's a nightmare. But I'm staying at my mum's temporarily so will let her go when we get our new place in July.

I think these maids think they can come here and it's easy life. And when reality bites, they just want to pack and go back.

Her boyfriend wrote to her in English? Terrible, these maids.

[BeautifulLife]

My maid is a great helper. Been with me for 4 years. She adores my kids and they play so well together. We are very comfortable with each other.


Of course there are hiccups once a while, such as breaking my stuff, doing wrong things despite my instructions…but she would apologize sincerely and I don’t hold it against her at all.

I am aware that she does lie to me. I need advice on whether I am being gullible to think that she lie not cos she is a bad person. I feel that she lie cos she wants to remain good in my books. There was once I confronted her lie and she cried so remorsefully.

Examples of her petty lies:
- she lie that she had washed her hands before handling my kids’ food when I question her. When I am out of sight, she quickly wash her hands.
I believe she simply forgotten to wash her hands, not like she is being
stubborn.

-I allow her to use my house phone to call her family any time she wants to. She doesn’t do it often so I always remind her to please call home in case her dad worries about her. She will say no need. But then I found out that in mornings when I send my kid to school, she calls her family. I feel that she lie cos she wants to be seen as good but why the need, when I am the one who always urge her to call?

- during her Feb home leave, I told her that it is ok if she gets herself a bf in her hometown and I don’t mind that they call each other when she is back to work for me. Am happy that she told me she got a bf. Cos we are now residing in China, I got her a calling card and taught her how to call
her bf. I don’t see her calling. So I asked. She said she decided that she
don’t want to be attached yet,blah blah. I was puzzled. Then I found out
she does call her bf behind my back. I am not angry cos the ultimate thing
is I do agree that she should have a healthy lifestyle in which she can fall in love…I am just puzzled why she want to lie?

So all mummies with maid, am I being gullible to think that she lie cos she want to remain good in my books?
Each time I caught her lying, I feel angry and would just walk away. But after 2 minutes, I will start finding excuse for her as to why she lie. And all these things that she lied, are so not important to me. Forgotten to wash hands before handling food, just wash asap lor! Why lie???

[Littlefly]

LKVM:

jtoh:

[quote=\"LKVM\"]
Yes I too have learnt this lesson

That's the problem. You want to treat them nicely because they're in a strange country and a strange environment. But not all of them appreciate it. Worse is when you realize you've been played out.

yeah i always used to tell DH must treate them nicely poor guys dont have any entertainment come here to work leave family, freinds so must treate them nicely only to know they are actually playing not with you but with your sentiments :([/quote]Probably they want to try their chances at 'dream jobs' or think they can getting better paid in HK/ TW ? I heard that they get to choose who they want to work for based on the job scope the agency shared.

[snoopy]

YES!! I agreed with what you have all said!!! Just sent my maid back abt 2 weeks ago. Can’t stand her. Always moody face. She actually didn’t answer me when I called her a few times!! So mad that I told her to pack and go back to the agent. Guess what? Her tears flowed straightaway and said she wanted to return home, got home problems! Bought her an air-ticket the next day. She left her diary( booklet given by MOM) behind. I got my colleague to interpret. She got the cheek to say that she doesn’t like my kid!! When I interviewed her, she said she likes kids!!! She even said she wants to change employer but doesn’t wat to pay the transfer fee, so waiting for us to speak up first!!! Maybe that’s why she purposely gave us "face" and didn’t want to answer me!! We played right into her hands!! I was fuming mad!! So no matter how "hard" life is now, I swear not to have another maid!!! Just that my kid suffers everyday, from travelling here and there. My poor boy still says he misses her. I told him she doesn’t like him at all, forget about her!

[Littlefly]

BeautifulLife:

So all mummies with maid, am I being gullible to think that she lie cos she want to remain good in my books?

Each time I caught her lying, I feel angry and would just walk away. But after 2 minutes, I will start finding excuse for her as to why she lie. And all these things that she lied, are so not important to me. Forgotten to wash hands before handling food, just wash asap lor! Why lie???

Being a skeptic here, if she lies easily on trivial things, what makes you think she won't lie on other areas behind your back ?

[Littlefly]

snoopy:

YES!! I agreed with what you have all said!!! Just sent my maid back abt 2 weeks ago. Can't stand her. Always moody face. She actually didn't answer me when I called her a few times!! So mad that I told her to pack and go back to the agent. Guess what? Her tears flowed straightaway and said she wanted to return home, got home problems! Bought her an air-ticket the next day. She left her diary( booklet given by MOM) behind. I got my colleague to interpret. She got the cheek to say that she doesn't like my kid!! When I interviewed her, she said she likes kids!!! She even said she wants to change employer but doesn't wat to pay the transfer fee, so waiting for us to speak up first!!! Maybe that's why she purposely gave us \"face\" and didn't want to answer me!! We played right into her hands!!

Your maid is so scheming! Did she finish her loan ?

My maid did not tell me about any MOM booklet leh. Does every maid gets one ?

[BeautifulLife]

Being a skeptic here, if she lies easily on trivial things, what makes you think she won’t lie on other areas behind your back ?[/quote]


yes agreed she might have or maybe lied to you before without you know off…[/quote]


Hmm…I am a SAHM and my maid is with me everywhere I go except in the mornings between 7 to 7.30.
She is really a nice person otherwise. There was once she gave my younger ds 7ml of nurofen instead of 4ml. She quickly notify me. When the porridge that she is cooking is charred, she will also own up and apologize.
Each time she made a mistake and own up, I will just ask her to be careful next time. So she knows it is ok if she own up her mistake. Form the record, she only lie on petty things. Things that she should know I don’t mind…

[jtoh]

snoopy:

YES!! I agreed with what you have all said!!! Just sent my maid back abt 2 weeks ago. Can't stand her. Always moody face. She actually didn't answer me when I called her a few times!! So mad that I told her to pack and go back to the agent. Guess what? Her tears flowed straightaway and said she wanted to return home, got home problems! Bought her an air-ticket the next day. She left her diary( booklet given by MOM) behind. I got my colleague to interpret. She got the cheek to say that she doesn't like my kid!! When I interviewed her, she said she likes kids!!! She even said she wants to change employer but doesn't wat to pay the transfer fee, so waiting for us to speak up first!!! Maybe that's why she purposely gave us \"face\" and didn't want to answer me!! We played right into her hands!! I was fuming mad!! So no matter how \"hard\" life is now, I swear not to have another maid!!! Just that my kid suffers everyday, from travelling here and there. My poor boy still says he misses her. I told him she doesn't like him at all, forget about her!

I thought the new employer pays the transfer fee?