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[micollh]

LKVM:

Yes thats one problem if there the difference between 2 kids is more... for us its 4 yrs so I guess if its 4 its neither too late or too early... the only problem will be between the 1st and 3rd will be 8 yrs :roll:

agree.. age gap also a concern here. forget it ba.. haaa

[tigger88]

micollh:

as working mum, how many child most of u have? for me, i would thk 2 is max.. as looking after them is really not easy. if 3, will be too handful. and wont have that much attention to all ? ur say?

I have 3 and have always hoping to have 4. Their age gap is 2 years apart; the eldest one is 6. I try to spend time with each of them individually. I have a maid but sometimes when we go out on weekends, my maid will stay home. DH and I do not want to rely too much on the maid and try to be more hands-on.

[Funz]

I have 2 kids but would love to have another. Not happening though. I am not so much concern about the age gaps of the kids, my oldest will be 8 this year, but more of MY AGE .

[tigger88]

yup, 4 kids can be a handful but i guess mentally i am prepared for it.

[micollh]

tigger88:

I have 3 and have always hoping to have 4. Their age gap is 2 years apart; the eldest one is 6. I try to spend time with each of them individually. I have a maid but sometimes when we go out on weekends, my maid will stay home. DH and I do not want to rely too much on the maid and try to be more hands-on.

wow.. i really \"pei fu pei fu\".. how u handle? i always feel 3 or 4 is ideal before i was married and have kids. but when it's my turn, i feel 2 is ENOUGH. haa. cos really a handful lor.. how to handle 3 . 4 ? i guess im not that tough ba. like our mums, my mum has 3, they can handle the kids, housework, all sui sui.. and never complaint. but maybe the nature of our work now cannot compare apple to apple also.

but, if you feel u can do it and ur age range is safe, go ahead ! cos more kids will be merrier during festive season gathering. so happy ! next time mine will be only few people, jst like my husband side, his brother not married yet, so only my side have kids.. the rest all adult.. boring..

[micollh]

jessicawongcs:

anyway, i prefer to work than be SAHM :oops: i need to have some peace from DS, therefore,

i agree on this part.. if u ask me to stay at home 5 days a week with my kids.. i will want to faint.. weekends and evenings with them is so precious and i cherish more.. and working hours.. sometimes is peace of mind for me to relax and do my own things...

[tigger88]

micollh:

tigger88:

I have 3 and have always hoping to have 4. Their age gap is 2 years apart; the eldest one is 6. I try to spend time with each of them individually. I have a maid but sometimes when we go out on weekends, my maid will stay home. DH and I do not want to rely too much on the maid and try to be more hands-on.

wow.. i really \"pei fu pei fu\".. how u handle? i always feel 3 or 4 is ideal before i was married and have kids. but when it's my turn, i feel 2 is ENOUGH. haa. cos really a handful lor.. how to handle 3 . 4 ? i guess im not that tough ba. like our mums, my mum has 3, they can handle the kids, housework, all sui sui.. and never complaint. but maybe the nature of our work now cannot compare apple to apple also.

but, if you feel u can do it and ur age range is safe, go ahead ! cos more kids will be merrier during festive season gathering. so happy ! next time mine will be only few people, jst like my husband side, his brother not married yet, so only my side have kids.. the rest all adult.. boring..

It's not easy to handle 3 but I guess it gets easier when they get older. Both my DS1 and DD2 are in full day CC. My DS3 stays home with my maid and my dad comes to my hse daily to help supervise. My dad is great, he has been helping me since my DD2 was born. He is a very hands-on grandfather so I can work without worries. Weekend will be busier especially when my maid is off but we are used to it.

Age is catching up and it gets tougher with each pregnancy. I hope all my kids can have a closer age gap so gotta jia you soon. :love:

[micollh]

Jia yu tiger88 ! u make me re-consider whether i should have one more… haaa… but im comfortable with current situation now… maybe im selfish ba…

yes, after we become parents ourself, we really understand more how our parents being so nice and helpful and always ready there to help us… i promise myself, i will be there for my kids next time too…it makes so much difference in the quality of our life…

[tigger88]

micollh:

Jia yu tiger88 ! u make me re-consider whether i should have one more.. haaa.. but im comfortable with current situation now.. maybe im selfish ba..

yes, after we become parents ourself, we really understand more how our parents being so nice and helpful and always ready there to help us.. i promise myself, i will be there for my kids next time too..it makes so much difference in the quality of our life..

Actually I am very comfortable with the current situation too but I always ask myself if I will regret in future if I stop at 3 now.

DH and I discussed if we can manage financially, emotionally, time, etc etc. A lot of considerations...

[tigger88]

micollh:

jessicawongcs:

anyway, i prefer to work than be SAHM :oops: i need to have some peace from DS, therefore,

i agree on this part.. if u ask me to stay at home 5 days a week with my kids.. i will want to faint.. weekends and evenings with them is so precious and i cherish more.. and working hours.. sometimes is peace of mind for me to relax and do my own things...

I dun think I can be a SAHM too. I really salute those SAHM who can take care of the kids, do hsework and cook as well. Super!