Club 3 or more Kids
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I am so glad to find this thread. I hoped to learn more from parents who have more kids and destressing outlet methods. I have 4 kids from 1 to 7yo. These days I am in a dilemma. Hubby requested me to be SAHM. The step to sahm is soooo difficult. So much stress and what if on my mind. I know tt the time after work is not enough to share amongst them. Yet at the back of mind thinking of hw much classes my not-highlt paid salary can pay for.
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MMM:
Actually it depends on individual's situation. In the case of FTWM, I feel that my resource is limited so I've to outsource the tuition portion to external parties. My dedication to the kids is to arrive home by latest 8pm so that we can start our daily 2 hours revision/ homework time. Given the no. of kids, I cannot afford to coach them myself as it will be a situation where all will be neglected and I will be frustrated.24hr-mum:
hi parents
with 3 or more kids, how do u budget expenses for tuition?
i m sure cant tuition all subjects for all kids, unless super rich.
even if got $, time coordination is a problem, n plus the multiple trips.
how do u decide who gets what tuition?
I totally felt the same when I coach them all alone.
We try to schedule tuition on weekdays and some unavoidable ones to weekends so our weekends are effectively burnt. That explains why I am enjoying every moment of school hols.... OMG 3 more weeks :!: -
Wonder if anyone has managed to work part time with 3 kids? If you do, can share the working hours & job ?
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Hello …
I think I can qualify here.
I am a FTWM with 4 kids, aged 4-9 yrs.
I am soon will be doing without a maid. As it is more pain than of a gain to have them.
Have / Still thinking about SAHM option. Among them is to get PT / Flexi work. Havent conclude yet.
We have a OPC car. -
i3mum:
Wonder if anyone has managed to work part time with 3 kids? If you do, can share the working hours & job ?
Not sure what kind of job you would like. I am just sharing this cos it happened to me recently.
I went to McDs with my sis. Both of us had our kids with us, total 5, without hubbies or other adults.
It has been a long long while since I dined in at McDs. If I feel like it, I usually order the breakfast. So I was very very surprised when we walked in and there was a long queue for lunch, but this lady who looked like the manager (from the uniform) came up to us and offered us a nice table, ushered her staff to get 3 high chairs for the 3 younger ones, and then asked us not to queue up, she will order for us!
Besides that, she further surprised me when we were waiting for the food, by asking the kids to choose what balloon sculpture they wanted! Usually they give out normal balloons, I know, and have seen other kids walking around with those. But they sculptured stuff like poodles, and a beautiful flower with more than 1 long coloured balloon for my niece!
I was so impressed so I asked the manager if she already knew how to sculpture all these balloon animals and flowers, or she learnt after joining McDs. She said all the McDs staff go through the balloon sculpturing course!
I say, wow, then I also want to learn, half in jest, but then she said I should really consider PT work with McDs. Cos she started doing only 4h each morning last time when her kids were younger and in school for the mornings only!
After that incident, I went home and told Dh perhaps I should not return to my previous job in future when kids are older and do something more fun/ relaxing like working at Bakerzin or McDs, learn to make some things...
I am considering early childhood too... Or maybe set up some business... haha, a lot of dreams yah?
What are you thinking of? :love: -
Which branch did you go to? I was the one at Bugis Parco with my bb. It was very crowded and I was thinkiing of leaving my bag on the seat to get a drink when a staff and offered to get my order for me. I only paid for it after I rec my drink. McDs seem to be improving its service.
When the kids are older, I was thinking of taking up some courses in NIE -
Diesel:
You are thinking about the SAHM because you will be without a maid or even before you decide to not have a maid?Hello ...
I think I can qualify here.
I am a FTWM with 4 kids, aged 4-9 yrs.
I am soon will be doing without a maid. As it is more pain than of a gain to have them.
Have / Still thinking about SAHM option. Among them is to get PT / Flexi work. Havent conclude yet.
We have a OPC car. -
Luvkid:
And you must be enjoying your new baby now?
The pros is always there to start a family when u r young. At what age did u hv a DS1? I had DS1 when i was 28,4 years later with DS2 coming along...Thot no more...yet 5 years later
So having my this 3rd one is really fated. As i was already over 35, i chose to do anmio test, i dun dare to face the risk. Initially, i was like to keep or not to keep the bb-Let's leave it to fate. Firstly-heartbeat detected;ok not much worry-KEEP. Secondly-anmio test;ok not much worry-KEEP. Lastly-detailed scan;ok-MUST KEEP.
Continue to enjoy the way u r now with your bundle of joy!! :celebrate:
I had my first child at 28 too! Slightly over a year after marriage. Then the next two were born at three year intervals. So now I've attained my KPI by 34. :celebrate:
No more. Each pregnancy is harder and harder.
I find handling three kids ok, but I don't have a helper. My mum or in-laws will help me during the week. they can handle at most two each time. So, while DH and I used to be able to go to concerts for date nights before, now cannot coz grandparents cannot handle. We still go on dates, but gotta bring DS3 along. Anyway, he's breastfed, so he's easy to manage when we go out. -
Diesel:
Disel,welcome to this club. :celebrate:Hello ...
I think I can qualify here.
I am a FTWM with 4 kids, aged 4-9 yrs.
I am soon will be doing without a maid. As it is more pain than of a gain to have them.
Have / Still thinking about SAHM option. Among them is to get PT / Flexi work. Havent conclude yet.
We have a OPC car.
From the age of your 4 kids, they r juz a year apart :!: Kudos to u...
The maid part as u said \"more pain than of a gain to have them.\"-i agree with u. I heard from neighbour and sister how their helper \"help\" them,sounds so scary. Especially when this neighbour and sister are both SAHM, they can see how the helper \"help\".From daily groceries to the amount/type of food they eat. My initial plan was to get a helper since i am having 3 (earning not enough to cover cost to infant,childcare & student care), but in the end still gave up the thot as we can't entrust our little one to the helper.MummyThreeStreams:
Mummythreestreams,both DS3 and i juz passed our full month :lol: Well, so far so good. My life did not really go back to normal as in i have not started to coach DS1(P3) with his school work,which i used to do so previously. I really \"let go\" of him during my confinement. Now after confinement, i yet to bring myself back to the normal schedule of doing work with him.... :?: SA1 coming, real worried for him....I juz let him practise on past year paper from various school and mark his paper. Correction yet to go thru... :?:And you must be enjoying your new baby now?
I had my first child at 28 too! Slightly over a year after marriage. Then the next two were born at three year intervals. So now I've attained my KPI by 34.
No more. Each pregnancy is harder and harder.
I find handling three kids ok, but I don't have a helper. My mum or in-laws will help me during the week. they can handle at most two each time. So, while DH and I used to be able to go to concerts for date nights before, now cannot coz grandparents cannot handle. We still go on dates, but gotta bring DS3 along. Anyway, he's breastfed, so he's easy to manage when we go out.
Having yr DS1 at 28 is not really that young. But it's great that u mananged to hv all of them by 34. :celebrate:
For my case, 3 pregnancies considered smooth sailing,but of cos get more tired as age catches up
I dun like to leave kids to own parents or in laws. My dad has his own life,my mum too, has her own life,and i am not closed to her, so never get help from her to look after my boys. FIL-passed on....MIL has her own life too and i dun ask her help too,too much conflict. So after having kids, both our life are forever focusing on them,except we applied leave from work,we will be able to spend time alone.
It's good that u hv help from yr mum and in laws. In another 2-3 years when DS3 is older, you can resume the \"pa toh' lifewith DH again by handing 3 boys to grandparents,by then DS1 also 9yo,dun really have to take care. Continue to enjoy the way of life u r having now! :celebrate: -
SAHM_TAN:
Hello dear,
You are thinking about the SAHM because you will be without a maid or even before you decide to not have a maid?Diesel:
Hello ...
I think I can qualify here.
I am a FTWM with 4 kids, aged 4-9 yrs.
I am soon will be doing without a maid. As it is more pain than of a gain to have them.
Have / Still thinking about SAHM option. Among them is to get PT / Flexi work. Havent conclude yet.
We have a OPC car.
Yes ... partly considering SAHM since will be without maid....
I am giving her up .. anyone wants???????
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