Preparing kids for P5 in 2011
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QuiteKSMum:
don't worry, it is good your son has the motivation to do the project himself. He will learn time management and prioritization. In the adult world, we're confronted with short deadlines and multiple tasks. By letting him do his work, he will learn to handle the stress and better manage his time properly. As in the adult working world, there are times we have to forgo some things, to get the work completed on time.Hi mummies, I'm also guilty of helping... even in sec sch now... I wanted to help son file & polish his D&T (design & technology) project last wk but he rejected my offer! Said he had to do ALL his work HIMSELF...Theoretically, I want him to be like that too...but...but...TIME NOT ENOUGH! By helping out a bit here & there ( on stuff wh I think doesn't add much value ), I hope I can save some time for him to sleep, revise, read etc...
Still as KS as ever ...
:oops: but :celebrate: to like-minded parents...think our personality & expectations contribute to this \"harder life\" for us...
The positive side to doing all the work himself is that he learns to be more productive. He will be quicker in doing even the mundane stuff. Yes, it doesn't add value, but it really trains him to be independent, and he will quickly discover how to be productive in everything he does. -
Thanks, cimman, agree that time mgmt & prioritization skills are impt skills to acquire. Sincerely hope he can polish up these skills soon...(then maybe I can finally take a well deserved rest...prob wishful thinking on my part...)
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QuiteKSMum:
Thanks, cimman, agree that time mgmt & prioritization skills are impt skills to acquire. Sincerely hope he can polish up these skills soon...(then maybe I can finally take a well deserved rest...prob wishful thinking on my part...)
don't worry, he will. Better he gets the training now, then when he goes into the workforce. So many young people gets stressed out when they first step into the working world because they don't know how to prioritize and be productive in whatever they do. -
janet_lee88 wrote :[quote]My hubby told me I have to learn to let go or else son will never learn how to plan. [/quote]
Hi Janet,
Agree with your hubby... we do need to let go...maybe gradually ( guided independence). Guess it's a bit tougher for mummies, we know the talk, but it's more difficult for us to walk the talk.
:celebrate: to your DS for his SA1... You too, take care. -
Handwriting different - no problem, you just write on a sticky/paper and get the child to copy. :!: what am I saying/teaching !
My son sleeps early so I wrote notes in his dairy to give different excuses to the FT to keep him out of trouble for not completing the HW. Somedays, it is really shockingly too much.
I've been doing all the typing too. Also secretly worrying how he is going to cope in Secondary school. Or do I have to be the admin assistant for a long long time ?
Homeschooling is really a tempting option but I think the mom has to be very driven to keep to schedule. I also believe it is more beneficial to the child to interact with other children in the school environment. Sometimes it is like they go to school to socialise, back home to study ? ygwim ? :siao: -
janet_lee88 wrote[quote]When son was in P4 last year, the whole family literally had to help him with his homework...daughter in K2 helped out with colouring, hubby did the art work and I helped him to check the meanings of words so that he can save time and copy. Since teacher wanted them to write, I can't help him in that area or I would have just typed out.[/quote]
Rem when DS was in P3, his class had to do the Young Zoologist project. He could do some parts, but others I needed to chip in to help ... P4 I refused to let him take part, since I saw that there was no interest on son's part (& I was too caught up with work to guide him). T said it was compulsory for his class (one of the top class) & in the end, I had to write in to her ...to be excused fm this exercise... :x -
pixiedust:
Last year (P4), DD was wishing she was home-schooled coz she was bored in school.
Homeschooling is really a tempting option but I think the mom has to be very driven to keep to schedule. I also believe it is more beneficial to the child to interact with other children in the school environment. Sometimes it is like they go to school to socialise, back home to study ? ygwim ? :siao:
This year, I'm the one wishing she was home-schooled coz there's not enough teaching/learning in school. It became a place kids go to get stressed. Felt that parents have to squeeze for time (which was wasted in school) to do actual teaching.
But all that is \"talk\" only. At the end of it, I still think school is a better option as it allows DD to socialise and interact with her peers. And for all I know, DD could be more stressed with homeschool. -
Peony:
Ds1 (P4) is ok with the school but hates the homework part. So far this year I have written 4 love notes to his teacher to ask for a more day to complete his homework, either due to all the homwork (for all subjects) dishing out together or due to CCA, and I make him sleep by 10 pm, homework or no homework.
Last year (P4), DD was wishing she was home-schooled coz she was bored in school.pixiedust:
Homeschooling is really a tempting option but I think the mom has to be very driven to keep to schedule. I also believe it is more beneficial to the child to interact with other children in the school environment. Sometimes it is like they go to school to socialise, back home to study ? ygwim ? :siao:
This year, I'm the one wishing she was home-schooled coz there's not enough teaching/learning in school. It became a place kids go to get stressed. Felt that parents have to squeeze for time (which was wasted in school) to do actual teaching.
But all that is \"talk\" only. At the end of it, I still think school is a better option as it allows DD to socialise and interact with her peers. And for all I know, DD could be more stressed with homeschool.
It is very tempting for me to keep my ds3, now K2, at home at P1& even P2 level just to do stuff at his own pace and enjoy a longer childhood. I will also have more time and flexibility to bring him to the zoo, science centre, various gardens and parks, etc. He is a fast learner and he loves more challenging work. Now that I am busy preparing the older kids for their SA1, he also want to attempt gor gor's top school papers, but I discourage it as it will only give him a false sense of achievement. For Math, I ask him to try Math Olympiad by Terry Chew instead as the questions are more interesting.
But I like mainstream schools too (minus the pressure and the crazy squeeze for time lah). School is a good place to socialise but I can't imagine him at P1 spending so many hours in school everyday. There are also some things I do not agree with, like I prefer the kids to be identifying more Chinese characters and reading more before the introduction of HYPY. If he joins the mainstream from P1, he can't suika suika MIA, right? At P1&2 level, work is still very easy and I like him to have the opportunity to take part in story-telling during recess, sports day, project work, excursion, helping the weaker students in class, etc in school.
If I keep ds3 at home, 'homeschooling' will just be an excuse because I will not want to busy myself with planning his schedule and keeping to it. I have poor time management. But don't worry for him, having gone through my first 2 kids' lower primary, I know I will not jeopardise his future just to do 'nothing' for 2 years.
I like kids having school projects to do, but sometimes, the teachers like to give very tight deadlines or make it compulsory for every student. Just don't like the way some teachers execute it. Usually, it ends up being a family project. Good and bad but sometimes, it misses the point.
Anyway, do I really have a free choice? By default, ds3 will go to his gor gors’ school next year. Already sent in the completed Phase 2A form when the school requested for it few weeks ago. -
janet_lee88:
I definitely don't help my kids once they go to Sec 1. Older ones already jc & sec 2. Cannot imagine helping them!
Hi QuiteKSMum,
I doubt any mummy would be able to let go completely when the kid goes to Sec 1.. -
pixiedust:
I don't fancy the idea being his admin assistant when he goes to Sec 1...hubby said I shouldn't be planning his SA revision but I dare not let go and let son do the planning.I've been doing all the typing too. Also secretly worrying how he is going to cope in Secondary school. Or do I have to be the admin assistant for a long long time ?
For younger one in P1, I just can't accept the idea of learning hanyu pinyin before chinese characters. My gal hates it. Take this 'summative assessment' next week for eg, P1s have to form a sentence from the pic using hanyu pinyin. As I am coaching her in that area using assessment book, there are a few options given in the box and I personally have to read the hanyu pinyin sentences a few times before they register.
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