Growing apart

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Jennifer:

I am not a clingy wife, quite independent in working around the hse and the children. Since babyhood, toddlerhood and even now, my boys will only look for me when they need sth. I am like what cwc said \"ba-ke-liao\" type. My late granny taught me this : do not think of depending on others if you can do it yourself.

Hi Jennifer,
I am not clingy and quite bo-chap actually....as long as he's not pubbing/drinking etc, I'm fine doing my own stuff. But too much ALONE time made me feel lonely Since we are in a marriage, I want to age together & have things to talk about..... as sooner or later, the kids will setup own nest. There was a period when both my DH and myself would just do our own stuff & we both took it for granted. It took me a while before I voiced out & only then, DH realised and started responding & made some effort...it helped. Per what 3Boys said, need to put to action and sometimes if DH too blur to sense :stupid:, TELL HIM.

I ever heard this song and I like the lyrics.....something like this....
我能想到最浪漫的事， 就是和你一起慢慢变老 .....

我能想到最浪漫的事，就是和你坐在摇椅慢慢聊 ...

老到哪儿也去不了， 我还依然是你手心里的宝

[Jennifer]

cwc:

There was a period when both my DH and myself would just do our own stuff & we both took it for granted. It took me a while before I voiced out & only then, DH realised and started responding & made some effort...it helped. Per what 3Boys said, need to put to action and sometimes if DH too blur to sense :stupid:, TELL HIM.


I ever heard this song and I like the lyrics.....something like this....
我能想到最浪漫的事， 就是和你一起慢慢变老 .....

我能想到最浪漫的事，就是和你坐在摇椅慢慢聊 ...

老到哪儿也去不了， 我还依然是你手心里的宝

Really appreciate 3boys and your sharing. Yes, sth needs to be done before things get out of hand.

Other than this grouse, he is basically a good husband and father.

[Jennifer]

Had a talk with hubby ytd. Hopefully, we "improve".

[BeContented]

Jennifer:

Had a talk with hubby ytd. Hopefully, we \"improve\".

Hope things are getting better .......:love:

[Jennifer]

cwc:

Jennifer:

Had a talk with hubby ytd. Hopefully, we \"improve\".

Hope things are getting better .......:love:

:thankyou: he's still working hard, but talk to me more often these days.

U take care too.

[Mum1113]

Did not know can connect with pple here....like late night supper , late night NTUC shopping, rounder me x 4 ..


One thing about mine who likes to chat chat but only at night.....I tell myself must endure and tahan the late owl nights and sacrifice my sleepy eyes...

Takes 2 hands to clap and in order to clap louder , then both must work harder and in the same direction. Don't give up

[Funz]

Jennifer:

cwc:

[quote=\"Jennifer\"]Had a talk with hubby ytd. Hopefully, we \"improve\".

Hope things are getting better .......:love:

:thankyou: he's still working hard, but talk to me more often these days.

U take care too.[/quote]If he is making the effort. Remember to acknowledge the efforts that he has made.

That was one issue that DH and I had. When DH started making effort to improve things between us, I did not acknowledge his efforts and that became another issue as he felt unappreciated.

[Jennifer]

Funz:

If he is making the effort. Remember to acknowledge the efforts that he has made.

Appreciate the reminder. I hugged him last night before I dozed off :imanangel:

[QuiteKSMum]

Yes, reading this thread also makes me pay more attention to DH, rather than concentrating on DS all the time ... timely reminder as hubby will be one we grow old with... :celebrate:

[3Boys]

Jennifer:

Funz:

If he is making the effort. Remember to acknowledge the efforts that he has made.

Appreciate the reminder. I hugged him last night before I dozed off :imanangel:

Nice! Men really do appreciate these gestures.