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kwokwc:
She may truly not be ready. My son 2.5+yo and still nursing. But there are nights when I just tell him that it is very painful - I easily get cuts and broken skin on breast (and he knows), and he just goes to sleep with patting. I'm not exactly weaning him though, altho' it's a nice thought.Hi all great mums out there,
any good idea for weaning off? My gal is already 2.5 yrs but still bfg. I know she is just doing for comfort as she only wants to nurse to sleep. At other time, she won't think about it. In fact, that is also 1 way to get her to go for her afternoon nap. At night, once she is in her pj, the moment I lie down, she will come to me and ask for her comfort.
I tried talking to her. Everytime, I talked to her and asked if she could stop nursing, she will nod her head. But every night, once she knows it is sleeping time, she will want to be nursed. Is it really must keep talking to her until she wean off herself? I don't really want her to cry to sleep, as she is last baby, both my husband and me can't help to see her cry this way.
For my elder girl, she stopped on her own when she turned 2. Not sure if the teachers in the childcare help to talk her out.
Need some advice and help here.. :?: -
kwokwc:
Is there a reason for weaning her now rather than later?Hi all great mums out there,
any good idea for weaning off? My gal is already 2.5 yrs but still bfg. I know she is just doing for comfort as she only wants to nurse to sleep. At other time, she won't think about it. In fact, that is also 1 way to get her to go for her afternoon nap. At night, once she is in her pj, the moment I lie down, she will come to me and ask for her comfort.
I tried talking to her. Everytime, I talked to her and asked if she could stop nursing, she will nod her head. But every night, once she knows it is sleeping time, she will want to be nursed. Is it really must keep talking to her until she wean off herself? I don't really want her to cry to sleep, as she is last baby, both my husband and me can't help to see her cry this way.
For my elder girl, she stopped on her own when she turned 2. Not sure if the teachers in the childcare help to talk her out.
Need some advice and help here.. :?: -
MummyThreeStreams:
Is there a reason for weaning her now rather than later?
Just want her to don't rely on me so much. And to get better sleep (both for her and me). Sometimes I think when she nurses for so long, she is so worried that I go off and she is not sleeping properly. End up both of us are not sleeping properly. There are also some nights when she will still nurse a few times at night. Really very disturbing to our sleep. Lucky for now, husband is the one waking up to settle the 2 older kids for their school. Sometimes feel so bad that husband is doing all my work for me. -
kwokwc:
why do you feel guilty? And it's your husband's duty too, since he's the father. I don't see any problem in that.MummyThreeStreams:
Is there a reason for weaning her now rather than later?
Just want her to don't rely on me so much. And to get better sleep (both for her and me). Sometimes I think when she nurses for so long, she is so worried that I go off and she is not sleeping properly. End up both of us are not sleeping properly. There are also some nights when she will still nurse a few times at night. Really very disturbing to our sleep. Lucky for now, husband is the one waking up to settle the 2 older kids for their school. Sometimes feel so bad that husband is doing all my work for me.
Mine gets all the 3 older kids to school if I don't wake in time either. Oh well, the eldest walks to school herself so that's not much he needs to prepare her. -
kwokwc:
DS1 was 15 months old when i got pregnant with DD2.Hi all great mums out there,
any good idea for weaning off? My gal is already 2.5 yrs but still bfg. I know she is just doing for comfort as she only wants to nurse to sleep. At other time, she won't think about it. In fact, that is also 1 way to get her to go for her afternoon nap. At night, once she is in her pj, the moment I lie down, she will come to me and ask for her comfort.
I tried talking to her. Everytime, I talked to her and asked if she could stop nursing, she will nod her head. But every night, once she knows it is sleeping time, she will want to be nursed. Is it really must keep talking to her until she wean off herself? I don't really want her to cry to sleep, as she is last baby, both my husband and me can't help to see her cry this way.
For my elder girl, she stopped on her own when she turned 2. Not sure if the teachers in the childcare help to talk her out.
Need some advice and help here.. :?:
I had threatened miscarriage and had to stop breastfeeding.
But DS1 refused to let go.
I put on lime and lemon juice, and that did the trick!
He tried to suckle initially, but after a few tries he gave up.
But I put him near me and snuggled him to sleep to give him the sense of security. DD2 being the youngest had the luxury to breastfeed till 3 years old. One fine day she told me \"mummy, dry up already\" and she stopped on her own accord. But of course she needed to cuddle up with me before she could fall off to sleep.
I really cherish those days........ :snuggles: -
kwokwc:
DH sends my DS1 to school. I'm sleeping soundly through their breakfast etc.! and no, I don't feel bad.MummyThreeStreams:
Is there a reason for weaning her now rather than later?
Just want her to don't rely on me so much. And to get better sleep (both for her and me). Sometimes I think when she nurses for so long, she is so worried that I go off and she is not sleeping properly. End up both of us are not sleeping properly. There are also some nights when she will still nurse a few times at night. Really very disturbing to our sleep. Lucky for now, husband is the one waking up to settle the 2 older kids for their school. Sometimes feel so bad that husband is doing all my work for me.
Back to your issue. It will be harder to wean completely in one step. If there are no pressing timelines, then I usually suggest that mummies consider gradual weaning. This is to allow the child time to get used to it. This usually involves dropping one nursing session at a time. And it is really up to you which one you choose. If the night time ones are causing you to be tired during the day, then perhaps those will be the ones you try to drop first. Even then, you need not drop all night nursings. Just those in the middle of the night ones which wake you up.
What I did was to keep the bedtime nursing session, then I told my boys that at night we all going to sleep. Including the boobies. So no nursing. The taps are closed! And I also told them that can nurse as soon as the sun came up, and we were all awake. I prepped them, but there was some whining and a bit of crying at first, but I would cuddle them and just remind them everyone was sleeping and they could nurse as soon as the sun came up.
It was much easier for DS2 because he was older when I introduced this to him. He was about 2+ as opposed to 1+ for DS1. At that age, DS2 was more independent and needed the nursing less...it sometimes pays to wait a bit, till they're more ready.
Sometimes, if I wasn't feeling up to the bedtime nursing, I would also tell them that my boobies didn't feel so well and needed to rest. They usually understood and left me alone.
Alternativey, you can try the counting down method for bedtime. Maybe tell your DD that she can nurse, but only until the count of 10 or 20 or whatever. Then, you can start by counting slowly, then over the days or weeks gradually pick up the pace of counting. this worked for me while I was pregnant and wasn't able to nurse so much.
Hope this helps! -
Thank you mums for the ideas. I am not looking at weaning her off immediately. I also like the close feeling when she nurse. Just that sometimes it is really tiring. In fact, whenever she falls sick, I am glad that she has not wean off as no matter what, when she nurse, she is getting some form of food into her.
I will try some of the method here and slowly wean her off.
I feel bad for my husband to do all the preparation work, because he is working very hard already. Early morning after sending the kids to school, he will go help my dad in his business. When he returned home, he will tend after our own business so that I can look after the 3 kids and their school work. I know that he is extremely tired, so I feel bad. He usually sleep later than me but as he knows he can get better sleep than me, he will wake up to settle the kids. -
kwokwc:
Your hubby is a good hubby!
He usually sleep later than me but as he knows he can get better sleep than me, he will wake up to settle the kids. -
MummyThreeStreams:
Thanks, I know that. I think he is a even better father.
Your hubby is a good hubby!kwokwc:
He usually sleep later than me but as he knows he can get better sleep than me, he will wake up to settle the kids.
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The smell of my bb's poo finally hit me about the food that I consume. I ate papaya and the next day when bb poo, I could smell papaya :lol:
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