Throwing Tantrum

[Oppsgal]

So next time my kid throw empty water pen at me, I throw back and scream like the toddler?


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[sall]

Oppsgal:

So next time my kid throw empty water pen at me, I throw back and scream like the toddler?


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You should give him a hard spank. If this action is not stopped, when he's older, he'll throw knives at you. Then it'll be out of control. Children will not grow out of bad behaviour. If they are not punished, they'll just get worse when they're older.
Nowadays, a lot of parents love their children so much they cannot bear to scold or spank them. This is doing a lot more harm than any good. Small kids don't know a certain action is right or wrong, if parents don't punish them for any wrong action, they'll assume it's all right to do that.

[Funz]

DD and DS have on occasions tried to vent their frustration on me by being curt or downright disrespectful. No spanking needed. A simple "You think that is the proper way to speak to me?" or if they were requesting for something "Do you think you will get any help from me with that tone?" On days when I am short on fuse, it will be a hard stare and a very firm and curt "watch that tone".


I think I have a lot more patience when they were younger but now that they are 6 and 8, I expect them to know how to behave and control their anger better. So no long winded explanations. But if they seem unable to reign their anger in, I will ask them "am I the one who is causing them to be angry? If not, please do not speak to me like that." And they will be sent to go cool off until they are ready to speak to me properly.

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Funz:

DD and DS have on occasions tried to vent their frustration on me by being curt or downright disrespectful. No spanking needed. A simple \"You think that is the proper way to speak to me?\" or if they were requesting for something \"Do you think you will get any help from me with that tone?\" On days when I am short on fuse, it will be a hard stare and a very firm and curt \"watch that tone\".I think I have a lot more patience when they were younger but now that they are 6 and 8, I expect them to know how to behave and control their anger better. So no long winded explanations. But if they seem unable to reign their anger in, I will ask them \"am I the one who is causing them to be angry? If not, please do not speak to me like that.\" And they will be sent to go cool off until they are ready to speak to me properly.

hey, i like that... i do that sometimes too especially after 2 warnings & they still made the same mistake

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WCW:

Oppsgal:

So next time my kid throw empty water pen at me, I throw back and scream like the toddler?


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and roll on the floor crying, let them have a feel of it :laugh:
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dun throw it back. throw it another direction & ask \" anymore to throw?... throw more & you will have no more. i'm not going to buy for you anymore if u dont know how to control \"

sometimes i do this : if DD or DS throws something at me in a fit of anger, even that item doesnt hit me, i will quietly pick it up & threw it into the rubbish chute, rubbish chute ar, not waste paper basket

then i will give them a wide eye look, hands on my hips, daring them to throw more.

after 2 or 3 times, they eventually learn mummy's not easy to fight with :imcool:

[puff]

Oppsgal:

So next time my kid throw empty water pen at me, I throw back and scream like the toddler?


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If my DD want me to do something for her and is rude , I will be rude to her too then ask her how she feels when I behave this way.

So if DD would to throw pen at me I would throw it back( but i wont scream like a toddler ) then ask her if she like being treated this way.

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WCW:

wow fierce mommy. i also scare :scared:

donch play play... :laugh:

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WCW:

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[quote=\"WCW\"]wow fierce mommy. i also scare :scared:

donch play play... :laugh:

okok, i will be good mommy :scared:[/quote]ooi, :offtopic: liao :spank:
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[sunflowerseed84]

woah u all r strict parents. sometimes i see parents either not knowing what to do or just throw the kids to maid/grandparents when their kids throw temper and kick up a big fuss in public.


i think some of us may become too protective and 'soft' compared to the older generations. *still remember how strict parents in the past used to be. :scared:

[Angelight]

Smurf, I happened to chance on your post and thot I would share here.


I don’t know how old your son is, but have you tried ‘time-out’ or even ignore him when he threw his tantrums at you so as to let him know bad behavior will not be paid attention to?

After he has calmed down, then try talking or reasoning with him. If all else fails, maybe it’s best you bring him to a child counsellor who can assess his temperament and solutions to manage his anger issue.

It’s better to nick the problem in the bud when the child is younger. It’d be harder to counsel and change the behavior of the child when he grows older. Hope my suggestion helps.