All About Full-Time Maids
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Wa! That’s quite bad. What is yr hubby’s opinion?
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How do u think a filial son will react? Of course ask me to bear lah, then will tell me I have to manage the maid lah.
Initially, DH had reluctantly agreed to place FIL in nursing home. Eventually I pity him & agreed to hire maid as last resort before sending FIL off..... tho I already warned that will not work based on the experience with last 3 maids (that time, maid only have to face MIL in the daytime loh). Dun stay together already soooooo much issues, stay together sure war. Also agreed that if this maid dun work, then no more maid, just send FIL and rid the maid. So now, all change tact.....become, if this maid dun want, get another. Frankly, I dun want .....rather maidless. As long as dun need to take care FIL, I'm more than happy and capable of settling my own house and kids.
Anyway, I just ignore both Maid and MIL just now. They can argue all they want, I'll wait to see who ask to go first, either way, I dun want to step into their shit. I have said enough times to both - if the maid wants to get herself out of the job, go ahead - if MIL wanna chase another maid away and we can't get one who knows how to take care of elderly, she can quit her job & stay home look after the old man herself (this is what she detest).
IN fact, I detest MIL now for recently, she has been telling DH to stay back and do things for her, dun have to send kids to tuition with me and then go out with me. Want me to send the kids myself!!! 不安好心 :mad: -
Oh dear cwc. I hope you’re able to get some sort of respite in your own bedroom.
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Hi jtoh,
thanks…yes, I am hiding in room surfing. Actually what I really feel like doing is to go out and clear some stuff…but really no mood to face MIL at all. -
cwc, nevermind. Hide in the cyber kiasu world with us.
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CWC, can you drop some hints to your maid to quit or transfer out ? :evil:
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Cwc, i would also rather go maidless if not for my #2. Counting on maid to do housework and help in cooking. My confinement auntie told me my maid has been getting influenced by my neighbour's maid (worked for 4years) who bragged about how easy is her job, high pay, freedom, gifts from employer etc. :stupid:
Recently, my maid has toothache problem and we sent her to dentist for tooth extraction. As she's only with us for 3months, we helped to pay partial dental expenses and deduct the rest through monthly expenses. But later she heard from neighbour's maid that her employer paid for all her dental expenses, she gave me super black-face. :mad:
My CL tried telling my maid that we've been treating her right (every meal got meat, eat all she want, little housework, no need to get up at night to make milk for #1 and #2, slept at least 8-9hrs, rest time afternoon) yet she's dissatisfied. We usually bring her out on weekends and even when my hb can't bring her out to library, he will help her borrow her Malay romanace books for her.
She also told my CL she hoped to get off on Hari Raya so she can go out and visit her friends in Singapore when she clearly knows she has no off-days in her contract. I don't mind giving her some time off on their New Year but if she gives me attitude problems and don't seem to appreciate our kindness then can forget about it!
All these my maid never tell me and i don't know if my CL is the one who's stirring things up. So just wait and see. Akang datang... :roll: -
hquek:
hquek, my existing maid is quite reliable and has clean record with me so far.. \"BGR\" issue shld not be a problem...but then lately she show \"pattern\" like taking easy way out to do things, hiding in the kitchen most of the time, using \"working time\" to chat on the phone, losing patience over my children....thks for highlighting me on pt 2! this is a valid point which i overlooked!...actually for me, I'm a SAHM so i can \"supervise\" the new maid, maybe the risk of having existing maid \"polluting\" the new maid is not worth taking....i also scared they discuss about pay leh...Admummy:
Is it a good idea to let the new maid \"attach\" to my existing maid coz i only managed to get air ticket for existing maid to fly back to Java after the new maid arrives...i was thinking the existing maid can provided sort of orientation and buddying to the new maid and i could save the trouble to re-train the new maid plus there will be no language barrier......what are your views? Thks in advance!!
I have person to jaga maid so I don't intend to let the 2 meet. But if training is really impt, and your old maid is leaving on happy grounds, and/or your current maid is a trusthworthy and nice sort of person, then it may be a risk worth taking.
Reasons for not meeting:
1. old maid could teach new maid negative things. I heard of stories where the new maid get acquainted with bf of existing maid...so the relationship continue.
2. I would wonder if the new maid may be sad at seeing the old maid go home (ie increase homesickness) - brain start to wander etc (I have very fertile imagination). -
jtoh:
jtoh, yah, scarly she jealous of the pay difference then sabo her hor..coz this new maid starting pay is already higher then my existing maid (due to the recent pay hike for indo maid)....i've spoken to my existing maid, requested her to let me record how she perform daily chores and make it into a vcd for the new maid to refer....like this shld be quite safe bah....and i can \"recycle\" the vcd for future maids...hahahha...Admummy:
Is it a good idea to let the new maid \"attach\" to my existing maid coz i only managed to get air ticket for existing maid to fly back to Java after the new maid arrives...i was thinking the existing maid can provided sort of orientation and buddying to the new maid and i could save the trouble to re-train the new maid plus there will be no language barrier......what are your views? Thks in advance!!
It depends on how much you trust you old maid. Sometimes the old maids will pass on gossip or purposely sabo the new one by giving them wrong instructions on how to clean your house etc. -
Admummy:
Wow, not a bad idea to record a VCD for the new maid to learn how to perform daily chores.
jtoh, yah, scarly she jealous of the pay difference then sabo her hor..coz this new maid starting pay is already higher then my existing maid (due to the recent pay hike for indo maid)....i've spoken to my existing maid, requested her to let me record how she perform daily chores and make it into a vcd for the new maid to refer....like this shld be quite safe bah....and i can \"recycle\" the vcd for future maids...hahahha...
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