Small fish in big pond or big fish in small pond?

[Pen88n]

Come to think of it, big pond small pond is only for a short period of time. School life is only for that initial 20 years (for boys a little more) or less.


By the time they are out of school, they are all in the ocean and the world is their oyster. How they survive, be it they are big or small fishes, and how they grow are really up to themselves. This is the ultimate test that will determine your success in life.

[hquek]

Nebbermind:

but that being said, the size of the fish is always limited by the size of the tank....u can only grow that much.

Agree with this. I was from a neighbourhood pri school and was a big big fish there. But when I went to a branded sec school, I suddenly realised the world was so much bigger and I'm but an ikan bilis (if I'm lucky).

Following that, for fun, I went to a '2nd-tier' JC during the first 3 months; followed by a '1st tier' JC for the rest - again the exposure and the world was so much different. In the 1st tier JC, they give a lot of help and support for students taking S papers (not sure what it's called now), and for those aiming for overseas studies/scholarships. I don't think there is this level of support in say, the lower tier jc.

So there is something to be said of the big sea vs the small pond, the things you see are so much more, the friends you make are of a different type (nothing good or bad in either tank), the support you get also different. First 20 years of our life only, but something that will leave a mark on our lives for a long long time.

[rosemummy]

Nebbermind:

ever kept some fish before. given limited space, the bigger fish always get the food 1st...and more. The smaller fish always remain relatively small.


but that being said, the size of the fish is always limited by the size of the tank....u can only grow that much.

sorry...i can't figure out what i'm trying to say....LOL!!!

True. I guess the food available to the fishes, and how the caregiver looks after them, are also important factors. The caregiver can always separate the smaller fishes for feeding. Just as any school can provide special help to their weaker pupils.

The size a fish can grow to is limited by the size of the tank if the fish is close to the size of the tank. But we're talking about a pond, so it's unlikely a problem unless you have an extremely large fish is a very small pond (say a child with above 270 in a below par neighbourhood school).

[BeContented]

jtoh:

cwc:

Not exactly a BIG pond lah, but definitely bigger & more challenging than the previous. You're right, never try never know
In fact, quite interesting to see her show some little sparks of intelligence and the elder brother (only 1 yr diff) getting a little surprised and edgy that the younger sis is slowly catching up on him :rahrah: that should keep him on his toes

With such a close gap in their age, is there quite a bit of competition?

Definitely. But so far, pretty healthy type But sometimes, I need to be careful such that I have to encourage both and not demoralize any

Whenever one has issue with schoolwork, the other will be all eager to try to help solve it (aiyah, prove themselves lah).....so I can shake leg :boogie:

[jtoh]

cwc:

Definitely. But so far, pretty healthy type But sometimes, I need to be careful such that I have to encourage both and not demoralize any

Whenever one has issue with schoolwork, the other will be all eager to try to help solve it (aiyah, prove themselves lah).....so I can shake leg :boogie:

Good for you. Can relax.

[BeContented]

jtoh:

Good for you. Can relax.

That's sometimes just shake leg 3 mins start to shake hand and cane :nunchuk:
Kids....haizzz.....forever bickering..... :frustrated:

[jtoh]

cwc, hahahaha!!!! You're very funny.

[toddles]

MyBaby:

Jumping into this thread as the subject caught my attention. It reminded me of one of RGS Principal's slide when DD went for the recent Open House. She had a slide with the question \"Big Fish, Small Pond?\" or \"Big Pond, Small Fish?\" Then she went on to say that it does not matter as at the end of the day, it is still the same fish (that is, the size of the fish is the same). It is the quality of water that matters.


Then DD turned to me and said, \"Mum, what she said is true but there are also other schools that can provide quality water.\" That was also when I realised that she wasn't keen on gaining entry to RGS ...

Interesting... I guess in RGS they have many big fish so the pond feels crowded though the quality of water is good. So I may be the same fish but there are so many bigger ones in that pond... there are other schools that have good quality water, but I suppose no two qualities will be the same...

I guess it all depends on personality... I was big fish in small pri sch pond, small fish in big sec sch pond... was small fish in big job pond (small office size but all v capable), then move to slightly bigger fish in small job pond (large office size but v few capable), and feel very content now... no need to struggle and have great relationships with everyone...

depends on what the fish in question is like, and what the fish wants out of life...

[MyBaby]

Agree with you- what's best for one person might not be the best for another. DD is currently big fish in small pond with reasonably good quality water and it suits her well - lots of opportunities and interesting programmes. But she is not the competitive nor the kind to speak up - so would probably drown amongst all the fish in a big pond...


Anyway, asked her to focus on her PSLE first then we think about the school - no point putting the cart before the horse. For all we know, she might not even be able to qualify to be the small fish in a big pond with exceptionally good quality water :lol:

toddles:

depends on what the fish in question is like, and what the fish wants out of life...

[Nebbermind]

toddles:

depends on what the fish in question is like, and what the fish wants out of life...

Unfortunately, as far as SG is concerned, it's usually the parents who decide on which pond the child shd be in.