2011 PSLE Discussions and Strategy

[Leanne]

Hey Brenda,


Very true, the next three months is really the kid’s own effort.Whatever need to be done, should have done.The ball is in their court now.

cheers

[Brenda10]

Leanne:

Hey Brenda,


Very true, the next three months is really the kid's own effort.Whatever need to be done, should have done.The ball is in their court now.

cheers

Hi Leanne

Yes, I think the next 3 months they will be very busy with all the school work.

DD felt a big release when she completed the E/M/S PSLE Booklet.

[ridcully]

Brenda10:

Pen88n:

But the actual effort has to come from the kid thru' his / her own motivation.


Come secondary school and they are on their own - we can't continuously monitor and \"push\" for every subject by then. So, they have to realise the \"push\" has to come from internal.

In fact we can observe from the forum that most of the discussions are on primary school matter compare to secondary school. Think the most the parent can help is up to P6 and the secondary may quite beyond our reach as the children will be busier and also have their own thinking as they have turned into teenager.

My feelings too, but I would share with you that as an English private tutor I teach a lot of secondary school students one-to-one when such students get into a 'dream' school and then the parents find that their children cannot cope. The period after the mid-year exams in Secondary 1 is a highlight of my year...

The Secondary 4 year is quite interesting too. Having heard the message that the Chinese language is so terribly important because of the 'rise' of China etc, parents realise that the L1 component of L1R5 requires a high level of English if their children are to get into that 'dream' junior college or polytechnic course.

I guess my message is that parents at the primary school phase should think more realistically about the capabilities of their children. Yes, if you really push you might get your child into a 'dream' secondary school, but what's the point if that child then spends several miserable years constantly struggling and gets turned off learning for life? Although many successful people come from dream schools, a far greater number of people exit their dream schools and carry on dreaming...

Rgds
R

[Brenda10]

ridcully:

Brenda10:

[quote=\"Pen88n\"]But the actual effort has to come from the kid thru' his / her own motivation.


Come secondary school and they are on their own - we can't continuously monitor and \"push\" for every subject by then. So, they have to realise the \"push\" has to come from internal.

In fact we can observe from the forum that most of the discussions are on primary school matter compare to secondary school. Think the most the parent can help is up to P6 and the secondary may quite beyond our reach as the children will be busier and also have their own thinking as they have turned into teenager.

My feelings too, but I would share with you that as an English private tutor I teach a lot of secondary school students one-to-one when such students get into a 'dream' school and then the parents find that their children cannot cope. The period after the mid-year exams in Secondary 1 is a highlight of my year...

The Secondary 4 year is quite interesting too. Having heard the message that the Chinese language is so terribly important because of the 'rise' of China etc, parents realise that the L1 component of L1R5 requires a high level of English if their children are to get into that 'dream' junior college or polytechnic course.

I guess my message is that parents at the primary school phase should think more realistically about the capabilities of their children. Yes, if you really push you might get your child into a 'dream' secondary school, but what's the point if that child then spends several miserable years constantly struggling and gets turned off learning for life? Although many successful people come from dream schools, a far greater number of people exit their dream schools and carry on dreaming...

Rgds
R[/quote]Thank you for sharing.

I do think that language for EL and CL are very important to build up when children are young otherwise they will face the difficulties when moving up to Secondary school.

My niece failed her EL (D7) on O' level and cannot enter JC few years ago and her father paid a lot for her to go Australia to further her study.

As such, whenever we meet him during the CNY gathering he always remind us to pay high attention in \"language\"!

[pixiedust]

ridcully:

...but I would share with you that as an English private tutor I teach a lot of secondary school students one-to-one when such students get into a 'dream' school and then the parents find that their children cannot cope. The period after the mid-year exams in Secondary 1 is a highlight of my year...

....I guess my message is that parents at the primary school phase should think more realistically about the capabilities of their children. Yes, if you really push you might get your child into a 'dream' secondary school, but what's the point if that child then spends several miserable years constantly struggling and gets turned off learning for life? Although many successful people come from dream schools, a far greater number of people exit their dream schools and carry on dreaming...

Rgds
R

Ridcully, thanks for sharing the above. It is indeed an important food for thought. I guess for most parents, there is this hope that the child will mature and bloom in a 'dream' secondary school hence all the pushing and hand-holding just to squeeze through the gates. However, I have heard \"stories\" of IP kids (PSLE >260) being asked to leave the IP programme/school at Secondary 1/2 due to unsatisfactory results and it was really deterimental on their self-esteem.

From your experience, are these \"dream\" schools the COP range >250 ?

[Edureach]

Brenda10:

Pen88n:

As the date of PSLE draws nearer, I am of the opinion that as parent, we should just be around to support the kid. We will point the direction, and help when help is needed. But the actual effort has to come from the kid thru' his / her own motivation.


Come secondary school and they are on their own - we can't continuously monitor and \"push\" for every subject by then. So, they have to realise the \"push\" has to come from internal.

In fact we can observe from the forum that most of the discussions are on primary school matter compare to secondary school. Think the most the parent can help is up to P6 and the secondary may quite beyond our reach as the children will be busier and also have their own thinking as they have turned into teenager.

The next 3 months are more on their own effort.

Yeah! At sec level, is more on subject combi, alternative path and career guidance.

[Brenda10]

Hi pixiedust


I also heard that if the child unable to meet the requirement in the school only offer 'Express stream", they also have to transfer out as their school don’t cater for "Normal stream".

As such, we have to take in all these factors as consideration when choosing Secondary school.

[Edureach]

Brenda10:

Hi pixiedust


I also heard that if the child unable to meet the requirement in the school only offer 'Express stream\", they also have to transfer out as their school don't cater for \"Normal stream\".

As such, we have to take in all these factors as consideration when choosing Secondary school.

Normally no transfer, but sadly ask to retain.

[Brenda10]

Edureach:

Brenda10:

Hi pixiedust


I also heard that if the child unable to meet the requirement in the school only offer 'Express stream\", they also have to transfer out as their school don't cater for \"Normal stream\".

As such, we have to take in all these factors as consideration when choosing Secondary school.

Normally no transfer, but sadly ask to retain.

That's really sad :sad: and the child must be able to take it!

[Edureach]

Brenda 10


That’s why cannot anyhow send a kid via dsa to a renown school especially if his/her score is more than 30 pts away. Especially for boys, totally no room for error.