Club SAHM
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Happy Mama:
Thank you Happy Mama! Work can definitely wait! Although sometimes I wonder too, if I want to return to work one day, will they still want me? Will I be able to work? My mum quit her job to be a SAHM but after being out of the workforce for so long, she couldn't get back in. It's ok if you don't want to get back into the workforce, but what if you do want to work again? I'm not too worried about it now, but it's at the back of my mind.
:goodpost: MummyThreeStreams and welcome to the club! :rahrah:
I was like you 8 months ago, torn between career and family. I was very reluctant to give up my very attractive salary but once the decision's been made, there's no looking back, and I'm enjoying every bit of my time focusing on my child. Work can wait, but the joy of watching our kids grow and being there for them when they need us most, is something money cannot buy. :love: -
MummyThreeStreams:
Hi. Totally agree abt the need to have me time away from the children to de-stress. I yell a lot when i am frustrated sometimes so loud that I think neighbors can hear me. :p. Those are my down days when really driven up the wall and start to doubt that I do not have the right temperament to be SAHM. I have been switching between FTWM n SAHM over the years and this round may be SAHM for a longer period until the kids are grown up maybe. But still feel I am at the crossroads somehow and still not fully settled down.
I sometimes get very frustrated at home too! I yell too much...but it has been getting better.
I'm still learning. The one thing I try to do is to try to spend some me time. It helps with the stress and frustrations! Being with the kids all the time can drive one crazy...so we need our 'off' too. DH helps a lot too when he's off work, but he works long hours so it's mostly me managing the household during the week.
I've also gotten similar comments about wasting degree, etc but my DH also feels that the children will still benefit somehow. -
terry:
We had to consider changing DS1's kindy after K1 too coz we moved house. My friend who is a pre-school teacher strongly advised me not to do it just for K2 because it could disrupt preparation for P1. She said it's because each school has their own curriculum and when you switch, the new school may have already covered something your previous school hasn't. In her experience, there have been kids transferring into her school who had a tough time.im gonna switch sch for my K1 boy. since im not working nw, i intend to mv him to a kindy near my plc. he attends a kindy near my parent's when i was working last time..he is still there in fact.
many have told me not to shift him since he is used to the sch and teachers in his current sch since preN. and nw only left 1yr mre to go b4 P1.
aw, i gg to visit the new sch next wk...wondering shd i bring my boy along?
I'm not sure i agree fully with her that it is so critical. coz even if they miss some stuff, it won't be a lot and you can always catch up in P1. of course, it's better to stick to the same school (assuming the school is doing a decent job), coz the kids will know each other, and the teachers will know the kids and their learning styles, developmental progress etc.
Ultimately, we chose to stick with the school as my son takes a long long time to warm up and had only started opening up to his teachers after a year in K1 (the form teacher moves up with them to K2). He's not very adaptable to new situations and I didn't want to stress him with a new home and new school for K2 and again a new school in P1 and a new brother. Too much change for my boy to adjust to over two years.
I think you just need to make the decision based on what works for you and your child. For some kids, the change may be too stressful; for others, it's no big deal. -
Hi SAHM Tan, thanks. I’ll look up that thread!
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linden2000:
Oh, my neighbors definitely could hear me!!! They must have thought I was the mum from hell! :oops:
Hi. Totally agree abt the need to have me time away from the children to de-stress. I yell a lot when i am frustrated sometimes so loud that I think neighbors can hear me. :p. -
Hi SAHM Tan, thanks. I’ll look up that thread!
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MummyThreeStreams:
Same here :oops:
Oh, my neighbors definitely could hear me!!! They must have thought I was the mum from hell! :oops:linden2000:
Hi. Totally agree abt the need to have me time away from the children to de-stress. I yell a lot when i am frustrated sometimes so loud that I think neighbors can hear me. :p.
Have been trying to yell less. The lack of sleep because of bb does not help. But still :xedfingers: -
MummyThreeStreams:
Hahaha no lah, if they have children themselves, they should understand. I think maybe mine are immune to my yelling already, too used to it. :oops:
Oh, my neighbors definitely could hear me!!! They must have thought I was the mum from hell! :oops:linden2000:
Hi. Totally agree abt the need to have me time away from the children to de-stress. I yell a lot when i am frustrated sometimes so loud that I think neighbors can hear me. :p. -
Happy Mama:
well said HappyMama! :goodpost:
:goodpost: MummyThreeStreams and welcome to the club! :rahrah:MummyThreeStreams:
Hello! Haven't had time to read through all 94 pages yet. I guess I should join this club too. I have three sons. 6yrs, 3 yrs and 5 months. I have been drifting in and out of SAHM-hood since 2006. I am much happier focusing on my family. I used to be so miserable when I was a FTWM. working PT wasn't so bad though. DH earns enough to support our growing needs and he is very happy for me to stay home coz I am happier. Also, he doesn't think anyone else can do a better job at home than I can. I sometimes wonder what if I had continued on my career path...I was doing very well and was expected to rise far. My pay would've doubled...I would have a fancy title with lots of staff under me...I don't regret giving it up though, because I remember how miserable it felt to be always so torn between the two worlds, one of which I didn't even like very much! I always wanted to be home, but was always working instead. My boss was very kind. He told me to go take care of my family first. I could always resume my career later. After all, we can work till our 60s but our window of opportunity with the kids is so small. I appreciated that reminder.
It irks me, though, when I get people tell me that it is such a waste for me to stay home...DH says my children will benefit from my degrees! Although to be honest, I don't do very much academic stuff with my kids! I just love
them and play with them (not even educational games). I think any mum, with or without degrees can do that! My no pay leave will end next year. We'll decide our next course of action then. In the meantime, I'm enjoying my kids!
I was like you 8 months ago, torn between career and family. I was very reluctant to give up my very attractive salary but once the decision's been made, there's no looking back, and I'm enjoying every bit of my time focusing on my child. Work can wait, but the joy of watching our kids grow and being there for them when they need us most, is something money cannot buy. :love: -
if dun chg sch then the travel time is a killer. evday gotta send/pick…
my son takes awhile to warm up oso…when he was in preN,took him almost 1 full term for him to accept the fact tat evday must go sch.
2day my energy level was so low…i really admire those mummies pregnant still gotta work evday. i hope after i deliver will feel better cos gotta entertain 2 instead of only 1 liao.
hw do u guys do it?
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