Mummy wimdils: hi everyone..

[wimdils]

was teaching in a mission school for 5 years, started out with teaching P2, then was moved up to P4,P5…


the decision to stop, i think, was quite natural for me. i was giving my all to teaching my students and by the time i got home, had to clear marking and that left me little time to spend with my own two. it was the guilt that i was "molding the future of the nation", but not my own. another reason was that it was disheartening to see younger colleagues, who are not as capable, get promoted earlier than me. (my fault, for not studying hard enough in my younger days, so only qualified for the diploma course in NIE) (quite confident to say not being sour grapes, but i knew my worth in the school) n i did get jaded doing the same thing… lost the passion, i guess.

switching careers was an option,(i had a marketing dip from poly) i thought hard and realised if it was in another field, i would not feel that terrible. of course, studying, was clearly no laughing matter. it was like i needed to split my entire being into parts. haha

[schellen]

wimdils:

was teaching in a mission school for 5 years, started out with teaching P2, then was moved up to P4,P5..


the decision to stop, i think, was quite natural for me. i was giving my all to teaching my students and by the time i got home, had to clear marking and that left me little time to spend with my own two. it was the guilt that i was \"molding the future of the nation\", but not my own. another reason was that it was disheartening to see younger colleagues, who are not as capable, get promoted earlier than me. (my fault, for not studying hard enough in my younger days, so only qualified for the diploma course in NIE) (quite confident to say not being sour grapes, but i knew my worth in the school) n i did get jaded doing the same thing.. lost the passion, i guess.

switching careers was an option,(i had a marketing dip from poly) i thought hard and realised if it was in another field, i would not feel that terrible. of course, studying, was clearly no laughing matter. it was like i needed to split my entire being into parts. haha

Hi and welcome! We have a number of parents here who are studying or have been studying recently. Maybe you wanna share over at another thread? Just click on the following link:
http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/forum/viewtopic.php?t=4326

[wimdils]

hi cserene,


oh ok. so like you’d qualify based on distance… IJ Kellock no balloting? have been thinking about schools for my own two. initially, thought of single sex schools for them, but on hindsight, i think the logistics would kill me. (school buses, extra classes, pick up times, PTMs, u get the picture… ) so now contemplating co -ed schools. my frens said that the school that i ideally want has not been built yet…haha!!! i think, its just the high standards that i expect, but to me, its like playing dice, u do years of research, (PV, community leader) and then hope and pray for the best that the kids also like it too and they, as individuals benefit from it too.
for me, i have been trawling through this website for sometime now… and have been eliminating, adding schools from my list… not come to conclusive decision yet.

[RRMummy]

wimdils:

left me little time to spend with my own two. it was the guilt that i was \"molding the future of the nation\", but not my own.

OIC...

wimdils:

another reason was that it was disheartening to see younger colleagues, who are not as capable, get promoted earlier than me.

I know exactly what you mean.. not nice feeling to be sidelined like that at all!

wimdils:

switching careers was an option,(i had a marketing dip from poly) i thought hard and realised if it was in another field, i would not feel that terrible. of course, studying, was clearly no laughing matter. it was like i needed to split my entire being into parts. haha

You are very brave!! :ugogirl:

Having to cope with my gals after work, I still dare not venture into taking a part-time course..

[SGoku]

:welcome: wimdils


You forgotten to add in the word \"slave\" :rotflmao:

I had seen many parent help their child to carry their bag and say \"What you want to eat? Mummy buys for you\".

:siam:

[wimdils]

i guess you are right. In blindness of love, some do that, not realising that they are hampering the child’s psychologically. i have seen parents carry their upper primary child’s school bag and drop them off EXACTLY at the porch, not a metre earlier.

[amylqf]

:welcome: too

[wimdils]

thanks everyone, for the warm welcome…


just would like to get some insight…

currently, i live in CCK Crescent. my two go to MMI Claymore in Orchard. and after school, my kids go to my mom’s place in Toa Payoh. the travelling time from CCK to town is a killer 40 min(expressways!). then, will pick them up at about 7 pm,to make the journey back to CCK.

this wasn’t always the situation. I used to stay in with my mom till recently. so no problem in travelling.

does anyone have a similar situation? how do you cope?

[SGoku]

I just attended my wife's friend wedding last week. There is no perfect wedding - some things screwed up along the way.


Realistically, there is no perfect life. However, we can overcome each stage and learn to live better.

Travelling from CCK to Toa Payoh and back might seems as a killer to a lot of people. It's either we change the environment or we adapt to the environment. Or ask yourself can we benefit from it in some ways?

When i used to ask some close friends out, they will say comments such as \"so far\", \"can meet near my house or not\" or even \"wa lau eh, meet so far for what\".

Singapore is not as big as most countries. When i went oversea for business trip, we have to travel 1 hr plus to reach the place. And their traffic is like a war zone....car zig zag like avoiding missiles.

It will be a good story to let your kids know that travelling is easier now than their grandparents' time. Buses were without aircon, no MRT and travelling is really not that convenient.

One of the solutions now is whether your mum can stay at your place to take care of the kids. Might not be visible as you would have do that already.

Or change your kids school.

Or have your kids go to a kids centre near your place.

If neither above does not work, bear with it for a few more years and your kids will grow up. Then give them E Card and they will travel by themself
:celebrate:

[wimdils]

have thought of the options…

pros-children well adjusted at school, have formed frenships, are generally above average in their studies, easy for my mom to pick them up after school, ppl have advised me to wait until my younger son has fully grasped the phonics,as they sch teaches it well, then consider changing school.

cons – long travelling time, tired kids, despite early bedtime…

guess just have to bear with it a little longer…