Club 3 or more Kids

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kabalevsky:

hi xygl,

if you do have #3, the age gap between your #1 and #3 will be same as mine. My #3 (dd) arrived when ds1 entered P1.

I think definitely they get less time from us. There are only 24hrs in a day, so the more kids means attention is shared. But yes, like the moms above, I do the bedtime reading with all 3 together. Usually #3 will be wandering around cos her attention span is much shorter. If #3 is especially fussy and wants to nurse, then Dh will take over the reading with the 2 older boys. Is your Dh able to help?

I also don't have a helper, so Dh's help is very important. When he goes on overseas trips, that's when it gets very bad. So I hope if you don't have a domestic helper, at least you have your mom or Dh to help you?

I don't know if being a SAHM or FTWM would be a difference, cos at night, after dinner, our time is so limited too. The boys sleep at 8pm and honestly, at the end of each day, I always wonder, where did all the time go to? I don't seem to have done much with each kid each day!

But if we don't take it day by day and look at the big picture, like maybe over the months or years, then I'd say, I love having 3 kids. It is definitely worth it, worth all the mess (and for me, it is physical mess too!), worth all the extra effort and less sleep...

I love to see them playing together, love watching the older boys take care of their sister, and I like to believe that all 3 of them learn even more people skills and other life skills, living and interacting with each other on a daily basis.

So if you wish to, just go ahead!

We are in love with the piceture of 3 kids playing together (we have playdates with fren's kid and the picture is beautiful).

Yes, in life u gain some u lose some. I believe a FTWM would be different as good chance is the children will not be in care centre for such long hours. I wld have managed differently

We practised light-out at 9.30pm but we/me will have to stay with them till 10-ish. They will not \"release\" us We would send them to bed earlier towards end year since dd1 will have to wake up earlier for school.

I am contemplating to bite the bullet and get a domestic helper to tide through this period. If given a choice, this is not my preference as I had quite bad experience with them. :imdrowning: :snooze:

Anyway, its such a comfort to hear from many of you here as I know 3 is not impossible :udawoman:

[Kabby]

castle house, champ, mintymin,

Good morning!

xygl,
help and support is important. if a domestic helper can ease your workload and give you more time with kids, why not. hope you'll get a great helper this time, so no added stress!

i would have more kids if i could cope cos of the beautiful picture! haha. Dh wants more too, but I seriously doubt I can cope, so I told him, enough le.. 3 is a nice enough picture.

[MintyMin]

kabalevsky:

castle house, champ, mintymin,

Good morning!

xygl,
help and support is important. if a domestic helper can ease your workload and give you more time with kids, why not. hope you'll get a great helper this time, so no added stress!

i would have more kids if i could cope cos of the beautiful picture! haha. Dh wants more too, but I seriously doubt I can cope, so I told him, enough le.. 3 is a nice enough picture.

Good Morning Kabby!!

[Castle House]

Morning Parents..


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[tigger88]

Morning! busy day for me…will pop in whenever I can. Have a great day mummies!

[MintyMin]

tigger88:

Morning! busy day for me....will pop in whenever I can. Have a great day mummies!

tigger jie.. U'll b missed!! :hugs:

[Castle House]

Morning Parents..


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