BGR for a 13 year old

[sall]

NO. After ‘A’ level, then it’s ok. But not 13 yo, only in Sec 1. Studies should be the main priority.

[1amber]

O no... http://i55.tinypic.com/2ed4507.jpg\">

[Herbie]

If we totally reject BGR, the kid may just do it(go out together) behind our back.

So how??

[linden2000]

Definitely not supportive. Boy or girl?

Probably should sit down and have a good talk.
Explain possible consequences of such an early relationship.

[BeContented]

Oh no....I'm having a headache :sick:

With all these possible issues, how to head back to workforce next time.....

Probably will have to sit down and have a good talk with the child.....let them understand the 'dangers/cons' of such early BGR. Maybe need to 'pretend' (yes, pretend cos I am actually quite old-fashioned in my thinking, but bo-bian) and try to get them to share with us.......dun shut us out and do things behind our back :skeptical:

[sall]

DD told me 2 of her Y3 seniors are dating. So I took this opportunity to tell her about why they should not be dating and so on. Easier to talk about others, so she won't feel defensive. Thankfully, she agreed with me.

[1amber]

easy to start by talking about everything under the sun when they are still young. That way there won’t be any taboo topic that they want to hide from you.

[1amber]

easy to start by talking about everything under the sun when they are still young. That way there won’t be any taboo topic that they want to hide from you.

[Herbie]

Hi cwc and 1amber,

I am pretending to be ok with this BGR thingy and trying to listen to what the kid has to say so as not to shut him/her out.

And at the mean time, I tell the kid why parents strongly oppose to BGR… and other issues…

I hope I am on the right track…

[rong05]

For me, even though in my heart, i want to say no BUT i am not in the position to say no cos i started ‘going steady’ at 14. Fyi, i was from a girls’ school. My parents strongly objected to it, tried to intimidate me with lots of consequences. Unfortunately, I was defiant & rebellious. So for my boy now, though he is only P1 now, my hb & I have decided to be open about it when the time comes. We will tell him to bring his gf to show us & we will bring her out on family outings at times. At least that way, we can ‘monitor’ a little.


I have a cousin who is 14yo this year. That is her case now. She talks to her mum about her arguments with her bf. To my aunt, being aware of it is better than being kept in the dark. Of cos, must educate on PMS though.