Is it too much?

[Nebbermind]

Think this episode is just a lesson on how not to be wasteful and keep within a budget.


I'm quite sure if the 700 SMS were mainly for schoolwork, they will definitely have no objection!

[Oppsgal]

At least got free things to use.


For me, I am thinking if my kid is in secondary, at most only give a hp with prepaid card of $20 per month. After that, use own pocket money to top up.

I don’t care my kid use 700 sms or 1000++ sms, as is the choice how my kid likes what to use the money on.

[Nebbermind]

Oppsgal:

At least got free things to use.


For me, I am thinking if my kid is in secondary, at most only give a hp with prepaid card of $20 per month. After that, use own pocket money to top up.

I don't care my kid use 700 sms or 1000++ sms, as is the choice how my kid likes what to use the money on.

Sometimes we also tried not to interfere. But alot of time, we realised we have to set the attitude right.

Eg, if my children decide to use all or most of their pocket money to buy 'extra' time for their prepaid card, then I'll definitely step in. The pt is that pocket money is given for the purpose of making sure they have proper recess and lunch. For them to forgo both just to have more calltime, that, too me, is not right.

[Oppsgal]

Nebbermind:

Oppsgal:

At least got free things to use.


For me, I am thinking if my kid is in secondary, at most only give a hp with prepaid card of $20 per month. After that, use own pocket money to top up.

I don't care my kid use 700 sms or 1000++ sms, as is the choice how my kid likes what to use the money on.

Sometimes we also tried not to interfere. But alot of time, we realised we have to set the attitude right.

Eg, if my children decide to use all or most of their pocket money to buy 'extra' time for their prepaid card, then I'll definitely step in. The pt is that pocket money is given for the purpose of making sure they have proper recess and lunch. For them to forgo both just to have more calltime, that, too me, is not right.

I think the thing is we adults should just give advise. At such age, i believe the children should be more mature than in primary school?

They can choose to spend their money talking, and have a hungry stomach? Or they can eat, and spent less expense on talking on handphone and use free house phone.

[corneyAmber]

Oppsgal:

Nebbermind:

[quote=\"Oppsgal\"]At least got free things to use.


For me, I am thinking if my kid is in secondary, at most only give a hp with prepaid card of $20 per month. After that, use own pocket money to top up.

I don't care my kid use 700 sms or 1000++ sms, as is the choice how my kid likes what to use the money on.

Sometimes we also tried not to interfere. But alot of time, we realised we have to set the attitude right.

Eg, if my children decide to use all or most of their pocket money to buy 'extra' time for their prepaid card, then I'll definitely step in. The pt is that pocket money is given for the purpose of making sure they have proper recess and lunch. For them to forgo both just to have more calltime, that, too me, is not right.

I think the thing is we adults should just give advise. At such age, i believe the children should be more mature than in primary school?

They can choose to spend their money talking, and have a hungry stomach? Or they can eat, and spent less expense on talking on handphone and use free house phone.[/quote]I think what Oppsgal is trying to say is let them learn the cause and effect on their own. To some extent I agree as we cannot molly-coddle them forever. As parents we also need to choose the battle to fight, otherwise burnout very quickly!!! :rotflmao: If it is a lesson they can learn on their own, leave them to discover their own folly. If it is a lesson with no reversible course, eg. it entails death, then parents have to be more forceful in their advice. Of course, all these contingent on the fact that the bonding is strong, otherwise forceful advice would not be heard as well.

[snowman.022851697]

If your child decides to waste his pocket money on prepaid value without any left to eat or drink then it is their problem. Because the money is theirs and they choose how they’re gonna spend it. But they will have to pay the price themselves because again, that is their money.

[Chenonceau]

If my child wants to run the risk of venereal disease because it is his body.


If my child wants to run the risk of drug addiction because it is his body.

If my child wants to self-mutilate because it is his body.

If my child wants to kill himself because it is his life.

http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2009/10/all-way-my-saviour-leads-me.html

What hurts my child hurts me. Our destinies are ever intertwined.

If I knew that my child was going hungry or had not enough stationery because of too much handphone expenses, I would feel uncomfortable. It's not just a question of whose money it is... it is a question of 2 people so intertwined that when one hurts, the other feels it.

The same drive that makes me feel like slapping the bully who has hurt my kid, is the same drive that will drive me to cane my kid to teach him not to hurt himself. Of course, one doesn't go around slapping people whenever one feels like it... but oft times, one sure feels like it.

[Nebbermind]

snowman.697:

If your child decides to waste his pocket money on prepaid value without any left to eat or drink then it is their problem. Because the money is theirs and they choose how they're gonna spend it. But they will have to pay the price themselves because again, that is their money.

:salute: :salute:

[corneyAmber]

snowman.697:

If your child decides to waste his pocket money on prepaid value without any left to eat or drink then it is their problem. Because the money is theirs and they choose how they're gonna spend it. But they will have to pay the price themselves because again, that is their money.

A child has no money to begin with.

[Oppsgal]

ksi:

snowman.697:

If your child decides to waste his pocket money on prepaid value without any left to eat or drink then it is their problem. Because the money is theirs and they choose how they're gonna spend it. But they will have to pay the price themselves because again, that is their money.

A child has no money to begin with.

Learn to save pocket money?

Parents should train the kids to be more independent. If everything also control and force them to listen, then kids will never learn, will never grow up? some might even rebel, asked why parents always want their own way, not listening to them?