Club SAHM
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terry:
haha...i know the feeling of 'all i want is to be with my babies'reading thru the posts and recalling gd intentioned advice frm frends, i supposed i shd be making mre of an effort to rekindle the romance in my r'ship.
but u noe what, deep deep inside my heart, all i want is to be with my babies. my hb is a source of distraction and responsibility that i smtimes resent. i wanna dress the way i like, look the way i want, plan the day as i please WITHOUT any body judging me. Bcos,like what my ds1 tells me all the time, to him, i am the prettiest and best mommy in the whole wide world! that, ppl, is true appreciation!
oops..there u go, i said it.. :rahrah:
when we had our first few 'newfound freedom' a few months back, i kept telling my dh,'i want my babies...
' lolz.
i have to time and again remind myself that they will grow up eventually and then their wives will become their 'best' person and most 'pretty' person in the whole world. my dh's uninitiated calls to my MIL (i had to remind him to call to say hello!) also somehow reinforce this idea.
i am trying to slowly accept it so that i won't be stricken with severe empty nest syndrome when the time comes. :sad: -
cwc:
DH is doing a similar kind of work as I used to do when I was working. In fact, he thinks I'm much better than him, so he is always sharing with me about work, and trying to pick my brains. It used to be fun, but honestly, I'm finding it tedious...I am a SAHM so I can get away from all that work stuff, but now DH is handing it to me on a platter!!Are any of you afraid that DH will one day complain that he can no longer communicate with the wife?
We being SAHM will kinda have limited exposure to the corporate world, our life is kinda centered around chores, home, school, kids etc. Woman outside more interesting leh....... how do you keep yourself 'updated'?
But it helps me understand what he's going through at work, so that his long hours are a little bit more bearable for me. But we also talk about other stuff - stuff we're interested in, friends, extended family, gossip etc. have never worried about not having enough to talk about...sometimes the more tired party will fall asleep while the other one is yakking away! -
i missed too many posts over the weekend, now catching up and so consolidating all the replies.
very heartening to see so many couples over 20yrs of marriage. must be sweeter as the years go by.
jedamum, yes i look forward to my youngest one growing older and then being able to have date nights then. for now, the DVDs and snacks aft kids sleep are good enough.
mummy3streams, ya, sometimes Dh and I manage to have lunch tog, but with dd, same reason, nursing kid. it's quieter and rather nice cos the boys are at sch. but still, it's not the same as just the 2 of us. so i do look forward to when we can leave the 3 of them with either mom or mil in future.
Dh likes to attend concerts (he;s in the music line) so we'll prob go for concerts. Right now, cos they have restrictions for kids under 6, so we can't bring the kids, and yet cant leave them at home with anyone, so we havent been doing his fav pastime for yrs. We used to do this kind of thing weekly during courtship days and in the early marriage.
Mummy3streams, being in the same line means you can understand his frustrations and joys at work, must be nice.
Sahm tan, wah, can you cook something to bring on our playdate then? yummy!!!
terry, your boy is so so sweeT!
auntieM, turn on all your charms when he is back! don't worry, you are the best! -
jedamum:
50% talk about kids since I spend so much time with them. Need to keep him updated.
talk about chit chat. what you couples chat about huh? we have nothing to chat about! whahahaha....nothing much except children stuff and maybe bring up some embarassing stuff we used to do when young. we don't discuss shows (he dont watch) or current affairs (i dont watch!)!sleepy:
No date night la. Have tibits or biscuits in front of TV after kids are asleep.
We only 'date' in between kids' enrichment classes eg. drink coffee & chit chat while waiting for their classes to end
50% about his work and colleagues. I met his colleagues quite a number of times so can attach faces to names. Through dh's sharing, I feel as if I'm working too
Sometimes we talk about his golf. He will tell me about his new break through in scores. So I share his excitement even though I'm not into golf & praise him a little la -
DH and I have a dinner date once a month. Sometimes there will be other adhoc dates, like movies. We also watch tvb drama serial after the kids sleep
We talk about anything - the kids, his work, our friends, parents, stock market, or anything interesting we see or hear. -
auntieM:
We try not to be in the kitchen at the same time. No space for 2 big parents :rotflmao:SAHM_TAN.. How nice to have daddy and mummy preparing a meal together!
envy leh.. ....
Last time courting time, he will still cook prawn noodles for me, from scatch, liang teh, now he tells me no time. But will still cook for family
He was forced to learn to cook and care for himself when young, school of hard knocks. -
linden2000:
Wow he must really enjoy your cooking to tahan the hunger.SAHM_TAN:
Also learn how to cook new delish dishes. The way to my DH's heart is through his stomach. Sometimes he tell me he can't rush back for dinner. But I tell him I'm cooking a particular dish, he will endure hunger to come home for dinner :evil: :rotflmao:
but food must be ready when he's home.
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kabalevsky:
But seems like we are going indoor playground, doubt can bring outside food. Another time lah, when it's a potluck playdate
Sahm tan, wah, can you cook something to bring on our playdate then? yummy!!!
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SAHM_TAN:
sure sure! i'm pretty sure there'll be more chances!
But seems like we are going indoor playground, doubt can bring outside food. Another time lah, when it's a potluck playdatekabalevsky:
Sahm tan, wah, can you cook something to bring on our playdate then? yummy!!!
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SAHM_TAN:
Hehee.. ..My DH stayed abroad in his younger days and got tough-up then too..
We try not to be in the kitchen at the same time. No space for 2 big parents :rotflmao:auntieM:
SAHM_TAN.. How nice to have daddy and mummy preparing a meal together!
envy leh.. ....
Last time courting time, he will still cook prawn noodles for me, from scatch, liang teh, now he tells me no time. But will still cook for family
He was forced to learn to cook and care for himself when young, school of hard knocks.
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