All About Full-Time Maids

[flyfree]

clk:

This maid work for me for 6th mths already, she is not clever type but i always think she is hardworking...Her cooking also not gd but to me I always felt that cooking need practise, so I close both eyes. She very forgetful, so I wanted her to write down in a notebook, but she even forget to write, I had to remind her to write it, but at the end she forget to read on the notebook, I still tolerate her as I really scare to change maid.


I always busy, so never notice any dirtiness, only very particular on my own toilet, and yet scolded her for 3 times on toilet too dirty. One day when my hubby using the master toilet, i hightight ma go use the common toilet, aiyo nearly fainted.. once step in can smell bad smell, then whole floor is wet, I sit on my toilet bowl n look around, there is mould all round the toilet tiles, then I was very unhappy, when i stand up and wanted to flush the toilet bowl, i saw there is dirt behind, so I shouted for her, then I asked her when she wash toilet, she said tis morning, I was very mad, I wanted to take up the cover plate that we normally sitting on the bowl, wow...it stick on the bowl n i pull hard top open then notice there is urine stain on it, so long time never wash so the plate stick onto the bowl...I was so damn fedup. The next thing i see was urine stain at the back. I get so work up and asked her, how she washed? Just washed will the plate stick to bowl?? She told me she never even open up the plate...can you stand that?? Then I asked her how about the shower room, the tiles all mould...she said she did washed but cannot come out, but when i try it can be remove.... Another thing was my daughter new cloth just wore once, she iron till burn, my new pant just buy also iron till 1 batch 1 batch...All these happened, I still never think of transfered her... Even cny I bring her along go genting holidays, what my kids play, she did followed, what we eat, she also get to eat. Before I go for this trip already told her must recognise all the new cloths plus all ppl underwear and pantis, but she still bring wrong one back cos after the genting trip we go back my hometown, so when my kids blame her, she still complain was my son fault, i so angry but also don't want to make things big. Then when I felt like cooking by inviting my best friend over for our new yr meal, when I take out a pot, and the pot full off white mould, I very fedup, cos still new yr ma, so don't want scream at ppl, so just said piang!! how horrible, can you please don't be so dirty or not, go washed.. then when I need to take the dark sauce, i open the cabinet i saw the bottle all with black sauce and when I carry up, the plastic cover also all sauce, so I take out the plastic and wash and the bottom also black sauce, even the wall of the cabinet which place the dark sauce also got, so I clean, but due to i had limited time as my guess coming, so i just told her make sure she clean the rest of the tray. While I was cooking I washed my dish as well, so I saw the tray that put my plate and let it drip dried, the below had 1 more tray to collect water that drip from all dishes... whole tray full of mould...I was very upsad, so I close my eyes and told her, now i no time for all these noncense, please clean this tomorrow as well, make sure do it I will checked. Then continue cooking.

While eating that meal, I still complain to my best friends....But still I never think of changing her. Then the next day, when i came back from work, I asked her had she done the thing I asked her to do, she stare at me, I said the cabinet and the tray, she said nope... Piang!! I so angry this round really can't control even I know was still cny... I asked her why, she said she forget. Then I asked her what the hell she doing for whole day, she just any how point my living room, so I stand up and walk over to living rm, but before i reached that place, I turn and asked her, this will be last chance I asked her, did she clean, yes then said yes, if no, please said no..I hate ppl lie. She still insisted yes, so I just go to any of my cabinet and use my hand sweep on the top, dust stick on my palm, so I asked her, is that what you mean clean? then point to another cabinet beside said not this one, is that one. this time I take out 1 item, did she clean this one, she knock her head, so i do the same and dust stick on my palm. So I this round really can't control and shout at her, did she clean, she then said no...I was very mad and few days don't talked to her, really considering to change her or not... But I also very scare, cos I change many maid, indo, filipino I also tried, but some steal, some very dirty, some not here to work....May be because here really noone at home, kids all old enough, 17,15,10. so too gd life...too freedom... last time when my kids at 8mths, I had 1 maid work for me 7 yrs, but now really can't find maid like that.... I really can't think of no maid, cos my kids all will came home for dinner, even me and my hubby. I tried no maid for 1.5 mths, whole family begged me to intake a maid...cos all need to study/work and yet need to housework, really very stress....LOL

Here I hope someone there can give me some advice...I really very worries and loss...If you ask me to make decision on my work, that's really simple, but not on these kind of domestic issue... Please help!!

Change a new maid, no point keeping this maid.

[auntieM]

:? You can join our discussions on maids in existing threads under Domestic Help instead of posting a new thread for every question you have in mind..

[matrix0405]

jtoh:

I suspect your maid was sent back to the agent for inappropriate behavior so she's unlikely to change her ways. She'll continue to see the man, call him, chat with him etc regardless of what you say. Worse, she might even invite him into your house when no one's home. Best to send her back.

Agree with yr 'analysis'. Esp if you are staying landed, with the maid's room at the backyard, , high chance of sneaking out and bf sneaking in. She has the 'downside' of an experienced maid. Her 'focuses' in life are body whitening and handphone and BF, unlikely to change her ways. For an experienced maid, u are already paying premium. No need for all these additional trouble.

[peapot]

Sigh! Headaches… Sometimes we worry the maid might be lonely and wants friends. Then we worry their friends might include a boyfriend. very hard I think. That’s why I really long for the day that I can do without maids.

[Peace Charlie]

HI SMH forest


I’m in d same shoe…recently sent my fili maid off last wk…got a transfer indon still trying out she kept forgeting stuff i told her that she has to remember as i’ve got 3 kids to handle, she needs to bring them to school and get their stuff ready on time… i’v been training her for the last few days…but she kept apologising tat she cannot remember n her cooking are lousy…i find that what she lacks was confidence… she has been in sin for 10 mths looking after elderly…so shd be able to handle my chores, quite straightforward am clean up hse, when kids r up make sure they had their meals b4 tey go school. PM jus clean up and cooking for dinner yet still cannot remember but nowsday their quality is really bad…Teaching indo can kill my cells but fili are way too smart n lazy…

[SMH FOREST]

ZuEn, Minty Min..


Thanks for the kind words... :thankyou:

Peace Charlie...

:hugs: i hope your new indon works out... so, why did this indo leave the prev employer while taking care of elderly??

haizz... am having a maid drought situation... my 1st agency where i got my indon.. says no new bios available till AFTER Hari Raya! Faint.. how to wait so long?? whereas the agency where i got my fili... is trying to give me some bios... on sunday she let me interview one but again cmi... cos' never been a maid bef.. n i am not going to take anyone who hasnt been a maid bef even in their home country... cos' they will simply have no idea what being a housemaid is like! i had wanted to see if she has any indon bio, but she says must top up $200 for agency fee leh... walau ehhhh... really feel like i am being ripped off... sigh.. but she at least gives me call n sends me fili bios.. first agency no sound at all!! :roll:

have been cleaning my house on my own since sending off the fili.. and i have absolutely no time to bond with my boy cos of this... :sad: i have to leave him to play with his toys himself, let him watch tv or play w the ipad... and i simply hate it.. i can't leave too much dust ard for too many days cos of his asthma... and will need to wash his uniform and iron them daily.. and argghhh... am just hating the fact that the time spent with him now is sooo little!

[ZuEn]

I need to rant.

My mum is driving me crazy bcos of the maid. :frustrated:
I am a FTWM with 2 kids and my mum shifted in when I gave birth to DS 9 months ago. This is my 3rd PHL maid and she has been with us for the past 10 months.

Hb and I found her quite OK, can get by if we close one eye at times but recently my mum has been complaining and nagging about my maid very frequently. It has come to the point that whatever that my maid does irk my mum and my mum take it out on me for things that my maid do. :stupid: :slapshead:
My mum insists that the maid argues with her and is defiant towards my mum. The maid doesnt show the same attitude in front of me (if what my mum says is true lah). When I tried to reason with my mum or explain that it could be communication breakdown (my mum speaks really broken English), my mum jumped to the conclusion that I side the maid and misunderstood that I put the maid in higher regard than my mum. :torchme:
My mum wanted me to lecture my maid, which I openly did to show that I am not siding the maid but she is still not happy. I think it has come to the point that the mere presence of my maid irks my mum.

It might come to the point that I have to change this maid to get back my peaceful life. Both hb and I really feel that this maid is not too bad, no off day, no handphone, do housework pretty well and can play with my kids.

Really :stupid: :stupid: :stupid:

Haiz..

[UncleLim]

micollh:

Funx3:

Insurance for 14 months? :?
Thought std is 24+2 months?
No Diff in Premium, Right?

there have 2 types. one is 14th months, one is 26 moths.. another is extension (given that u have bought from the same company before). u can get this either from scanwell(tenet) or ntuc. last time my maid agentcy got from tenet. but i find their price higher, but they allowed refund if u return ur maid within 60 ot 90 days. ntuc no refund. for this time, i will get from ntuc cos i wont worry abt return maid mah.

14 months only hundre plus.. 26 months 200 plus.

Hi micollh,

Thanks for sharing. Can I trouble you to start a new thread/topic listing down the steps for renewing a work permit ? This will be very helpful to dummies like myself ! I paid many hundreds the previous time to the agency to get it done.

[beanstalk]

If you are very sure your helper is not hoodwinking you (since you're not around all the time), do what you can to keep her!


Since it's your mum, you can be straight with her (impossible if it were your MIL). Tell your mum that if you cannot find another good helper, you will have to stop work and there'll be loss of one income...and her allowance might have to be cut :evil:

Tell her to just limit communication with the helper and leave the disciplining to you. Plead with her to tahan the helper until the kids are more grown up and you all can do without one.

[ZuEn]

Beanstalk,

That is exactly what hb is thinking. He even suggest that he will talk to my mum but at the end of the day, I get the blunt of it bcos I am the daughter and he is the Son-in-law.

My mum now nags non-stop at me, repeating to me every evening (after work) and during the weekends about how the maid argues with her. For the same incident, my mum can repeat a few times. Otherwise, bcos the maid irks her, she talks to me sacarstically and drives me crazy. We had a meltdown in the past bcos of the maid during my maternity leave and I had to apologise to her eventually. I also thought it is not worth souring family ties over a maid.

I actually prefer her to discipline the maid directly leh. How to lash out at the maid for something that I didnt see? I also somehow think that the issues could be due to communication problem. In the past, similar occurences took place and when I confronted the maid, I get a different story. When I tried to explain to my mum, my mum thinks I side the maid.

My mum is helping us supervising the maid now. We are also worried that if she’s really pissed and decides that she doesnt want to help and shift back to my brother’s place, we are doomed. DS is still very young and we dont want to send the kids to CC bcos of our long working hours, which will mean that the kids will have to stay in the CC for long hours as well.

Hmmm… I guessed I must be one of the rare kind who have problems with my own mum. Haha.