Extra Marital Affair

[winth]

insider:

PS: I have a male friend (ex schoolmate) who patronises prostitutes now and then. Will share his views on why he is doing all these despite having a wife who seems to be good and two kids...

Do share.
Sometimes it beats me why men are like what they are.

My guy friend who kanna STD (under treatment now), has very loose values of LOVE and SEX. Hope he recovers and changes his views of women as just sex (and brainless) objects.

[tankee]

I would like to urge all those whose friend is having marital issues, to be more attentive & supportive towards her\him. This is a very stressful period for your friend and may cause her\him to slip into depression.


Be there for her\him. Be it a listerning ear or a shoulder to cry on. It would help.

[Ahmih]

Wow, what a small world of mentality. That was very similar to what my GF said about her husband…


What I heard, his porn downloads are a wide range of fantasies, from groupys to SM. Lots of young girls photos, from Japs to Chinese and Thais. After he had admitted to those tyrsts, he asked my GF for anal sex and attempted new positions too. She had caved in to those requests thinking that it was all her fault that her husband strayed. However, during their sex, she felt she was being treated like an object, it was not two-way, just a one way satisfaction. He just wanted to do whatever he felt high. And the anal sex made her felt wasted, worse than a pro. And worst, she felt ill and got some ‘side-effects’. She told her husband that anal sex had caused some problems for her and he ignored her. She finally put her foot down and said if it’s anal that he wanted, it’s not with her. Thereafter, their sex was ok, except I heard, that he passed mild SD to her and caused an infection relapsed everytime they have sex. So now another reason to get less interested in each other. My GF went to see doc but she said her husband taking it lightly and kinda blame her for his condition too. Like he was ok, until they have sex kinda theory.

All these while in their marriage, when she asked him whether he is happy with their sexual relationship, he always says ‘yes’, nothing to add. I’ve heard my GF said before, that her husband mentality is, pay the bills, be at home on most days, but reserve his ‘privacy’ time. Although he says he will stopped all nonsense, she felt it is more of a divorce stopper than sincere repentance.

I wonder if Insider’s friend’s wife also is as forgiving as Insider. Like you said, she is no ‘goon’ too.

Then again, in my GF case, her husband look like a decent guy, quiet, specky, work in office, you would never suspect this nonsense. Her counselor felt he is living a double life. Perhaps he too gets recharged after pro visits, as far as my GF is concerned, he can be exceptionally patient and nice when he felt guilty towards her and kids. On other days, he is into himself and his many addictions, less on kids and her.

Well, I guess the start of all these betrayal was her two pregnancies. They were unplanned and at first he didn’t want any too. But he still encouraged her to keep the babies. And from there, I felt his ‘love’ for her was revealed. It didn’t go far. It certainly didn’t include their beautiful children until recently (if any). My GF can’t phantom, why he can’t love her and her kids? She didn’t gain weight after both pregnancies (too stress to gain weight) and still looks good, she can’t understand why can’t her husband accept her totally?

She said sometimes when she saw other husband and wife on street, both ordinary looking and so loving, she felt so envious of them. She felt she could never have this type of relationship with her husband anymore. She had somehow, only now unveil the ‘real’ him and having two thoughts about it. He made her felt worthless and little in the last 3 years. Her husband like to tell her, ‘all is fine’, but if so, why did he treat her that way?

[buds]

Uhhhmmm, insider.... Pssst...

Got Channel 5 translation or
not, arh?

I hope 'fox spirit' story comes
in English subtitles. :roll: :lol:

[ChiefKiasu]

buds:

Uhhhmmm, insider.... Pssst...

Got Channel 5 translation or
not, arh?

I hope 'fox spirit' story comes
in English subtitles. :roll: :lol:

buds arh... I didn't realize you are as blind as me when it comes to Chinese :lol:

[buds]

Make that blind-er...


Cause of that, cannot enjoy
the juice of the insider stories
here leh... Very handicapped. :lol:

[Ahmih]

why man must have such sexual thrills to feel satisfied? Is sex everything? My GF ever mentioned, she wants to end her relationship, so that she can steer clear of all these sexuals delusions problems. She just want to focus fully on her kids now. Possible?


Sex is not everything to a woman, or is it? But it’s most important to a man, is it?

[tankee]

In the case of death of a man and a woman by burning charcoal in a hotel room, the dead woman was a single mother, who continue to meet the man although she is aware that he is married.


"Shin Min Daily News" reported yesterday, on the day before yesterday at about 12 o’clock, in a 4th floor room at the Dragon Hotel along Serangoon Road, a couple of married men and women was suspected to have committed suicide by burning charcoal, both killed .

The father of the dead woman (39 years old) said in an interview this morning, that his daughter is a single mother.

It is said that the dead woman has a daughter studying in a polytechnic, and a secondard one boy. Both children were at the wake yesterday, praying for her soul. Her family declined the reporter’s request to interview the children. Both children were not at the wake this morning.

The woman’s father revealed that his daughter is aware that the man is married and the two have not contacted each other for a long time. He was stopped by other family members before he shared how long the dead couple had known each other.

In addition, the deceased’s family members do not want to disclose any other information, and verbally abused the reporter.

Her wake is at Hougang Block 576, which is where her flat is. The man had stayed at Hougang Block 580 which is opposite of Block 576. Both were old neighbour and could have known each other because of that.

The woman’s funeral is tomorrow and scheduled to be cremented at Mandai at 1pm.

The brother of the dead man XXX (43 years old) said during interview that his brother had been a good father and husband, else his sister-in-law would not have cried so hard when she identified his body yesterday. She cried the loudest among all relatives.

He added that the family is not aware of whether his brother had an affair, or owe anyone any money. And the police did not share with them much details of what happened in the hotel room. He hope the police would let them know the cause of his brother’s death when the investigation is completed.

He said that the family is trying to protect the children and had not let them access to any media reports. The 2 boys did not attend the funeral this morning.

The dead man’s brother revealed that the man is the eldest and had 2 younger brothers. He was very filial to his mother, thus his death had sadden his mother a lot.

This morning at about 9:15am, Mr XXX remains left the funeral parlor along Xin Ming Road for 9:45am cremention at Mandai Crematorium. The reporter observed that when the deceased’s body was carried into the hearse, his mother was crying so hard that she had to be supported.

About 10 relatives and friends escord the hearse, most in tears.

[tankee]

well … i’m sure most of us heard of the joke that


women thinks with their heart and men thinks with their heads … sometimes the wrong heads.

[winth]

insider:

Well, his answer was a surprise to all of us: “I love my wife and therefore I turned to prostitutes for my sexual gratification.”


His admitted that he has very high sexual fantasy through viewing of porn videos and his wife is “too decent’ to try out those ‘patterns’ illustrated in those porn videos. He said when visiting prostitutes, he can ask them to do anything that he fancies, such as licking everyone of his toes, his anal, etc, as well as allowing him to do anal sex, more than 1 woman servicing him, etc (he gave many more examples but these are the few that I could still remember). For all these, if he were to ask his wife to do so maybe ‘humiliating’ to her and he risked upsetting the ‘regular’ sessions that he still has with his wife that he commented is very ‘boring’ but he still has to do so else his wife may think that he does not love her anymore. He asked us back if your husband asked you to lick his anal, would you and we all shook our head and he said, “That’s why lah!”

He feels ‘recharged’ after each visit to experienced prostitute and such recharge enables him to be more positive in his job and benefits his career indirectly (his is a purchaser in an F&B chain).

He told us that visiting prostitutes outside got nothing to do with his love for his wife and his family. His ‘guiding principle’ is not to have any sexual relationship with friends else it will be ‘wrong’ but prostitutes are just prostitutes and they would never replace his family. He asked us why women can’t get this thing correct in our mind and must hold this fixed thinking that once men commit sexual relationship outside a marriage means a man doesn’t love the wife anymore. He ‘advised’ us not to think too deep into a spouse’s extra marital affair if such affair does not lead to the spouse keeping a permanent woman outside the main house.

:shock: he can sure explain his actions really well.
It almost sounded like going for 'spa treatment' to me. Licking his toes and making his whole body feel serviced. Weird though that he still has to keep it a secret instead of 'correcting' his wife's 'mindset'.