All About Full-Time Maids

[SMH FOREST]

omgmum:

BZmum, and smh forest, my mum is the opposite of yours and will keep telling me not to be so ngiao! :razz:


My current maid after 3 weeks still doesn't really keep to the schedule. But cos I have to look after dd, and get her ready for school and stuff, I don't have the time to watch over her 24/7.

The funny thing is that although she appears to like playing with dd in front of me, what we are out with my mum, and the maid is supposed to help my mum with dd, the maid will be busy checking out her surroundings rather than help my mum.

omgmum,

sounds somewhat similar to the Fili I had... she also would act differently when she sees us around... and mine also didnt wanna take care of my kid though during the interview i had stated clearly tt she needs to help out when needed...

haizzz.. hopefully ur maid dun turn out like my case... she wanted to be sent back... n guess what? she got a good thrashing frm agent n boss of agency (according to agent lah...) and she is now with a family with 2 kids! i really hope that employer is luckier than me... this maid refuses to care for 1 kid at my house, but is now with 2 kids??? :shock: really makes me wonder if it was another \"just take me\" moment for that fili....

[omgmum]

bzmum22:

Things that I dun wan maid to touch/see will be kept in cupboards/drawers which are out of bounds to her. Our master bedroom is on restricted access to the helper. My skin care is in the master bedroom toilet. She only gets to go inside once a day to do area cleaning, with my permission. So long as she dun attempt to use my skincare, if she wans to see, she can see all she wans .

I do the same too. But I noticed that my new bottle of eye cream seems to have been used up very quickly. Not sure if she accidentally overturned it when cleaning the bathroom or she actually used it. Guess I'm a bit paranoid after previous bad experiences.

[MintyMin]

cwc:

MintyMin:

My kids noe it is wrong to hit others, tatz for sure.. Except for DD1,as she has weird temper.. but now she's ok liao.. but both my older kids doesnt hit back when we hit them for doing the wrong tings.. But i noe i shld tell my kids too tat no matter wat.. it is not right for helper to hit them no matter who started it first, n i shld b the one disciplining the notti one..

Hmm.. tot of changing, but due to some factors i will haf to monitor a while more b4 strongly demanding tat i change her..

Thanks for ur advance, really appreciate it.

One of my maid last time did not like children.....it was quite obvious from the start. She was good at chores, had initiative, would observe and learn.....but unfortunately, had no interest/patience to play with my 2 kids (then DS~3.5yo & DD 2yo).

As a precaution, on a daily basis, I would always asked kids if the maid hit them or caused pain. Once when maid ~5 mths, DS said kaka hit his back. So I confronted the maid.....apparently, DS lost in a game and refused to admit defeat, dunno how she 'boxed' his back in a fit of anger. I could see the maid was frightened herself. Since it was her first, I gave her a stern warning and told her she could scold but not allowed to lay a finger on my kids. Any issue, come tell me & I'll handle it. And if my kids were to hit her, tell me too....I do not allow that as well.
Fortunately for me, she knew I meant business and it never happened again. Eventually, this maid turned out to be my best and most responsible maid I have had so far.....it was a pity when she decided to leave for HK for higher pay (actually, right from day 1 she had already indicated that she would only work 2 years in SG and off she'll go to HK). I could not afford to pay levy + 2x Salary, so had to let her go upon completion.

Kids are smart, they know who they can bully. I do not condone that. Any behaviour that I do not want my kids to do to me (hit, bite, yell, spit saliva, pinch etc etc), they can't do it to the maids too.........and I know my maids are appreciative of it.

Guess you need to really give your maid a stern warning since she has done it again.

Lucky u..

Last mth i sternly told my helper tat she is only allow to scold but not lay hands on my kids, coz i can easily consider tat as abused to my kids as well, n shld my kids beat her, she shld let me know. N also to my kids whenever they shout at her or try to beat her (which beating helper is only DD2), i will scold n beat them too and told them in front of helper tat helper is only her to help me not let them beat n scold and she is their elder, so they cannot do tat.

I tot tat is clear enuff to show tat i mean biz n my kids muz also respect her n she shld appreciate.. but i guess i m wrong n shld reinforce it again.. sigh..

[MintyMin]

omgmum:

MintyMin:

Erm.. My helper is alone wif my DD2 in d day n my mum will drop by every now n den.. or if not will bring DD2 w her n let helper clean the hse..

Yes.. i haf to really reinforce tat to her.. sigh.. really hate tis kind of prob.

Maids are also very smart; they will also know how to bully you if you don't put your foot down. So if can close one eye, then close, but for the important things like kids and safety, they must really know when to toe the line.

Yupz.. My ex maid did tat.. in d end.. it seems more like she's the employer i m the maid.. so i told myself.. tat shld nvr happen AGAIN..

[omgmum]

SMH FOREST:

omgmum,

sounds somewhat similar to the Fili I had... she also would act differently when she sees us around... and mine also didnt wanna take care of my kid though during the interview i had stated clearly tt she needs to help out when needed...

haizzz.. hopefully ur maid dun turn out like my case... she wanted to be sent back... n guess what? she got a good thrashing frm agent n boss of agency (according to agent lah...) and she is now with a family with 2 kids! i really hope that employer is luckier than me... this maid refuses to care for 1 kid at my house, but is now with 2 kids??? :shock: really makes me wonder if it was another \"just take me\" moment for that fili....

I still can't decide if she likes to take care of kids or not. I guess when we're at home, she likes to play with dd cos otherwise she has no one to talk to since I don't really talk to her. But when we're outside, there're more distractions and she assumes that one of us will take care of dd.

will just have to observe longer...

Aiyoh, how is your ex-maid going to cope with 2 kids, if she can't even tahan 1? Hope she has woken up her idea!

Actually, after my recent maid-hunting incident, and after hearing all my friends' horror stories, I've come to the conclusion that getting a good maid is really a matter of heng suay. I've a friend who chose her maid just based on biodata, and she got a fantastic indo maid who is v good. In fact, her maid's english is so much better than my pinoy one. I have to speak very slowly and use hand gestures with mine. You can only be certain of the maid's proficiency in English when you interview her.

And my maid is supposed to have 3 years of exp in Phili as a housemaid doing chores and looking after 3 kids, but judging from the way she does things, I suspect that either she or the agent was lying.

[omgmum]

double confirm the maid lied about her exp. Just asked her to boil an egg and she didn't know how to. How could she have cooked for 3 kids? :slapshead:

[BeContented]

omgmum:

double confirm the maid lied about her exp. Just asked her to boil an egg and she didn't know how to. How could she have cooked for 3 kids? :slapshead:

Hmmmm.....looks like you really have to observe your maid. Either lied or just wanna pretend so that dun have to do. As for the kids, also better monitor.....your DD2 is still very young, may not be able to verbalize well, so gotta be vigilant.

Yes, I would considered myself pretty lucky considering my 3 maids were quite OK (I mean, want to niao got a lot to complain, but if close eyes, can lah). Back then, my top priority was my kids.....treat & care for them well. As I bring my maid & kids to in-laws while I worked, at night back in my home the maid knocked off ~9pm while I'll continue to settle the remaining chores. At times, maid would auto help, but I try to minimise the daily chores and leave some for alternate/weekly etc.

[mama_g]

Dear all, need your views. My fresh maid from Indo has "no result" from the medical centre for her blood test, tested twice, so now they have to sent her to Changi hospital to detail test. I can choose to repatriate her back at agency cost or should i wait for the result from hospital? Any1 has encounter this before, my mum said sound scary as its blood related???

[jtoh]

omgmum:

double confirm the maid lied about her exp. Just asked her to boil an egg and she didn't know how to. How could she have cooked for 3 kids? :slapshead:

Isn't boiling an egg the most basic cooking skill? Maybe she's pretending she doesn't know so you can show her?

[jojo]

Hi ChiefKiasu


From my experience, employed maid are just luck! Bottom-line their personality play a part.

I have 2 Php maids with 4 years of ex-SIN also with poor experience.

1st php maid age 36, no initiative but very fast in answering back, covering her ass. At her age, she doesn’t know that when you zip your pants you can stop the zip from unzipping. I got to teach her. She is like a robot, will only move when you ask her to do. I stay in a 4 rms flat. I have 2 kids, P1 & P3 but everyday she cant finish her chores. Every night, 8-9pm our clothing still hanging along the corridor, she has not kept them. She is a slow worker, she is the only maid cant finish her daily chores.

2nd php maid age 40, she can put 5 clothings in 1 hanger and doesn’t know what is neat and tidy. She will shelf the clothing or books to the shelf without arranging them by the sizes. I remainder her afew times, but seem like old self die hard. She is not a detail person. At time she will still answer back.

These 2 maids of mine do not have good comment of English.

I hate to talk to them whenever u ask tell them their works not done properly, they will say, “I cleaned already, I washed already, I checked already” ha! Does this sound familiar? If their work has done properly, than why shld I question them.

I had an indo maid b4, she steal and choked up our phone bill upto S$300.
I had a Php maid age 28, she was my best maid, went back because her dad was sick. She great affection toward my children and great initiative. That is the best maid I ever have.
Thereafter, all my maids are below PAR.

My hubby doesnt like to change maid, he find it is a chore to change them.