Why are social skills important for life, not just school?
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tankee:
aren't social skills supposed to be taught at home by the parents? :?
That's where is really should start... Thing is, many parent are in apt themselves. -
how can parents be sure that the ‘enrichment school’ that teach social skills are not just trying to ‘smoke’ around? to want to teach social skills, one must have vested interest in the outcome of the ‘student’s behaviour’. parents have vested interest as these are their children. do such commercial schools have vested interest and how to measure the KPI for attending such courses? to want to measure such ‘performance’ is so fake!
i will be rather skeptical if there are commercial schools advertising to teach social skills; to me, they are just out to milk the parents.
another hard truth is that while better mannered students may gain more attention in school, it does not matter when they enter the society. how often have you heard complaints about bosses/superiors having lack of empathy or/and are scheming? in a dog-eat-dog world, sometimes nice people turn nasty during work. good guys finish last.
you will be surprise that ‘birds of the same feathers flock together’; if your kid is well mannered, the friends surrounding him will probably be so too.
courtesy starts at home! -
What if parents do not have the time enough to invest in the child to teach the necc social and life skills? many families are today dual-income earning ... What else can be done? I'm still concerned on how our kids will fare beyond schooling years and isn't a foundation built now important than to wait in the later years to address this? ...it's funny to me how many parents are seeing the virtues of academic driven courses/help/tuition but when it comes to social/life and emotion handling skills, they are regarded as still 'nice to have' and not necessary. I do also hope we do not have our kids keep encountering people who make us believe in the long run that being nice doesn't get us anywhere, esp in our working world and society ... doesn't pose much help if hope isn't in our hearts...
... i think the person teaching life and social skills must really want to care about the kids and not come across as just 'milking' the parents ... i still believe there are real people out there who cares truly about our kids - just gotta find them ... -
how can any 1-2 hrs class perhaps once or twice a week do wonders on social skills? I’m sure any kid will spend more than 4 hrs a week with their parents.
work is no excuse for any working parents to not to have time for their children. if really, so then don’t have any in the first place. Our children are our responsibilities, not our parents, and definitely not some outsourced vendors. -
No time is definitely an excuse. It can be as simple as the please and 10q at home, when parents converse or ask their child to help out or showing the child how to treat the maid with respect. Such as parents putting down their phone and give their child 100% attention, than sms-ing and talking their child at the same time… Or when eating out, just saying 10q to the auntie who comes around and helps to clear your table at food courts and so forth… there so many little things which are easily forgotten…
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That’s why parents should always check themselves first… If standard is low, then standard achieved is low.
Learning to unlearn and relearn is essential as a parent, and the first priority. If we think we are great and all else are below us, then we will not improve. Children do not have a good hero then…
Children grow up like their heroes… They are a true reflection of their parents. -
tankee:
social skills definitely Parents responsiblility....how can any 1-2 hrs class perhaps once or twice a week do wonders on social skills? I'm sure any kid will spend more than 4 hrs a week with their parents.
work is no excuse for any working parents to not to have time for their children. if really, so then don't have any in the first place. Our children are our responsibilities, not our parents, and definitely not some outsourced vendors.
we are their first teacher the day they are born even more so
as they grow .........if we as parents donno dont teach
who will do better .......better we improve ourself then they
will emulate
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lizziewine:
I do also hope we do not have our kids keep encountering people who make us believe in the long run that being nice doesn't get us anywhere, esp in our working world and society ... doesn't pose much help if hope isn't in our hearts...
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i want to bring my kids up to be a genuine person, but to also be one who does not get taken advantage of easily. not easy to do so because there are all sorts of people out there in the world. but then again, whether one is being taken advantage of, it depends on whether that person perceived that unfortunate event to be one or just merely felt that it is pure bad luck. do i make sense to you? :oops:lizziewine:
i too believe that there are such people. i encountered them in the form of school teachers and even enrichment centres teachers.i still believe there are real people out there who cares truly about our kids - just gotta find them ...
but to send them to a school that specialises in teaching 'social behaviour', i will be skeptical whether the teacher are genuinely concerned or only delivering their programme. -
Thank you everyone for your posting… i too am learning by unlearning many things and holding myself as the prime example to my kids… have observed often also that many kids are rather ‘wild’ and uncontrollable in public places and observed that their parents do not seem to ‘care’ … what to make of this situation if I understand parents as the ones to be able to guide and teach our children and worse, if the parents themselves have no respect for people, things and places? … how to be example to the kids then?
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So how can you tell if the person teaching specific life and social skills curriculum and courses really cares for the child>?
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