How to Teach your kid to focus in class?

[Mrsbongz]

If it is any consolation, a counsellor fren once shared w me that he learnt that medical studies shown that the part of the brain that processes 'consequence' only activates n matures ard 22yrs of age. So it is natural for teens n kids to disregard consequence and live for short term pleasures i dunno how will my kids fare when we get to that stage, but i hope u press on n keep communicating w ur boy!

[hexagon]

Mrsbongz:

If it is any consolation, a counsellor fren once shared w me that he learnt that medical studies shown that the part of the brain that processes 'consequence' only activates n matures ard 22yrs of age. So it is natural for teens n kids to disregard consequence and live for short term pleasures i dunno how will my kids fare when we get to that stage, but i hope u press on n keep communicating w ur boy!

Thanks again for sharing that nugget of information. Living for short term pleasures does sound like what he is doing now. Although another 10 yrs seem like a really looong time, but i have survived the last 12 yrs. Just have to grit my teeth and wait patiently for his brain to mature. Can someone invent a pill or sth to switch it on earlier?

I am sure your kids will turn out well with such an enlighten mom. Btw, thanks for the encouragement :rahrah: . Will press on!!!!

[hexagon]

Sun_2010:

hexagon,


there is hope.
DD is less Stubborn now ( sec 1 this yr) than when she was in P4/P5 .
3 years back i was wondering how on earth was I going to survive the teenage phase. Now it seems not so impossible

on second thoughts may be i have grown used to her behaviour , lol!

I know what you mean. If he has been behaving like a teenager since young, we wont even notice the difference when he reached that phase. And hopefully, i will be able to handle it (theoretically) by then given so many years of practice.

[jasmineong]

Yes, how to get my kids to grow up and learn to study and focus on their own? They always need to have me around or in school their teachers must be the strict kind if not they will try to get away with not doing their best.


I want to tear my hair out over their attitudes!

[e3nity]

jasmineong:

Yes, how to get my kids to grow up and learn to study and focus on their own? They always need to have me around or in school their teachers must be the strict kind if not they will try to get away with not doing their best.


I want to tear my hair out over their attitudes!

now i constantly check on DS when he is doing his homework just to increase his confidence.. give him praises and encouragement like \" i know you can do it yourself\" \" you did well yourself the other time\" \"i like it when you sit properly to do your work\". It somehow works.. :xedfingers: :xedfingers:

[jasmineong]

hmm, maybe I should encourage more instead of scold. I have been nagging and scolding

and I still see them with the same unfocused look whenever I go off for a break. Time to try something new.

[pancake77]

I used to have lots of patience to reason with them the angmoh way. As they grow up, they're well aware of what is wrong and right, but they prefer the wrong way because it's more fun.

My advice is don't waste too much time reading parenting books because parenting is an art, not science; hence there is more than one way to skin a chicken. Just follow your gut feeling. For me, when I'm free I'll patiently reason with them. But most of the time, I'll just use my rotan; quick and effective :spank:
If you have one child only and lots of time, or one army of maids/relatives to help out, you can experiment with different parenting method. For me, i just want to survive my chaotic motherhood as a ftwm without helper, I just to warn them about rotan, they remember the pain and will behave well in no time :imanangel: Don't worry too much about emotionally traumatizing your children with spanking for bad behaviour. It only happen in chronic physically violent family. Moreover once you set your boundaries clearly and consistent with your house rules, you don't have to spank them as often as before. Nowadays my children will not challenge me and i seldom need to spank them.
I found a very good website http://raisinggodlytomatoes.com/
I'm not a christian, but I find this way of parenting is effective and easy to carry out. Sometimes when I'm stress about parenting I come back to this website for inspiration.

[e3nity]

jasmineong:

hmm, maybe I should encourage more instead of scold. I have been nagging and scolding

and I still see them with the same unfocused look whenever I go off for a break. Time to try something new.

Hope the new method will work on u.. Just to share.. Usually i'll giv DS 2 pages of worksheets to work on.. With the encouragement i gave him, he requested another page to be done himself.. :boogie:

[sean wife]

I hear stories from my colleagues whose kids can sit and do work by themselves since 4 yrs old or even earlier, and I am really envious….at least it means that even if we are at work, they are able to get some work done by themselves…but not my kids who are turning 4 in Sep. They are twins and it has been almost impossible to get both of them to sit down and do work AT THE SAME TIME. Even on a 1-1 basis, they are not that kind that will ‘guai-guai’ sit down and do work…after doing a few questions, will start to say things like there are tired and why so much work etc etc….even for hands-on activities and games, also difficult to sustain their interest for more than say 15 mins.


Sometimes, I think it is so much easy to have only 1 child, since I can afford to waste some time here or there, instead of getting so frustrated that they are not co-operative, and I have to spend 45mins-1hr with them individually…

[Nebbermind]

my expectation must be very low coz I never got my kids to do any work when they were 4... :oops: