Favouritism
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It is "very common for parents to practise favouritism" if they hv two or more kids. Sometimes parents themselves say they r "equally fair", but their actions/ words reflect the opposite.
Thanks to say, I have 1 child, I will be definitely 100% favouritism to my only child. haha… -
deminc:
Perhaps I treat them equally when it comes to scolding and pampering, so each think he/she is more loved than the other.
wah, how do u do that?? Share share leh...carebear:
I have 2 kids, DS 14 years old and DD 12 years old.
DS thinks I love him more.
DD thinks I love her more. -
I hv 1 bro n 2 elder sisters. My bro as the only son in my family was the apple of my mum’s eye. He hd been treated n served like king in the family. My dad doted on my eldest sister. I understand the feeling of being neglected. I would ensure both my kids r treated equally with all my love…
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Favoritism…hmmm…I know exactly how it’s like. My MIL blatantly shows favoritism to one of her sons and DIL, it is so obvious that even 4-yr-old DD can tell…it’s sad that a child so young already learns what is favoritism.
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Angelight:
Favoritism...hmmm...I know exactly how it's like. My MIL blatantly shows favoritism to one of her sons and DIL, it is so obvious that even 4-yr-old DD can tell...it's sad that a child so young already learns what is favoritism.
high 5 Angelight, i got the same kind of mil, other than that she is okk, dotes my kids cos the other son no kids yet. I really hate that kind of sight when she so 'scared' the other son and DIL... how do u handle such situation? -
You mean how do I handle her favoritism?
Initially I was very hurt that me and DH was the less favored ones in the family. She (MIL) would cook her darling son and DIL their fav foods when they came to eat; but when me and DH came for dinner, it's the usual fare. She even sent her own maid to clean up their house and wash/iron their laundry even though they have their own maid. But when I was in-between maids, got to do housework, cook and take care of baby, she didn't ask her maid to help me. She would also always ask my hubby to run errands but not her fav son. The favoritism was very obvious and it was hurting - back then.
Now I've developed an immunity to such blatant favoritism and I bochap anymore. I just focus on loving my family, that is my DH and DD. I don't yearn for her love or acceptance anymore so it hurts abit less. It's sad, I know...especially when the favoritism has extended to my child's generation. Even 4 yo DD knows her nai nai loves her cousins more than her. :sad:mama_g:
Angelight:
Favoritism...hmmm...I know exactly how it's like. My MIL blatantly shows favoritism to one of her sons and DIL, it is so obvious that even 4-yr-old DD can tell...it's sad that a child so young already learns what is favoritism.
high 5 Angelight, i got the same kind of mil, other than that she is okk, dotes my kids cos the other son no kids yet. I really hate that kind of sight when she so 'scared' the other son and DIL... how do u handle such situation? -
[quote=\"Angelight\"]You mean how do I handle her favoritism?
Initially I was very hurt that me and DH was the less favored ones in the family. She (MIL) would cook her darling son and DIL their fav foods when they came to eat; but when me and DH came for dinner, it's the usual fare. She even sent her own maid to clean up their house and wash/iron their laundry even though they have their own maid. But when I was in-between maids, got to do housework, cook and take care of baby, she didn't ask her maid to help me. She would also always ask my hubby to run errands but not her fav son. The favoritism was very obvious and it was hurting - back then.
Now I've developed an immunity to such blatant favoritism and I bochap anymore. I just focus on loving my family, that is my DH and DD. I don't yearn for her love or acceptance anymore so it hurts abit less. It's sad, I know...especially when the favoritism has extended to my child's generation. Even 4 yo DD knows her nai nai loves her cousins more than her. :sad:
What ur DH take on this? Does he accknowledge his mum's favoritism? My DH insist his mum is not :pokeeye: -
Yes, DH knows his mum is bias but it doesn’t bother him one bit. He has never been a "mummy’s boy" so I guess it doesn’t affect him.
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Do you and your DH really have any favourites?
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More favour is shown to the prodigal son/daughter.
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