Meet-The-Parents Session
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ChiefKiasu:
I try to say it in a way which will come across as objective, rather than sounding as if I criticising the kid. I will always tell the parents that I am not criticising, but rather giving feedback which will help them to understand the child better and usually when I phrase it in this way, the parents will become more receptive and interested to listen. I usually start off by mentioning the good things about the pupil followed by the \"criticism\". Therefore, it is indeed important for every teacher to find the \"good\" in every student, no matter how many times the pupil misbehave...worldangel:
... And he is those type who will see no wrong in his own child and he kept \"glorifying\" her when I fully know the kid is not as \"golden\" as he think she is...
That's interesting. How would an outsider be able to tell a parent the faults of his child without coming across as personal criticism? It is easy enough for strangers to ignore the behavior of kids in public, but if you are the child's teacher, you cannot simply ignore the problem.
I came across an incident in Popular when a promoter who commented that a kid was \"没家教\" was given a sound dressing down by his mummy who overheard the comment. While the scolding was way overblown, it is obvious that the promoter has erred in the manner she handled the situation.
I also make sure that I provide some sort of a solution for the \"criticism\" or at least discuss with the parents on what can we do together to help the child to become a better person.
But yes, I admit it is tricky...but like what you said, as a teacher, I feel that I have the responsibility to inform the parents about the child's behaviour in school so that they are aware of any misbehaviour and can take immediate action to correct the behaviour at home. So far most of the parents have been very receptive (except for one or two odd ones)... -
Re-read my post and thought I should flesh out what I said. My DS2 is a bit of a rebel at home. He hates to do his homework and I do have to remind him. The funny thing is, the teacher thinks he’s an angel. "Responsible, quick with his work", is what she said. So I’m thinking, am I too harsh sometimes in thinking he’s, uh, bone lazy?
Worldangel, have you met kids like this? I feel like an imposter sometimes. Even hubby thinks I must be too demanding. But I guess he doesn’t see him skiving off, trying to whine his way out of work everyday. -
I went to ds PTC yesterday. Since there is no issue to be discuss. I just briefly mentioned that ds was occupied after school during examination period as he was visiting his grandfather in hospital until night time and has no time for revision. I was also travelling right after my father was discharge, so not a single time spend in coaching him. With ds good result, I thank the teacher’s effort and feedback that whatever that she is doing, please do continue. It seems her class does extremely well, class average at 87 marks. I did not know that those students who arrive in class early (by 7 am) will be asked to do math worksheets before school official start until she told me yesterday.
So PTC is just not about the student or parents but of course do give credits to teachers that put their heart and soul in educating our children. -
PTC is always a tense situation. What some people do not realise, I mean even the teachers, is PTC is supposed to be a discussion session regarding the child’s progress and performance.
At times, both the teachers and parents play the role of accuser to the point that either party becomes defensive and it gets blown out of proportion.
What generally should be done would be to discuss these few issues,
Parents;
1. How is the child’s performance in the class - both academically and attitude towards lesson.
2. What does this result mean and what should be the follow up.
3. Any way to help the child at home - get some tips.
Teachers;
1. Find out about what is happening with the child after school.
2. Give tips to parents on how to follow up at home cause the child’s education is a collaboration between both party
3. Prepare a follow up study plan for the child based on the current result which the parents could use at home.
One of the thing which I find amusing when I had my PTC with the parents, the first question most of the asked was - Is my child behaving in class?
Usually, I will have to tell them that let’s look at the result first before we talk about the behaviour aspect. I think that should be priority during PTC.
As for behaviour issues, I will find out from the parent first as to how the child is at home and make a comparison to how the child is in school. Then if there is a big difference in term of behaviour, I will work with the parents to find the reason and both of us will agree to help the child, if it is negative.
Regards -
NIEtrainedTEACHER:
That's because we do not wish to give the impression that we are academically obsessed parents. :oops: Trust me, we're just trying to get over the niceties ASAP to focus on the real issue, that's academic performance.
One of the thing which I find amusing when I had my PTC with the parents, the first question most of the asked was - Is my child behaving in class?
Usually, I will have to tell them that let's look at the result first before we talk about the behaviour aspect. I think that should be priority during PTC.
Regards
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Hahaha...I know that...Most parents are trying to be diplomatic.
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[quote]One of the thing which I find amusing when I had my PTC with the parents, the first question most of the asked was - Is my child behaving in class? [/quote]
Oh...dear. No wonder ds teacher was laughing when I posed this question. But only difference is that I ask at the end of the PTC. I was afraid good results will give ds excuse of misbehaving in class.
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EN,
Well I guess from now on, most of us will have an idea of why a teacher may grin when this question is asked.... -
Its the meet parents season!!!
I wonder what kind of questions you guys and ladies will discuss when you meet the teachers? :?
My gal is in Nursary (4yo tis yr). I have my first experience last year. it is a short session with the teacher do most of the talking.... Your gal is doing very well..... very attentive.... fast learner.... etc etc... Before I know it, it ended.
I hope this coming session will be a more fruitful one.
I am hoping to learn more from the teachers how my gal do in class, what areas of improvement, how can I help.... etc etc.
I am not good in asking Qns.
Do share what kind of questions you will discuss with the teachers, really wan to know how to get more info out of this discussion.
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Hi Bowie,
Thats a very good Question, Sorry to hijack your question My girl is in Pri 1, and I have my PTM tomorrow and would appreciate if anyone could advice what to ask the teachers.
Thks Rds
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