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[auntieM]

Hi ansh0000,

Age is not a problem for you so perhaps you can try for a second child first before considering adoption..
My DH and I looked at adoption before our boy came, and after..
For me I knew it wouldn't work after we have our own, and I don't think I will be a fair mum in future..


Juz me $0.02

[ansh0000]

Hi auntieM,


ya, age is nt a problem for me nw. but my health is…i got med cond (epilepsy) which require very close monitoring. my DH wan to go for adoption bcuz of my health but I wan try birth becuz i feel it wld allow my son bond better wz new sibiling.

For now, we will leave it to fate…if it is destined tt we can hv only one child…we r still ok with it…

[Shimmers]

Hello All


I didnt knw tht there’s this page… Glad Ive browse this Kiasuparents rather than just looking at the academic pages…

I am the only child and now having only son who is already 7. Had MC before and after him so I have come to terms tt maybe this is the plan HE has for
Me. I would love to have more but…

It is so sad when at times my DS would ask me why am
I not giving him any brother/ sister when all his friends having siblings…

I can feel hw bored life can be without having anybody(siblings) ard esp when Im getting older now. Wouldnt want my DS to feel this way to but there’s nothing I can do… Just hv to give him the best in
Life…

[Angelight]

Hi Shimmers,


I understand how you feel. I also have only DD, and she has been asking for a baby brother or sister. I would like to have one more but somehow you don't always get what you want in life. So I've learnt to be contented with one child and bring her up the best I can.

But I believe that sometimes having siblings doesn't mean you will be close to them. I know of people who are not close to their siblings, and it's like they are the only child.

And if the only child can have a few close friends in life, it's as good as having siblings. Sometimes, true friends are better than siblings. That's my opinion.

Shimmers:

Hello All

I didnt knw tht there's this page.. Glad Ive browse this Kiasuparents rather than just looking at the academic pages..

I am the only child and now having only son who is already 7. Had MC before and after him so I have come to terms tt maybe this is the plan HE has for
Me. I would love to have more but...

It is so sad when at times my DS would ask me why am
I not giving him any brother/ sister when all his friends having siblings..

I can feel hw bored life can be without having anybody(siblings) ard esp when Im getting older now. Wouldnt want my DS to feel this way to but there's nothing I can do.. Just hv to give him the best in
Life..

[Shimmers]

Angelight


I second ur opinion on friends over siblings.
I do knw of quite a number of friends who are not in good terms with their own flesh n blood and its sad.

But who am I to comment on tht, people would say tht ive never been in tht situation so I wont knw…

Like u, my purpose in life is to equip my DS fully so he wont need to depend on anybody when he faces real life…

[Supermomie]

Wow...i read this thread and i'm falling in love with it!

I didn't know there's such topic for it and i'm so happy reading it!

I couldn't agree better when our kid kept asking us for another brother/sister and its really dreadful to even answer them the simplest question.

My son is 7yrs old and been asking me when can he have another brother or sister. Sad part he says he's lonely and another saddest part he knew his twin didn't make it to this world

I'm going to be 36 and hubby is turning 40. Saddest part hubby is working overseas and he's only back like 4 or 6mths once or twice a year..so how dreadful it is and how on earth to conceive?! Chances to have another one is pretty slim with age catching up and also having my son was a challenge 7yrs ago and giving birth to him was another challenge which i nearly lost my life bring him out to this world.

I guess i am really thankful to GOD for HE gave me the only ONE child in our life....rather than nothing at all..but i hope HE answer my prayer for me to have another one even tho I hv to risk my life again

[kaitlynangelica]

I keep telling myself there are advantageous to having only one child. My only gal is very very close to us and in this respect, I do not think that my family is in any way, disadvantaged to other families. Its also less financially straining. I know those with 2 or 3 kids will shoot me for passing this comment. But its really expensive to raise a child these days. Just think of all the tuition, enrichment, insurance and medical bills that we have had to fork out. What surprises me is how some are so attracted by the baby bonus thinking its sufficient for 21 years. I know a lady with three kids and she can’t even afford to send her kids for swimming lessons. Her first child was a honeymoon baby, had the second because she wanted the tax rebate, and the third because she wanted a girl. She is struggling cos her working hours are long and hence has no time to spend with them. Also can’t afford to send them for any tuiton as and when it is needed.

[Angelight]

Supermomie, we shld indeed be thankful that God gave us a child of our own flesh and blood. I know couples who couldn't have any and have to adopt.


Like you, I also pray and hope for another child but not to the extent of risking my life. For DD and DH's sake, I think my life is more impt than having another child. So I just let nature take its course...

Supermomie:

I guess i am really thankful to GOD for HE gave me the only ONE child in our life....rather than nothing at all..but i hope HE answer my prayer for me to have another one even tho I hv to risk my life again

[Supermomie]

BlackBelt, thank you for those kind words

[Supermomie]

Sorry..i mean Angelight so sotong in the morning!