Bad Teachers

[corneyAmber]

GoopPwr, before you do anything, it would be good to investigate info from more sources. It is not sufficient to hear mainly from your child only if you want to make a case. I believe my child too but I will check with a few sources to confirm my suspicions, then I make my case.


Teachers are definitely under stress to perform in many ways. I do not envy them at all. If the situation is getting your child not to be motivated in learning, then you definitely have to take some action. Perhaps the teacher needs someone to give her some help as well, to break away from her routine way of doing things and try other methods to help the children to learn. What can be constructive is when both parents and teachers are willing to be open with one another and work towards the same goal.

[GoopPwr]

thank you ksi for offering your view, it is indeed wise to get more info from other sources. My son have been complaining to me, sometimes with tears in his eyes, for months, and have been asking me what are we going to do.


I am thinking of speaking directly to the parents of a few of the boys

He is not one to tear easily. And is usually cheerful and happy, but for the last few months everytime he talks about this chinese teacher, he is unhapy for the next few hours, once or twice even for the next day or two.

My point is , I am more convinced than otherwise.

[corneyAmber]

GoopPwr:

thank you ksi for offering your view, it is indeed wise to get more info from other sources. My son have been complaining to me, sometimes with tears in his eyes for months, and have been asking me what are we going to do.


He is not one to tear easily. And is usually cheerful and happy, but for the last few months everytime he talks about this chinese teacher, he is unhapy for the next few hours, once or twice even for the next day or two.

My point is , I am more convinced than otherwise.

Then you certainly have to do something if it is causing him so much duress. Get the info from a few sources to validate what you hear to strengthen your case.

[GoopPwr]

yes, I’m thinking of speaking to the parents of a few of the students

[Mdm Koh]

I think that the teacher is wrong to use such negative methods to discipline her class. However, apart from speaking to the parents of the other students, I think you should also check with your son if what the teacher claimed was true.


Did he really not do his work? Was he really late for class for 20 to 30 minutes? As a parent, I think you should find out from him why the teacher said that. I feel that even though it’s natural that you would empathise with your son and feel protective of him, if he has been behaving badly in class, he ought to be responsible for his actions.

Your son is very distressed by the punishment and harsh words from his teacher. The fastest way to improve matters is actually not to find "proof" of the teacher’s mishandling of her class, but to work on your son’s discipline, so that the teacher will have no excuse for punishing him.

After that, you can investigate at your own time and consider approaching the principal.

[GoopPwr]

I did the homework with him, completed it and put them all in the bag. I do so for this particular subject becos of past experiances with this teacher. My best guess is that the teacher did not get them some how, or, have lost it, knowingly, or unknowingly.


But it is the attitude : I am the teacher, and therefore I am always right, you are the student, I say you do.

For those who are in their high horses, and holier than thou, I firmly believe in discipline, I believe even that there is a time, and place for - I say you do and not question my authority .

But I also believe we shd teach the child to believes in himself, even if others do not share the same, provided what he believes in is right and appropriate, and to deliver that in a repectful and polite manner.

Often times it is not what we say, but the manner we say it.

And I also believe that we all have to pick our battles, not all battles are worth our attention. And there are times you dont have a choice becos the battles keep coming at you.

It was the teacher who is late for 20-30 mins, many times throughout the year. Not my son.

Every time my son is being disciplined in school and I know of it, my first response is to find out what and if he has done wrong. This is the typical thing to do isn’t it ?

If any parents have taken noticed, our kids now are no longer as we were, their age. They know what is right and what is wrong and they reason better at a much younger age. They know at a much younger age that there is injustice .

They know at a much younger age, what and who is respectable, and who is not.

If they have bee unjustly punished, and they do not know of it, or are not bordered, then it is a lot more easier to let it go. But, if they know so, and feel that there is not justice and fairness, and it is all one way, and are troubled by it., now this is somethng we shd address.

Do you not accord your child dignity that they deserve?

There are some back ground to this which make me suspect that she is taking it out on my son becos I had gone to the HOD to clarify some questions, and I have to do so becos, she refused to answer questions, time and again, especialy questions by some students, whom she dislike for various reasons, rightly so or not.

Doesn’t the action of the teacher say something ?

An adult and a child, a person put in authority and a student in a school environment. When does it cross the line when discipline becomes bullying. When does it become personal.

[Mdm Koh]

GoopPwr:

If they have bee unjustly punished, and they do not know of it, or are not bordered, then it is a lot more easier to let it go. But, if they know so, and feel that there is not justice and fairness, and it is all one way, now this is somethng we shd address.

True, it may explain why your son is feeling so bothered by it. If you are very sure that the teacher has been lying and punishing him unfairly, you should ask the HOD or principal to speak with her.

[bobonana]

Sometime back i read a chinese book on child upbringing and one of the golden rule is do not criticise your child’s teacher in front of them. As you are encouraging them to challenge authority and lose interest in their studies. I think the first point is debatable as challenging authority might not be a bad thing, but the latter is definately worrying.


If the teacher truly did something wrong it would be best to speak with the teacher personally instead of criticising them and siding with your child.

After reading this article I tend to relate to my own personal experience. I have a younger brother who has dyslexia and my mom was late in discovering it. Probably because of guilt my mom is very protective of my younger brother. When he was in primary school he had a very demanding form teacher who always scold my brother for being slow. My mom did have a talk with the teahcer but she also criticise the teacher in front of my brother, saying things like "With a teacher like that no wonder why your grades are not improving and dont want to go to school" etc etc

My brother ended up to be a very resentful person and always finding excuses for himself. He blames that form teacher of his for his current situation, he blames the singapore education system for P4 streaming blames everyone but himself.

Probably cos when he was young my mom taught him how to find excuses for himself.

Hence i would advise parents out there to pls do not criticise the teachers in front of the kid. Do have a good talk with the teacher and principal if necessary.

[mommypoon21]

My son has good teachers

[Rockdiva]

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