Days off for maid

[peapot]

I give my maid off once a month. anything more she says waste money. That’s why Indonesia maid is so different from Philip maid.

Busymom, I think you need to be frank with the maid with boyfriend. Tell her she must use protection. My friend’s maid who is also in her thirties got pregnant after going off every Sunday. No choice sent her back .

[LOLMum]

Busymom:

How does one ensure that? We know one of my maids has a boyfriend, but we don't talk about it... I mean how to talk about safe sex with a woman in her thirties and divorced... :?

show her the rules and regulations as stated by mom about sending pregnant maids home.

if she has a bun in the oven, employer needs to get her out asap and meanwhile, it takes a long long time to get a replacement. so better to have a frank talk with her and ask her to go to dr for advice on birth control. but shucks, if she take pills, the boyfriend might not wear condom and in the end, maid might end up with ai__ which is worse than being pregnant. :faint:

[verykiasu2010]

LOLMum:

Busymom:

How does one ensure that? We know one of my maids has a boyfriend, but we don't talk about it... I mean how to talk about safe sex with a woman in her thirties and divorced... :?

show her the rules and regulations as stated by mom about sending pregnant maids home.

if she has a bun in the oven, employer needs to get her out asap and meanwhile, it takes a long long time to get a replacement. so better to have a frank talk with her and ask her to go to dr for advice on birth control. but shucks, if she take pills, the boyfriend might not wear condom and in the end, maid might end up with ai__ which is worse than being pregnant. :faint:

it is a well know fact that many of them earn a second income on off day and never gets pregnant

[BeContented]

verykiasu2010:

I only wish that the bad maids could have been better matched with the bad employers....like that will be more \"equal\" terms .....

eeerrr.....but no maid will think they are bad and no employer will claim they are no good :siam:

[Yoke]

I tend to believe that maids who are older in age (40 +) are less likely to bring trouble when they go on off. I could be wrong.

[Busymom]

peapot:

I give my maid off once a month. anything more she says waste money. That's why Indonesia maid is so different from Philip maid.

Busymom, I think you need to be frank with the maid with boyfriend. Tell her she must use protection. My friend's maid who is also in her thirties got pregnant after going off every Sunday. No choice sent her back .

Actually, I am less concerned about her getting pregnant than if she catches some diseases...

Erm... a bit difficult to talk as it was DD who went to fiddle with her HP after she accidentally left it in our car...

This maid is a bit stubborn type... furthermore quite new with us, although she has worked quite a long time in Singapore already.

[Busymom]

LOLMum:

Busymom:

How does one ensure that? We know one of my maids has a boyfriend, but we don't talk about it... I mean how to talk about safe sex with a woman in her thirties and divorced... :?

show her the rules and regulations as stated by mom about sending pregnant maids home.

if she has a bun in the oven, employer needs to get her out asap and meanwhile, it takes a long long time to get a replacement. so better to have a frank talk with her and ask her to go to dr for advice on birth control. but shucks, if she take pills, the boyfriend might not wear condom and in the end, maid might end up with ai__ which is worse than being pregnant. :faint:

That is my worry too... she may not be sleeping around, but hard to say about her boyfriend, right?

[michyms]

My maid has 2 off days, then other Sundays, she is off from 9am-3pm to attend church and cell group. She belongs to a group in my church, so we are happy to give her time.


At least these days, MOM dun hold employers responsible for pregnant maids. It was so dumb last time, how can we possibly prevent a full grown adult from having sex if she wants to. Unless we lock her up all the time. Even those who do not have off days can find a way to have a boyfriend if she is so determined.

[joper]

jtoh:

verykiasu2010:

having trust in the maid is one thing


whether the maid is trustworthy is a totally different thing. having trust in the maid does not mean the maid can be trusted

trust is always subject to abuse

if the law is less onerous on the employer, who cares what they do outside as long as don't bring men and diseases back to the work place which is the employer's home

:goodpost:

Totally agree!! :hi5:

[Busymom]

Yoke:

I tend to believe that maids who are older in age (40 +) are less likely to bring trouble when they go on off. I could be wrong.

I think it depends on the individual at the end of the day. If they are happily settled and matured, I think these maids would be ok. But for those who are divorced, how do you tell them that they shouldn't get themselves a boyfriend? Come to think of it, we did ask her initially if she has a boyfriend, but she said no...

She has 2 off days a month, while the other one has one (but we let her go home every year).