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kids_r_innocent:

ectanz:

Hi Janet, no difference for my case. I need to work thru 7 days, no rest day worst than a maid. I was sick last week being spread by my dd2 - stomach flu. Although sick but still need to take care of my both dds. Hb either traveling or can't handle both of them.

Imagine not feeling well, still need to coach my dd1 on her spelling test and math hm while trying to stop dd2 from crawling all over the places :frustrated:

I can empathize with ur situation... These r the days when we hope our kids will grow up soon so that they can take care of themselves. Hang on there! N hope u r much better too! :hugs:

yes, they will before you know it but our hearts will always be with them
take heart, I am sure every mother go through this phase and all
emerge OK and so will you, Cheers!!

[ectanz]

Hi All SAHM mummies, thanks for yr encouragement and concern. :hugs: Feeling much better now. Luckily I hv kept medicine from my previous consultation. Can't even go to consult doctor with my dd2 around cos hb not in s'pore.


Used to tell my hb that I can't afford to fall sick as nobody will be assuming my duties. In terms of dd1's education, hb is quite bochap. If asks him to coach dd1 on her study, both of them will end up watching tv and surfing Internet. As for dd2, she will start to wail the moment she with hb. Less than 5 mins, hb began to lose his temper and shouted at her. I hv to intervene and comfort dd2 in order to stop her from crying.

Hb also never lay his fingers on household chores. He keeps saying that he doesn't know how the things works or too lazy to move about. He will juz lying on bed motionlessly. He used to say that I am staying at home comfortably whereas he needs to work hard for our living. Household chores and kids should be my responsibilities. :stompfeet:

[sleepy]

Dh also thought I’m very free at home!

[BeContented]

Same here!!


When I complain big time, quickly pacify....but u can sense his REAL feelings....think I quite enjoy life. :rant:

[janet88]

ectanz:

Used to tell my hb that I can't afford to fall sick as nobody will be assuming my duties. In terms of dd1's education, hb is quite bochap. If asks him to coach dd1 on her study, both of them will end up watching tv and surfing Internet. As for dd2, she will start to wail the moment she with hb. Less than 5 mins, hb began to lose his temper and shouted at her. I hv to intervene and comfort dd2 in order to stop her from crying.

Hb also never lay his fingers on household chores. He keeps saying that he doesn't know how the things works or too lazy to move about. He will juz lying on bed motionlessly. He used to say that I am staying at home comfortably whereas he needs to work hard for our living. Household chores and kids should be my responsibilities. :stompfeet:

I can definitely identify with that...it happens every night when I have to hang up wet laundry. He can't even coach her for spelling :slapshead:

Last Sunday, I experienced the worst ever mood...so bad I wanted to walk out.

When we had a maid, he could afford to be lazy...but very pissed off with the maid's attitude. Now that there is no maid, he does help out with some housework like mopping and keeping/folding clothes. Where kids are concerned, I remind him that he has to do HIS PART to coach them...I cannot split myself into 2 right ? :stompfeet:

[jedamum]

janet_lee88:

ectanz:

Used to tell my hb that I can't afford to fall sick as nobody will be assuming my duties. In terms of dd1's education, hb is quite bochap. If asks him to coach dd1 on her study, both of them will end up watching tv and surfing Internet. As for dd2, she will start to wail the moment she with hb. Less than 5 mins, hb began to lose his temper and shouted at her. I hv to intervene and comfort dd2 in order to stop her from crying.

Hb also never lay his fingers on household chores. He keeps saying that he doesn't know how the things works or too lazy to move about. He will juz lying on bed motionlessly. He used to say that I am staying at home comfortably whereas he needs to work hard for our living. Household chores and kids should be my responsibilities. :stompfeet:

I can definitely identify with that...it happens every night when I have to hang up wet laundry. He can't even coach her for spelling :slapshead:

Last Sunday, I experienced the worst ever mood...so bad I wanted to walk out.

When we had a maid, he could afford to be lazy...but very pissed off with the maid's attitude. Now that there is no maid, he does help out with some housework like mopping and keeping/folding clothes. Where kids are concerned, I remind him that he has to do HIS PART to coach them...I cannot split myself into 2 right ? :stompfeet:

janet, ectanz,
my husband expects me to clean the house and teach the kids. any stuff that he offers to help is on a 'goodwill' basis as 'unspoken' rule, he brings home the bacon, i tend the nest. the alternative is that i go out to work and i still have to tend the nest. i just that he has lower standards (which he did adjusted downwards since his mum is a very good housekeeper ) and cannot stand him poking around my kitchen and commenting this and that. i rather shoo him to his computer rather than he helps me and then suggest this and that. he helps out when he is in the mood or cannot tahan the mess. for teaching kids, have to get him at the correct mood and timing. my kids are rather independent if i am sick because they rather play alone/revise work alone than incur the wrath of the father.

[sleepy]

jedamum:

my husband expects me to clean the house and teach the kids. any stuff that he offers to help is on a 'goodwill' basis as 'unspoken' rule, he brings home the bacon, i tend the nest. the alternative is that i go out to work and i still have to tend the nest.

Wow, your dh spoils market le


I always remind my dh I did not quit my job to be a house maid. I would jump on dh if he dares to harbour similar expectations. My plan is to spend time with kids. Full stop.

Theoretically, I'm doing housework & cooking out of goodwill :evil:

[janet88]

sleepy:

jedamum:

my husband expects me to clean the house and teach the kids. any stuff that he offers to help is on a 'goodwill' basis as 'unspoken' rule, he brings home the bacon, i tend the nest. the alternative is that i go out to work and i still have to tend the nest.

Theoretically, I'm doing housework & cooking out of goodwill

I love this line.

[SAHM_TAN]

sleepy:

Wow, your dh spoils market le


I always remind my dh I did not quit my job to be a house maid. I would jump on dh if he dares to harbour similar expectations. My plan is to spend time with kids. Full stop.

Theoretically, I'm doing housework & cooking out of goodwill :evil:

Will remember this line the next time I have use of it :evil:

[LLX04]

hehe, u r a cool champ, sleepy…

That’s what i told my DH before i quit my job -kids are my priority where housework and cooking are really secondary. if i have no time for cooking/housework, he rather we eat out than see my black face… haha