In-law problems?

[DesertWind]

ningning:

My MIL had tried to beat me with an umbrella!!! I had not rebute her in any forms of words but she keep on scold and swear me and abuse me with many unimaginable words. She also told her son in front of walk in customers at their store that i was a slut and one day i will run away with all the money and he will be left with no money and alone!!

Alamak, they see you good to bully! How could your husband let them do this? You should consider standing up for yourself....
:sad:

[ectanz]

Chenonceau:

ningning:

My MIL had tried to beat me with an umbrella!!! I had not rebute her in any forms of words but she keep on scold and swear me and abuse me with many unimaginable words. She also told her son in front of walk in customers at their store that i was a slut and oneday i will run away with all the money and he will be left with no money and alone!!

This story makes me grateful for my own in-laws.

Me too! At least my MIL 动口不动手. I don't think I can endure this kind of treatment.

[verykiasu2010]

fortunately my mother is all praise for my DW, makes me jealous though, never praise me one ...... but at least my MIL praises me ..... :evil: :evil:

[mummy of 2]

janet_lee88:

Hubby's insensitive and brainless sister asked her brothers to get lawyer to assess parents assets. Can you imagine that? It's plain obvious her angmoh husband brainwashed her.

That cheapskate is supposed to be a dentist and he is eyeing a piece of the 3 room flat. Eldest son (hubby's brother) got so mad and shot his stupid sister a nasty email to leave the flat alone. Omg, that stupid woman wants a will written claiming that parents are forgetful. She wants division of assets.

My sil wanted to buy my her parents' flat for less than half the market value so that she could be SAHM. The flat is being rented out while my ils stay at my place. Amazing thing is DH didn't think there was anything wrong with this until I talked to him several times on this issue. Totally selfish!

[Mamo]

The reason why MIL "dare" to abuse the DIL whether verbally or physically is basically because they think that they have the right to do so as a MIL. Also, we have been taught from young to respect the elderly. Hence, we DIL will try to be accomodating to avoid putting our DH in a difficult position. Sadly, our DH will think that it is our duty to be a submissive wife and DIL and they don’t see the "suffering" we are enduring quietly. I was once a very tolerating DIL who had to put up with not only my MIL but also my SIL until an incident happened. I stormed out of the house and never stepped into their place for years. After my FIL’s much persuasion over the years, I started to visit or meet them on special occasions like CNY. From the incident, I realise that people will take advantage of you if you are too nice. From then on, my MIL "dare not" provoke me as she now knows that I am not a tame little dog anymore. As long as I am not in the wrong, I will not hesitate to speak up or defend myself. With the new GEN Y or Z, the world will turn around.

[janet88]

mummy of 2:

janet_lee88:

Omg, that stupid woman wants a will written claiming that parents are forgetful. She wants division of assets.

My sil wanted to buy my her parents' flat for less than half the market value so that she could be SAHM. The flat is being rented out while my ils stay at my place. Amazing thing is DH didn't think there was anything wrong with this until I talked to him several times on this issue. Totally selfish!

Blood thicker than water.
So they definitely had it all planned...the old ones staying at your place and the sister enjoying a BIG discount. :stupid:

[mummy of 2]

I don’t understand why my sil thinks it’s ok for her parents and indirectly us to subsidize her to be SAHM. Even more amazing that her DH doesn’t think it’s an insult to him.

[LOLMum]

could it be financially they are worse off than your family and being a sahm might also be a last option for them. thus they are trying to tighten their belts and looking for ways to save money.


your dh doesnt think much of it well, maybe he doesnt think he is in need of his parents’ $$$.

but if it pure greed, then not very nice.

[Chenonceau]

I don’t think kids should ask for handouts from elderly parents. Parents are old and have lost their earning power. Often, the house they stay in, is the only thing they have of value. You’re young and able bodied. Make it happen for yourself OR make do with less.


Every time we bought a property, my MIL wanted to give us some money to help out. I always refused. Partly, I didn’t want to be in a situation where for the little help we get, I end up so beholden that I will have to pay out more than I am willing and can afford in the long term. Partly, I thought that emotionally and psychologically, the old folks would experience greater well-being if they had surplus in the bank and owned a place of their own.

When they die, part of whatever they have will come to us anyway. Meanwhile, just keep it with them - like a savings account. It’s better for family harmony and the old folks’ emotional well-being. If my SIL ever suggested this, I would raise these objections.

How poor one is, is no excuse to ask elderly parents for handouts. They’ve put in the years of hard work. Let them enjoy whatever surplus they have, even if it’s in the form of a flat.

[mummy of 2]

Chenonceau:

I don't think kids should ask for handouts from elderly parents. Parents are old and have lost their earning power. Often, the house they stay in, is the only thing they have of value. You're young and able bodied. Make it happen for yourself OR make do with less.

My exact sentiments! Also she is planning to sell her own flat which has higher value then my ils. Her reason for asking for the BIG discount is to be debt free! It's not as if they can't take a loan and repay it using her dh's cpf. Most disturbing is that mil and DH didn't think her request unreasonable!!

I think I will slap my kids if I ever get such request.