In-law problems?

[Chenonceau]

BeContented:

Cannot stand it. Just overheard what MIL told my gal.

SIL (also DIL) went for 4-day business trip so only left MIL's son to look after the toddler. MIL said to my gal \"baby no mommy nevermind. Anyway baby dun look for the mommy, only look for daddy. Just the daddy is enough already, no Ned mommy'. Gosh, what kind of rubbish is she sprouting!! She did that to me last time too. I remembered once when I was rather sick when both kids were young, so I din go near them to avoid spreading, so DH was taking care & carrying the younger one. And right in front of my face, she told my elder boy pyscho-ying him by saying 'you like daddy more right? got daddy good enough'. grrhhhh

That happened to me too!! It's AWFUL!! Somehow, I found it in me to forgive her because she seemed to know not what she did... It's a bit like a child's jealousy.

When my daughter was 2, she would push her father away from me when he came to hold me close. We thought it was cute. When it is a MIL, it isn't cute. But if you can ensure that no one else is influenced by her propaganda then just ignore lor... and look a bit poor thing.

[racoon12]

Chenonceau:

BeContented:

Cannot stand it. Just overheard what MIL told my gal.

SIL (also DIL) went for 4-day business trip so only left MIL's son to look after the toddler. MIL said to my gal \"baby no mommy nevermind. Anyway baby dun look for the mommy, only look for daddy. Just the daddy is enough already, no Ned mommy'. Gosh, what kind of rubbish is she sprouting!! She did that to me last time too. I remembered once when I was rather sick when both kids were young, so I din go near them to avoid spreading, so DH was taking care & carrying the younger one. And right in front of my face, she told my elder boy pyscho-ying him by saying 'you like daddy more right? got daddy good enough'. grrhhhh

That happened to me too!! It's AWFUL!! Somehow, I found it in me to forgive her because she seemed to know not what she did... It's a bit like a child's jealousy.

When my daughter was 2, she would push her father away from me when he came to hold me close. We thought it was cute. When it is a MIL, it isn't cute. But if you can ensure that no one else is influenced by her propaganda then just ignore lor... and look a bit poor thing.

My MIL did to me too the last time she took care of my boi. I am kinda lucky cos both of my children are v sticky to me. Her mind-psycoing quite useless ....

[BeContented]

Last time when MIL see DH carrying the kids, she would go pat and ask the children 'You love daddy more than mommy right? Daddy better in taking care of you right?' Wonder what do they reap from saying such stuff to kids? Soooooo pathetic. They forgot they are the mommy too.


Was imagining :evil: ....if one day, right in front of her face I tell DH -
'I better than your mom in taking care of you right? Got me no need your mommy right?'......wonder will there be world-war 3

[LOLMum]

hi becontended,


not war world 3 lah. couldnt help but want to paste a picture. dont get mad with me okay........ :evil: :siam:


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[BeContented]

LOLMum:

hi becontended,


not war world 3 lah. couldnt help but want to paste a picture. dont get mad with me okay........ :evil: :siam:


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wah....so UGLY :rotflmao:
I'll continue to :imconstipated: anyway, DH thinks she is low EQ & will just let her be & get her way. So no point i turn KINGKONG only.....

[laughingcat]

BeContented:

Last time when MIL see DH carrying the kids, she would go pat and ask the children 'You love daddy more than mommy right? Daddy better in taking care of you right?' Wonder what do they reap from saying such stuff to kids? Soooooo pathetic. They forgot they are the mommy too.


Was imagining :evil: ....if one day, right in front of her face I tell DH -
'I better than your mom in taking care of you right? Got me no need your mommy right?'......wonder will there be world-war 3

Long long time ago my mil used to said that to my first born. I am the type that react fast withouch thought. I quickly corrected her that \"ma, that is not true. Then I sing the chinese song 世界自由妈妈好 and quickly reaffirm her that \"that is why DH dotes her more\" and then gave the innocent look and a pat on her shoulder. Immediately she keeps quiet and never repeat this childish act of hers.

[Angelight]

I think those of us (including me) who have difficult MILs need some counselling or at least to talk it out/confide with someone trusting (usually not our hubby cos it may put them in a difficult position even if they are on our side). If not, all the pent-up hurts and resentments may have long term adverse effects on our emotional and even physical well-being.


What are some of your ways/methods to purge the "in-law toxic" from your system? Let’s share and perhaps learn from one another…

[Mamo]

Angelight:

I think those of us (including me) who have difficult MILs need some counselling or at least to talk it out/confide with someone trusting (usually not our hubby cos it may put them in a difficult position even if they are on our side). If not, all the pent-up hurts and resentments may have long term adverse effects on our emotional and even physical well-being.


What are some of your ways/methods to purge the \"in-law toxic\" from your system? Let's share and perhaps learn from one another...

See less of each other is the best way out. If really have to meet, try not to talk.

[janet88]

Mamo:

Angelight:

What are some of your ways/methods to purge the \"in-law toxic\" from your system? Let's share and perhaps learn from one another...

See less of each other is the best way out. If really have to meet, try not to talk.

See less of them...keep arms length.
If really have to see them, watch TV in the hall to avoid minimal chat.
That's what I do...or I'll get totally pissed.

[mummy of 2]

When my sil is at my house and I don’t feel like seeing her I’ll bring the kids to my room to read. See no evil hear no evil.