Club Only Child Club

[Supermomie]

BlackBelt, thank you for those kind words

[Supermomie]

Sorry..i mean Angelight so sotong in the morning!

[Angelight]

It's ok...you forgot your coffee right?

Supermomie:

Sorry..i mean Angelight so sotong in the morning!

[just888]

Wah…glad I found this page through the active posts else I would have missed it.


My DS is also the only child and he is now 9 years old.
We have tried actively hard to conceive for no 2 from western medication to TCM since he was 3years old. And even went through checkup etc and the last one was IUI recommended by the gynae, sad to sad fail. The gynae had actually recommended us to do IVF, but then I am not ready as I scared of jabs, lack alone the stress doing IVF. But guess luck is not on our side plus hubby is seems like living in a different world from me… he worked into the nights. Like that how to conceive with the timing and stresses as we aged.

Last week also asked by my auntie if I am going to have no 2 since DS is now 9 already. I am now 37 this year…she speak as if I can plan when I want to have kid like my cousins? They are into prevention methods… mine no need that also no luck. sigh. Sorry for the grumbling here.

I think I should be thankful to god that I still have a son. Though he maybe lonely at times, but he is quite independent and caring. He is rather attached to us.

[monmon31]

just888:

Wah..glad I found this page through the active posts else I would have missed it.


My DS is also the only child and he is now 9 years old.
We have tried actively hard to conceive for no 2 from western medication to TCM since he was 3years old. And even went through checkup etc and the last one was IUI recommended by the gynae, sad to sad fail. The gynae had actually recommended us to do IVF, but then I am not ready as I scared of jabs, lack alone the stress doing IVF. But guess luck is not on our side plus hubby is seems like living in a different world from me... he worked into the nights. Like that how to conceive with the timing and stresses as we aged.

Last week also asked by my auntie if I am going to have no 2 since DS is now 9 already. I am now 37 this year...she speak as if I can plan when I want to have kid like my cousins? They are into prevention methods... mine no need that also no luck. sigh. Sorry for the grumbling here.

I think I should be thankful to god that I still have a son. Though he maybe lonely at times, but he is quite independent and caring. He is rather attached to us.

Hi,I completely understand you as I am in the same situation as you. DS now 8 years and have been trying since he's three and I am 2 yrs older than you...

Like you, i am thankful and glad to have him as there are couples who cannot have children of their own. But at the same time, I am worried for him...

[kaitlynangelica]

I just turned 38 in september and dd is now in p2. I dun think there is much hope left. I have more or less told myself that its probably gonna remain status quo.

[monmon31]

kaitlynangelica:

I just turned 38 in september and dd is now in p2. I dun think there is much hope left. I have more or less told myself that its probably gonna remain status quo.

Like I said, I am Thankful to GOD, that we have blessings to go thru pregnancy and experience motherhood...

But we should also not give up trying, we could be LUCKY!!

[kaitlynangelica]

I hate it when people insensitively ask "is she the only one"?


A lot of people can’t emphathise and I am refering to those people who have 2 or more. Its hard for them to understand because its not that we don’t have a child. Even my best friend, will just tell me that I mustn’t be jealous of others and that hurts.

[monmon31]

kaitlynangelica:

I keep telling myself there are advantageous to having only one child. My only gal is very very close to us and in this respect, I do not think that my family is in any way, disadvantaged to other families. Its also less financially straining. I know those with 2 or 3 kids will shoot me for passing this comment. But its really expensive to raise a child these days. Just think of all the tuition, enrichment, insurance and medical bills that we have had to fork out. What surprises me is how some are so attracted by the baby bonus thinking its sufficient for 21 years. I know a lady with three kids and she can't even afford to send her kids for swimming lessons. Her first child was a honeymoon baby, had the second because she wanted the tax rebate, and the third because she wanted a girl. She is struggling cos her working hours are long and hence has no time to spend with them. Also can't afford to send them for any tuiton as and when it is needed.

My god! Not being sour grapes about the lady with 3 kids, I rather have more time to spend with DS/DD rather than spread myself thin. When you cannot provide the basics ( to me time spent w them) , you may set yourself up for failure. Children are like young trees, you need to nuture them ( treat them w lots of love and care). If these young trees cannot withstand the wind, rain...they bend...like the many new young trees the NPD plant, the kids (eventually adults)may end up being in the more of a liability to society.

[just888]

kaitlynangelica:

I hate it when people insensitively ask \"is she the only one\"?


A lot of people can't emphathise and I am refering to those people who have 2 or more. Its hard for them to understand because its not that we don't have a child. Even my best friend, will just tell me that I mustn't be jealous of others and that hurts.

Alot of people out there who are fertile always thought conceiving is as easy as ABCs..they never went through the stress and torture we had. Some still can tell me on the face their \"accident\" rate are high if they do not take care of precaution.

Just like govt, they blame us for not giving birth and stopping at 1 hence birth rate low. But I did try hard for all these years, yet no outcome .. should I be penalized?