In-law problems?

[ningning]

racoon12:

ningning:

my MIL had always go around telling ppl she knows, neighbours, even just walk in customers at their store, that i was very evil teach her son to quarrel with her , i gave her son\"fu shui\" from temple? to drink to make him listen to me, the family broken coz of me...........also whenever, my DH and his sister had disputes over their family business matters she will quickly add that\" oh see, its ur \"bo\" again that psycho you to quarrel with ur sister right\"? then she will cry and yell loudly and said \"wow, unfilial son , unfilial son ..listen to ur \"bo\" till our family break up........sigh, u know, its like a cycle thing, its just happen and happen again. The sibings quarrel whats has it got to do with me??????just bcos she knew her DD always \"backstab\" me , so she tot i same same \"backstab\" her precious mighty DD and have my DH quarrel with her DD. i not so free like her DD everyday think how to make other ppl life unhappy only. My SIL also got integrity problem, she always \"smear\" me then my DH question her , she \"deny\" and told him that \"oh u see, your \"bo\" lied to you to make us dirft apart\"!!! I just cant believe an almost 40 years old behave herself like that!!! My DH always tell me that SIL from young till now , parents spoilt her liao...no one can change her already.

Ningning,
It is easier to blame other ppl... this is what my MIL is doing all along. She is just blaming for any problems arises onto my laps. Kids sick-i din take care properly. Kids academical drop - I din coached. Kids misbehave-I too pampered them. Even the TCM doctor that my kids is consulting she also find no good. Initial stage i keep quiet but now i dun be bothered. What i do will be wrong in her eyes....

racoon 12,

agreed, coz me same, everything i do its all wrong in her eyes too.....even my baby girl full month celebration then, she told all the relatives repeatedly that \"wow very lucky lah , girl girl look her papa, so fair hor\".... oh, even my girl cant take after my look har?????? same here too, my DH sick, she will tink i din take care of him well enough, even when we renovate our house then, we ran into some problem with contractor ,she tink i must the \"problem\" one....., anything she doesnt like happen, i had to accounted for all the mistakes........ My MIL tink her son is like a living\"idiot\" and suspect i had to \"arrange n organize\" his life including telling him when to have disputes with his sibling. crazy right?

[Rockdiva]

Yes , mil doesnt like the idea that the kid take after the looks of mummy…she says what is so good about ur face to me back then…

[auntieM]

Whenever we get to meet ILs, they will never fail to 'laugh' at my DS's weight, teeth, eating habit, posture...etc :stupid:

Now that DS older, he simply keep quiet or walk away from the drama...
so much for concern.. ... :rant:

[Chenonceau]

auntieM:

Whenever we get to meet ILs, they will never fail to 'laugh' at my DS's weight, teeth, eating habit, posture...etc :stupid:

Now that DS older, he simply keep quiet or walk away from the drama...
so much for concern.. ... :rant:

That is very mean. I tell people off firmly for that. I don't like it when my kids are embarrassed. A relative did once... and never again.

[auntieM]

Chenonceau:

auntieM:

Whenever we get to meet ILs, they will never fail to 'laugh' at my DS's weight, teeth, eating habit, posture...etc :stupid:

Now that DS older, he simply keep quiet or walk away from the drama...
so much for concern.. ... :rant:

That is very mean. I tell people off firmly for that. I don't like it when my kids are embarrassed. A relative did once... and never again.

DH will tell them off nowadays..I just look away.. ..
I did tell her off couple of times before and didn't want to give her the opportunity to turn around and play victim..
FIL will call DS 'silly' for eating rice and not more meat like him, MIL will remind DS ..\"Aiyoh your front tooth soooo cute ah!\" in a laughing tone...( DS had a fall and front tooth just a slight gap, waiting to correct it when he gets older..and explained to ILs 200 times liao!! )
Me not only blood boil, but steam coming out from me ears already... :mad:

[Chenonceau]

auntieM:

FIL will call DS 'silly' for eating rice and not more meat like him, MIL will remind DS ..\"Aiyoh your front tooth soooo cute ah!\" in a laughing tone...( DS had a fall and front tooth just a slight gap, waiting to correct it when he gets older..and explained to ILs 200 times liao!! )
Me not only blood boil, but steam coming out from me ears already... :mad:

Reading this makes me :mad: too. Children are still young and their self-concepts are fragile. It is very unbecoming of adults to ridicule children or criticise them for fun.

It's not fun for the kid and heartbreaking to witness. Good thing is that your DS has your support and understanding.

[janet88]

auntieM:

Whenever we get to meet ILs, they will never fail to 'laugh' at my DS's weight, teeth, eating habit, posture...etc :stupid:

Now that DS older, he simply keep quiet or walk away from the drama...
so much for concern.. ... :rant:

How can they be so mean ? Firstly, that is a child and secondly, they are grandparents...name-calling and such persistent teasing is uncalled for.
Sorry to rub salt in...but I am totally disgusted.

[auntieM]

Fortunately not staying together, sure go :siao: ..

That's why need to come here and :rant:

[Angelight]

Funny how all MILs who don't like their DILs behave the same way! My MIL always says DD looks like her ever since she was born, even now. :siao:


And when DD behaves in a certain way, she will say DD is just like my DH when he was a small boy. Never once did she say DD looks or behaves like me, even though DH always says DD is like my clone.

This is what I call prejudice and blind bias. That she only sees what she wants to see, NOT what it really is. In fact, DD doesn't look a wee bit like her. Thank goodness!

Rockdiva:

Yes , mil doesnt like the idea that the kid take after the looks of mummy...she says what is so good about ur face to me back then...

[janet88]

Angelight:

And when DD behaves in a certain way, she will say DD is just like my DH when he was a small boy. Never once did she say DD looks or behaves like me, even though DH always says DD is like my clone.

This is what I call prejudice and blind bias. That she only sees what she wants to see, NOT what it really is.

Rockdiva:

Yes , mil doesnt like the idea that the kid take after the looks of mummy...she says what is so good about ur face to me back then...

So true...they are :siao: bcos they insist so-and-so grandchild looks like them or their family when the child doesn't have any resemblance to them.