Advice - Divorce or Not to Divorce

[Baby39]

I am trembling now as i write this. Itz a stalemate at home now with his family members by his side in the same house against me outside room to guard me fm going near my kid n refusing to tell me whatz the next step. What am i going to do now? I will not go anywhere without my kid.

[sall]

Baby39:

I am trembling now as i write this. Itz a stalemate at home now with his family members by his side in the same house against me outside room to guard me fm going near my kid n refusing to tell me whatz the next step. What am i going to do now? I will not go anywhere without my kid.

Do u mean they're confining you to the room and keeping your kid away from you? You should call someone for help. How old is your kid? If nobody can help, call the police. Take care and good luck.

[Chenonceau]

sall:

Baby39:

I am trembling now as i write this. Itz a stalemate at home now with his family members by his side in the same house against me outside room to guard me fm going near my kid n refusing to tell me whatz the next step. What am i going to do now? I will not go anywhere without my kid.

Do u mean they're confining you to the room and keeping your kid away from you? You should call someone for help. How old is your kid? If nobody can help, call the police. Take care and good luck.

What is your address? I will call the police for you. Or someone else will because I have to log off soon.

[Baby39]

Chenonceau, i cant thx u enuf 4 throwg the much needed helpline. I was so so desparate n loss. . It was a nitemare. I forced the talk to be just btw us, took a step back. All is calm now, we agree to seek marriage counselling. Praying it wld work but no matter what happens in the end, i wld be grateful to u just by the thot of offering help. It really means a lot. I realize one thg at the end of day after approachg aware, lawyer, itz all down to self help actually. First n foremost, sort out your thots ie whether ur marriage is worth salvaging WHEN u r calm. Helpline or lawyers or even court protection can only do that much.

[Baby39]

N sall to you too. Thxs much!

[Baby39]

N sall to you too. Thxs much!

[sall]

Baby39:

N sall to you too. Thxs much!

You're welcome. You sounded like you were in danger, I was worried for you. Hope there'll be some improvement in the future. All the best.

[Baby39]

I hope so for sake of kid. Never never take a kid away from the mother in argument, if they did it then, i will go crazy n i dunno what i wld hv done then. On hindsight, i wonder why i was still sane then … One verbally abusive hb shoutg at the top of his voice plus mil addg fuel only hearg his side of story plus them on phone callg 4 reinforcements n they refused to tell me what they want fill my heart w fear. Every table was turned. Ended up i was the stole money schemg bitch. The amazing thg is this era, there are still beliefs that as long as a guy does not womanise and gamble, the wife need to tolerate.

[sall]

Hi Baby39, maybe you should discuss with your husband about closing the joint account. Take back the amt you have contributed. Then one less headache in future. There are many cases of husbands who emptied the joint acc and then dumped the wives. You have to protect yourself.

[Chenonceau]

sall:

Hi Baby39, maybe you should discuss with your husband about closing the joint account. Take back the amt you have contributed. Then one less headache in future. There are many cases of husbands who emptied the joint acc and then dumped the wives. You have to protect yourself.

Yes, yes ... I agree!! Get your finances in order. It may not be possible to close the joint account, but you should start a different account and build that up.

Something still bugs me about your situation Baby39. No one can make decisions for you but I am very sure that what you are undergoing is a prelude to spousal abuse. The preliminary to bad spousal abuse is always to isolate the victim FIRST with threats and physical imprisonment.

AWARE may not extend to you legal help but their helpline is also for counselling. You absolutely need access to listening ears in case you find yourself in real physical danger. I understand that you don't want to leave your child behind so you don't want to take off NOW. Nonetheless, aside from building a financial foundation, you need to also take other steps to ensure a contingency plan for taking your child and leaving the marriage.

Lay the foundation so that you can have the choice later... to leave or to stay.