PSLE 2012 - child has no interest to study
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I was so happy when he invited a friend to come home with him during the few weeks before PSLE. Bc with friend around, he so "kwai". Both eat their lunch, then quickly sit down to do homework - those "Top school papers" that were assigned. Then by late afternoon when they were done, both played X-box. haha - ok to me bc they were so good at finishing their school assignments, unlike when he’s alone at home himself.[/quote]
yeah… we have to lower down our expectation, else, we will die of depression… anyway, as long as they don’t do bad things like get into bad company, i’m ok that they are average student… overall, we only have childhood once in a life time… and there is no u turn in life… -
Why not you have a heart to heart talk with him? The holidays are coming and there is still time to\" talk some sense\" into your boy. Maybe you & son can do target-setting and a termly revision schedule on what topics he shuld cover each week etc.
Review the schedule each term and see how he progresses. The thing about unmotivated kids is that they can't *See* or visualise where they are in the near future so coming up with a feasible plan & realistic mini-goals (how many marks for tests, CA,SA,prelims should he score...) can help. I agree that a 'carrot' helps, give him a reward if he works to achieve those mini-goals.
Tv is a major distraction though, i totally understand where you're coming from, my daughter used to be a real couch potato,she can watch everything from Cable to Tamil movie
but I stand firm & gradually cut down on her tv watching. She's also doing psle next yr..
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Ljas1370:
Dear all parent,
I've a big headache. My elder son doesn't like to study. Everyday come back from school watch TV. Although, we have punished him for watching TV and even restricted him from watching, you just can't be bother. Still continue to watch. He did very badly for his SA 1 this year and I'm so worry for his PSLE next year. His average T-score was less than 150. I'm ready worry for him but he just can't be bother. Even though myself and hubby had tried to explain to him the importance of education and responsbility etc. But his attitude is like left in right out. Even when I sit together with him to help him to revise his work, for e.g. chinese, I explain to him the meaning and prounication, but the next day when I ask him back, he forgot everything liao. I'm very furious as time is lacking and he is not absorbing. Just like yesterday, I told him to revise his science as SA 2 is coming. In the end, he did revise 2 topics of the science BUT within 15 mins and is like watching the TV and studying at the same time. My maid told me that. When I tested on the topics that he revised in the afternoon, he couldn't answer me. I was so angry :stupid: Please advise me what I should do. I'm really at a loss. Thank so much.
He needs someone to compete with. -
the TV is the first thing that needs to go during the study period.
alot of times it is true that the child cannot see the need to study, or the repercussions of not studying.
a heart to heart talk like previously mentioned might help in your child understanding why theres a need to study. goal setting is very important also -
cteo101:
I must say that having 1st hand experience with this kind of child, that all your suggestions about heart-to-heart talk will not work. Talk is easy. Agree is easy, but execution after agreeing, even after you get them to \"sign a contract\" for what they've agreed, will all not really work.the TV is the first thing that needs to go during the study period.
alot of times it is true that the child cannot see the need to study, or the repercussions of not studying.
a heart to heart talk like previously mentioned might help in your child understanding why theres a need to study. goal setting is very important also
The best is to leave them be instead of being a *nag* and just pray for your child. -
gulp...reading all these comments are
making me quesy..my DS is doing PSLE in 2012 too!! -
The TV is not the demon here. It’s self-restraint. LJas’ son can’t see the consequences of his lack of self-restraint and lack of motivation. He’s watching useless shows for the sake of watching. Perhaps he’s using the TV to escape from the stress of his real world - the exams. He doesn’t know any other way to manage this stress.
Parents must thus try to find ways to motivate him (go ask professionals like MindChamps etc), instead of focusing on his weak studies and trying to scare him into submission. Sometimes, getting outside help may turn the situation around. Some kids rather listen to a teacher than his own parents. -
For children who refuse to study, u can try what my old neighbour did. He caned his son so hard until the next block can hear him crying. Can also try chasing him out of the house.
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Hi!
I don’t know can beat a P5/P6 child.I heard some kids so sensitive.
My son is going to P4 next year.
I tried all soft method with my son.didn’t work for long time.Then I strict with him, sometimes I caned him.He just lazy.One day I saw his laziness and beat him with my hand and told him that if I saw ur laziness I will beat u.After that his laziness reduced. -
I am of the view that frequent caning will have a negative impact in the long run. Parents should refrain from caning, unless the child has done something very, very bad. Wikipedia has some info on the possible negative effects of corporal punishment on the child. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corporal_punishment_in_the_home#Differing_views_about_parental_spanking
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For kids who loves tv & computer, maybe can try those online websites activities? I bought the etutor chinese for my girl (her chinese is very poor).. they go according to the textbooks syllabus.. so i asked my girl to do her learning online, then learn to read & write the \"new words\" etc.. and do the 'practise' online.. once she finishes, she can do other online games for maybe 30-60mins..
Checkout some of interesting online websites and asked your child if he/she is interested and can try subscribing them.
Hope this helps
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