In-law problems?

[ningning]

I find that is ok, If parents left most to their unmarried children. It will be good if we can take care of the unmarried sibling when parents are not around anymore. But one cannot behave in such that everyone in this world have to give in to them just bcoz they are not married. Its a personal choice to remain single , we are not the one that cause them to be single.

My DH also cant stand his sister already coz he feels that she has became very difficult to get along and hot temper since after he and his sister got married. Ever once we were a little shock, when she shoved me away and look hard at me while i was talking to DH and stood between us out of sudden coz she wanted to talk business with him. Think she want attention but I find it hard to believe coz my DH wasnt close with her at all even before marriage. Once at their youngest sister wedding dinner, my MIL said I got a nice watch and suggest that she shld get one similar to mine. SIL walked away immediately and minutes later caught her staring at me angrily. Think shes lack self confidence .

[LOLMum]

Envy and jealousy

[auntieM]

janet_lee88:

just888:

Ever shared with hubby that when in-laws leave this world, I do not want to stay with my BIL under 1 roof. Seems weird to have another guy at home with me esp when hubby is not around. So better to stay separately. Having said that, my MIL keep brainwashing my hubby that his bro is VERY CLOSE to him. But somehow I do not see that they are that close lei. BIL basically keep in his own world one.

You know why there is brain washing on her part ? She is afraid your hubby won't take him in when they kick the bucket.

My idiotic BIL is spoilt too, bcos he gives the mother the most pocket money and so he calls the shots, equivalent to spoiling.

My over forty single BIL also the 'baby'... ...spoilt, and sucks the most money from the family...He thinks I am not aware of his 'great' deeds and like to talk 'big in front of me somemore.. ... :faint:

[janet88]

HI Ladies,

I read that email sent out by the idiotic brat to his siblings.
He said that it's only HIM and hubby giving allowance to the parents. The sister replied him, saying that she also chips in. Anyway, there will be a BIG drama when the sister comes back next month. Got free 'movie' to watch then. :evil:

[LOLMum]

maybe it is a good idea to marry an only child. at least you only have 1 set of pil to deal with. no siblings or siblings inlaw.


no wonder my dd (after reading some pages here) doesnt feel like marrying anymore.

[janet88]

LOLMum:

maybe it is a good idea to marry an only child. at least you only have 1 set of pil to deal with. no siblings or siblings inlaw.


no wonder my dd (after reading some pages here) doesnt feel like marrying anymore.

Marrying an only child or only son will still have problems.
Even if you have both agreed not to have kids, you will constantly be bugged. The other case will be the parents wanting to bunk in with their only son. I heard of this man who is only son, his parents self-invited themselves to stay at his place. The mother did housework and cooked to make sure she is not staying there for free.

[Flowermonaster]

janet_lee88:

LOLMum:

maybe it is a good idea to marry an only child. at least you only have 1 set of pil to deal with. no siblings or siblings inlaw.


no wonder my dd (after reading some pages here) doesnt feel like marrying anymore.

Marrying an only child or only son will still have problems.
Even if you have both agreed not to have kids, you will constantly be bugged. The other case will be the parents wanting to bunk in with their only son. I heard of this man who is only son, his parents self-invited themselves to stay at his place. The mother did housework and cooked to make sure she is not staying there for free.

Isn't it sad that a mother has to work in her son's house so that she won't feel she is \"staying there for free\"? Wonder how many children did not \"stay in their parent's house for free\" when they are not yet independent. :siam:

[just888]

janet_lee88:

LOLMum:

maybe it is a good idea to marry an only child. at least you only have 1 set of pil to deal with. no siblings or siblings inlaw.


no wonder my dd (after reading some pages here) doesnt feel like marrying anymore.

Marrying an only child or only son will still have problems.
Even if you have both agreed not to have kids, you will constantly be bugged. The other case will be the parents wanting to bunk in with their only son. I heard of this man who is only son, his parents self-invited themselves to stay at his place. The mother did housework and cooked to make sure she is not staying there for free.

Some parents just wanna to go and stay with their kid, but then not asked to..hence they resort to \"working\" at their kids' place or make themselves useful hence the kid would not \"chase\" them away.

My mum is an example who likes to come over my place instead of visiting us start to complain about my housework skill not up to standard and then start cleaning. My hubby complain and ban her for coming if she going to here and clean. So hubby around she does not dare to touch any housework.

[janet88]

This old couple rented out their flat so that they don't ask son for allowance...moved their stuff to son's condo. Staying there, the mother did the housework but complained about the daughter-in-law's habits. :slapshead:

[Chenonceau]

My MIL also volunteered to do everything for me. It gave her a reason to exert control over me, mine and my household. First, I had to slowly edge her out of doing stuff for me. She didn’t like that and we had some tense moments. Then, I could tell her to stop trying to tell me what to do because I was doing it, and I wanted to do it my way. She did not like that either.


Accepting a MIL’s help is a 2-edged sword. I would rather stay away from it.